Trouble Making/Maintaining Friendships?
Anyone else having trouble making friends? I've never had a bunch of friends because I prefer having a few genuine friends rather than a bunch of superficial relationships. But lately, even some of my newer genuine connections have fizzled out. Like they lost interest. I feel like somethings wrong with me. I dunno I just feel like I'm gonna feel lonely forever. It usually takes me awhile to find people I actually connect with, so it really crushes me when I feel them losing interest or drifting away. I know the mature thing is to talk about it but...who wants to beg someone to be their friend?
It's like depression has sucked the life out of me and people are realizing I'm as empty as I feel...
Yeah I just feel like I have nothing to offer, and most of my friends are online so if I stay quiet for a long time, the connection just fades it feels like.
I do have someone I text with every day. Sometimes just a good morning, and we go our own ways. But other times we talk throughout the whole day. It really does make me feel a lot less lonely, knowing there's always this one person I can turn to
I hope you can find someone like that too, so you won't feel like your worth is just a sum of interesting/good things and boring/bad things. But that you have worth just for being you, even when you're feeling your worst. 🙂
@Courtney26
I get what you are saying. I
@crimsonBirch6214 It's great that you're making an effort to reach out. I have a hard time with the busy thing because I really believe anyone can make time for you if they really want to. Even if it's just a 5-10 min phone call. I feel really unimportant when someone makes it seem like they can't, especially when I make the commitment to be as accommodating and as flexible as possible. I actually broke off a friendship last year because of this. I'm the kind of friend who'd be willing to help you do chores at your place if that's all the time you had to chat. Again, some of these experiences are so crushing because most of the time, you already have a negative view of yourself and then it just feels like it's being validated when someone makes you feel worthless.
I haven't see a point in having any. They just take, manipulate and make fun of. People get weird though if you exlpane it to them. All it is is a diminutiv return. I don't have anything to offer anyone besides to do manual labor and be the butt of jokes. 1 out of 10 do not recommend.
@Courtney26 I totally understand you, especially the begging part... Sometimes I think it's too late to make new friends because groups are made and they are closed, like no one is allowed. Adult people don't want new friends because they have partners and that's all they care about... And the friends they have are the ones thhey have from forever or even other couples... I usually think it is my fault, like there is something weird in me or maybe my choices got me here and it is too lalte to go back.
@Courtney26 that stinks, I hope you can get really good loyal friends and I get what you're going through because I've been through it too. I don't think you did anything wrong I just think your friends were using you
I feel so alone. Maybe it's my depression, my anxiety causing me to overthink. My 'friends', the ones supposed to support me and be there for me instead tear me down and I feel like I'm being pushed over the edge. I'm hurting inside maybe I have other issues that im not recognizing but all I feel is pain anymore.