Boundaries and You
Boundaries can be physical or emotional, and they can range from being loose to rigid, with healthy boundaries often falling somewhere in between.
This leads to the question, ‘What do healthy boundaries look like?’ To help ourselves answer this important question, the following are a few discussion questions! We invite everyone to participate, with the motive of learning from one another's views.
Discussion questions:
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Values are the things that are most important to you. Ideally, your boundaries will reflect your values. For example, if you value family time, you might set strict boundaries at work. What are your most important values, and how do your boundaries reflect these values?
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What challenges have you faced when trying to set healthy boundaries, and how did you overcome them (or, how could you overcome them)?
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What have you noticed as repeated patterns that are perhaps not so ideal for your wellbeing and boundary setting? How can you flip these patterns from negative to positive? What tweaks do you need to make?
Your boundaries will shift (or grow) as you do over time! So it is important to reconnect with oneself, reflect upon ourselves, and redefine our boundaries to go with our values and priorities!
Looking forward to hearing everyone's responses to the discussion questions!
@Fristo How do we know when our need for boundaries is valid? If you express to your spouse that you need certain boundaries and they tell you that there's something wrong with you for needing those boundaries, how do you know that your feelings are not imagined or fabricated? And what should you do when your spouse disregards your request for several years?
There's often a struggle about recognising our boundaries, setting them, having them accepted and protecting our boundaries.
We have an great article about setting boundaries that might be an interesting read for some of you. Boundaries - Self-help guide
Hello
My most important values come from me growing up catholic. Treat people the way you want to be treated. There are somethings that you just don't do. Right is always right.
That would be that my values are not shared by everyone. I am working on allowing those who have different values to handle their own affairs.
Trying to help everyone, I have to let go and allow things to work out as they will.
Values are the things that are most important to you. Ideally, your boundaries will reflect your values. For example, if you value family time, you might set strict boundaries at work. What are your most important values, and how do your boundaries reflect these values?
boundaries should serve the values like family time , the priority of self-care , building trust, keep the respect, healthy communication
What challenges have you faced when trying to set healthy boundaries, and how did you overcome them (or, how could you overcome them)?
some challenges are missing the tools, the family members misunderstand the case, lack of knowledge