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Tired of living with someone who doesn't care about me

pluckyFarm5111 December 27th, 2017

Life seems like series of offenses. Even the minor things like someone making me listen to comedy shows all day. I hate comedy acts because they are noisy and vulgar and most of the jokes are stupid and she has them on so loud that I can't ever relax. the narcissist I live with even explains the jokes to me as if I don't understand basic speech. And she bugs me if I go to my room for peace and quiet. if I'm listening to music or watching TV, she changes the program as soon as she enters the room. And those are the good days when she's not swearing and throwing things. I hate my family.

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Booklover95 December 27th, 2017

@pluckyFarm5111

Not trying to be rude but you know introverts , specially introverts and depressed people, tend to think "oh why can't that person understand how I feel /think?! So annoying!". Thing is people... can't read minds. Maybe that person likes you around and is trying to share something, that in their eyes is super positive and happy, and they have no clue how you truly feel about it. They think they're doing a wonderfull thing to see you smile. So if you hate it just be straight forward and say "sorry not my cup of tea".

Because I mean at least what you described here is not narcissistic at all, is someone wanting to cheer up other person.

Is fine you not liking it but express that so the other person knows!

Also try to find common hobbies? Or interests? Also try to sit down and establish boundaries with that person, say what you like and don't like and ask them the exact same. Living together is hard and you both need a grasp of limits in my opinion.

Best of luck!

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pluckyFarm5111 OP December 28th, 2017

@Booklover95 Thank you for your input. The TV thing is just a small part of the problem. this relative is actually a long time bully and I was stupid enough to get into a lease agreement with her when I couldn't afford my own place. She doesn't care a bit how I feel.

Today I asked if we could watch something else and she all banging things and swearing. It's just a demoralizing situation. A selfish person who can't consider anyone else because the parents spoiled her. She even bangs on my wall and yells when I'm sick and trying to sleep so I stay sock for ages. I don't think anyone can imagine the insane things she does all the time (like slamming me into the kitchen counter because she needs to reach something behind me).

The awful TV shows just gets to me because it's part of a much bigger problem. sorry to be so negative. I come here when I'm really frustrated.

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Booklover95 December 28th, 2017

@pluckyFarm5111

Some people are truly selfish , and spoiled like you said. Do you have any way to work and save money to move? Because that doesn't look healthy at all. If you suffer from depression or other mental issues can be really dismotivating , and is understandable.

I really wish you the best, sending you good vibesheart

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hardworkingZebra5810 December 29th, 2017

I'm living with a horrible family member too and it's really taking a toll on my mental health. I can't handle all the shouting and swearing every day. So i can understand how you feel. I don't have a solution but we just have to keep pushing through it. Hopefully I can move out one day and never have to deal with it again.

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