What is the worst thing anyone has ever said to you?
What other people say and think about us affects us a lot. What is the worst thing anyone has ever said to you that had left you with extreme sadness and low self esteem?
The worst thing said to me was that i fail at life. I've had a lot of things said to me because of my depression but i usually brushed them off. For some reason this particualr thing stuck with me and I've been mulling over it for months now, feeling like I'm slowly descending into madness from having one existential crisis after the other.
I am actually terrified of what may happen
@TemporaryPurpose91 I'm so sorry to hear that someone did say that to you, and I'm pretty sure it's not true. As long as you're trying in life, you're not failing it! Just a thought though, what would you define as failing at life?
@OmNomMeep I suppose it's just my introverted nature and that I haven't yet achieved the things they have in life that they consider basic (still can't drive a car). But at the same time I'm trying to get there only with each passing day it seems like I'm going one step forward and two back
@TemporaryPurpose91 Well, about the car thing specifically, I know several people who don't know how to drive but they're amazing people! What some people define as "basic" doesn't actually show what a person is worth or whether they're succeeding at life! Failure or success is arbitrary, and depends on whatever you personally want out of life, not whatever is considered "normal" or "common" skills! You do what you want, and you will be amazing! And even if it does seem like two steps back every time you take one step, oneday that one step will be so big that even when you do take two steps back, you'll be a world away from where you were before 
. You can do it!
@TemporaryPurpose91 After hearing that do you noe look at everything you do and feel that you've failed or didn't do it well enough?
Personally for me, at least when I feel I've failed at something I tend to make ecery little thing an "I failed" joke. And I start to realize all of the things I'm doing right. For example I wake up early before going to work and I say "Well I failed at waking up late today! F me right?!" Once you start bringing to light everything you're doing right or better you'll feel better.
@devu2001 When in a group chat discussing a "hypothetical" situation, one of my closest friends said if she found out one of us were suicidal or self harming she would try to stop us, but only because of her moral code to stop those kinds of things, not because she cares.
Even though I know she doesn't actually feel that way and was angry and the time, it still hurt since it implied that she didn't care about us.
@OmNomMeep but you know that she does care. So is it the fact that she lied to the group more than the words she said?
@Julietlovesu415 Just the fact that it was something/ still something that I struggle with and the fear that noone does really care/ would notice if I was gone. While I know she didn't mean it, when it's something you're struggling with it hurts ehe.
Oh god, there's a long list of the worst things ever said to me, but the worst one recently (in the past couple of weeks) was "I like your small butt". I have never in my life been told I have a small butt, I have always gotten a lot of attention of having a big butt. And then the person topped it off with "I can't believe your butt isn't more boney with how skinny you are". My response was "well my ass and my thighs are where ALL of my fat is...soooo..". In general this guy makes extremely rude comments but that one got to me the most.
@devu2001
I think it would probably be something about not leaving me by quite a few people over the years. Just don't see why people say shit like that and run off when they like. It feels great when they say it before but when they break their promises, it's easily one of the worst things someone can say to you.
@davin67
I hear you. I don't let too many people into my life, let alone my heart. When someone breaks their promise of "always being there, to never give me up" and then does, it's more damaging then they can realize. I've gotten use to it now, but that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt. I'd rather be alone today though, I'll stay on the safe side now.
I hope you find your happiness and someone that deserves your trust. 
That I was a pathetic loser, not a real man, and I didn't deserve someone like her.
@jrmac1288 - I am so sorry that you had to hear those words uttered from someone's mouth. They must have been important to you, in irder to hurt you so much. Everyone deserves to be loved and we all have value. I think Einstein said it best,... "Everyone is a genius, but if you judge a fish based on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its while life believing that it is stupid."
After my father died, I was told by my uncle that I never loved my father when he was alive.
@devu2001
I forgot most of it... but someone lately saed is tired of me... just person saed is tired... I felt hurt. Thought haven't understood all situation so don't blame but still angry..
"You're a pathetic excuse for a life! Why don't you just go kill yourself? Maybe cyanide or just slitting the artery in your neck would be easiest"
Those words will haunt me until the day I die...
@kathryna314
The worst thing that has ever been said to me was when a my horse riding teachers son said "You're so dfat, I doubt you'll be able to pass your horse riding test with such a big belly." and his mum, my riding teacher, said "yeah you're really fat, You should starve yourself so that you're thin enough to ride."
It really hurt me. I passed my horse riding test though.
@reservedPark9834
That's really messed up and disgusting for them to say that to you, especially to a minor. I hope you reported those comments to someone higher up in charge. Either way, I'm sorry they said that to you.
In my early teens I identified more with boys than girls because of all of the nonsensical restrictions my parents tried to place on me because I had to be "ladylike." My Dad was not home most of the time and when he was he would shut himself in his room. My mom was chronically ill so I took on the roll as the second parent to my siblings, which furthered my identification with the opposite gender to mine. One night I was eating a piece of my leftover birthday cake and my Mom began to give a tongue lashing to my little sister who was five at the time. She was making her cry so I spoke up as the "second parent" and told her there was a better way for her to speak to a child. She looked at me, her face was all sullen she said "oh you're one to give me advice on anything. You can't tell me how to be a parent. You don't even know how to be a girl"
what she said was filled with so much resentment against me. You don't even know how to be a girl. That phrase moved me to instantly drop my fork and go lock myself in the bathroom where I self harmed for the first time. I was ten years old. I've never told anyone about this moment.
@Sunhands I identified as a boy as well because my family wanted me to be more girly, I'm still that way.
I'm sorry you went through that, I can't imagine the years after were any easier. Are you doing better these days?
@Julietlovesu415
yes, better these days indeed!
As I grew I followed a few role models who were "real women" as opposed to the other mannequins manufactored by societal shame and tradition. I have found a nice balance between existing as a women and not allowing that to set limitations on who I am as a human or as a soul. I tend to cause a lot of upheaval in my household as I am still challenging many of the wrong mind sets that are still upheald about women. My philosophy is "if it doesn't make sense, I'm not conforming to it" radical, right?
Being lied to about what it means to be a girl is incredibly harmful isn't it? I'm sorry you had to fight those limits as well. Keep being awesome the way that you are my friend!