toxic family members
Hi, so I have a relative that is super passive aggressive. Living around her will literally brainwash you into feeling like you are inferior, a failure, unloved, etc. I had to move in because of the loss of some of my immediate family members. I had hope she would become like a mother to me... unfortunately that wasn't the case at all.
Instead.. it became more of a competitive relationship if anything. Living there, I couldn't openly like music or food that I liked without getting bullied. If I did something like artwork it sucked. If her or her family did then it's Amazing.
basically she thrives in my suffering. It's really disappointing because I want to emotionally cut her off, but deep down I can't. I feel like that side of the family wishes I had died instead of my immediate family member...
I used to swear i'd never take medication. that was until she started trying to mess with my relationship. Her husband said that my boyfriend was going to stop sending flowers every month once he gets in my pants. (Not the case) He is now my husband. She would get in my head and I would say things that are hurtful.. to my now husband
She would open my mail, read my journal and ask questions about things I had written. Just overall invasion of privacy.
Basically, I visited her recently, and i'm regretting it now and she's still in my mind picking at me
@GreenScarab wow the way that your relative treats you sounds unacceptable! You don't deserve any of it. And on top of that, you're grieving the loss of an immediate family member. I can't imagine what you're going through but it sounds like there's a lot going on in your life that can really be bad for your mental health.
I can understand the feeling of resenting a family member but at the same time not being able to cut them out of your life, and wanting acceptance and love from them but being denied that. Unfortunately, in a lot of situations we're stuck with people who we can't change. I don't know much about your situation but on the bright side, perhaps you can move out soon and maybe stay with your husband, who values you and (by the looks of it) treats you well. Sending lots of love. It'll be rough, but you can get through this!
@anjellyna
Thank you so much for taking the time to respond!!! It's nice to know that i'm not the only one seeing them this way. You're right though, we are definitely stuck with family and cutting them out is super difficult for sure. Thank you!! Luckily I did move out and I live happily now with my husband miles away from there, I did visit them recently though and i'm still mindblown at how unacceptable the things they say/do are!!!
lots of love and wishes your way as well!!! Appreciate you! =)
