The harder I try to move on...
I'm really depressed lately. I'm worn out. 2 years ago my ex boyfriend conned me, stole all my money, betrayed, heartbroken etc.
I found a great therapist, but she retired on me, so I don't have my sounding board like I used to, even though I have my friends. Recently I found out my ex signed up bills in my name because the creditors are coming after me. All of the healing I did, feels like it's gone. I'm anxious and nervous now, I get calls every day trying to collect on a bill that I didn't sign up for. This is 2 months after I called my trustee for bankruptcy and they said they got it sorted out. I want it gone, everyone is giving me the run around, and today I got another trustee saying all the actions I have to take to get rid of this collections agency.
I'm done. I feel done. My weight has gone crazy, my mood sucks, and I just want to crawl into bed and stay there until life gets better, which I know is irrational, but it's just how I feel.
I'm really sorry to hear that.
I hope things will get better for you and start moving in the direction that you want.
Thank you so much. Today is a better day, so one can hope, and that's a big part of the battle.
Maybe try to find a hobby like i don't know painting or dancing and exercise at least every morning it'll help you feel better and maybe you can go for a run in the afternoon, your body releases 'the happy hormones' after/during a run. And you'll feel like you're actually doing something for your body and yourself and i know you probably don't want to go for a run and/or work out but hey, give it a try. It helped me, for an example.
And i'm sorry if i did not help you, i know it wouldn't solve all the problems you have, but positive thinking is the first step. :)
@persassyforever. Thank you! That's what I work on doing, I go to yoga a lot, or go for walks. I need to do more of it, but I'm hoping the vacation I'm going on soon, back home with my family and where I grew up will help me 'reset' a bit and reinvigorate my positivity to give me the boose I need. I really appreciate your opinions :)
Boopie, I'm so sorry your bf has left you in an awful mess, and he ks very wrong for doing that. But right now you have to focus on yourself, that's what's important okay! First of all, the creditors will work with you any your finances, as long as you are able to pay a small amount back regularly there's no much else they can do about that. You need to build your confidence up, and by doing this you will feel much better! I totally agree with what yournewlight and what he said about small steps, achievable goals which you can meet is going to work wonders with your self confidence. I would be more than happy to discuss options with you if you would like to message me. But please do not let your ex take any more from you! He has already taken to much from you. Take care and I hope you find you way x
@professionalPerspective60. I agree that I have to focus on myself, It's something that I have always struggled with, but I'm very slowly getting there.I think that's part of the issue that frustrates me so much. It's almost 2 full years since he did what he did, and I had mourned the loss of trust, and betrayal and all that, and was making great progress! It wasn't until that collections agency came out of the woodwork that it sat me back on my heels again. But, I have to trust that my bankruptcy trustee has done what they have been paid to do, and ignore the phone calls from that collections agency. I've been told it's been settled between the creditor and the trustee, where I don't have to pay because it's rolled into the bankruptcy, but I had to 'own' it, even though it wasn't my name orbirthdate. That's I think what throws me off, because I keep wondering "What else did he do? What other things will come up in the future?", but if I think like that, it'll drive me to the brink, so I can't do it. My trust has beencompletely broken so many times,and even though it's healing a bit, itsnot quite there yet.I'll send you a message to chat because I need the help. Thank you so, so much.
I'll look forward to receiving your message boopie ☺ and we can work together to find some solutions to address your confidence. You have already made a very big move posting your story here, you must of been pretty confident to do that hey ! So well done for that. Speak soon, until then, take care x
I am sorry to hearthat you are having a bad time.Depression is a serious issue, and it needs to be treated. You will not be able to cope with this by yourself. There are some tips I read from a website, and these tips may be useful for you. Some of them are:
Simplify your life and set reasonable goals for yourself
Write in a journal to vent your feelings and thoughts
Read reputable self-help books and websites like http://www.helpguide.org/home-pages/depression.htm
Locate helpful organizations. The National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) and the Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance (DBSA), offer education, support groups, counseling and other resources to help with depression.
Don't become isolated and try to participate in social activities, and get together with family or friends regularly.
Take care of yourself
Learn ways to relax and manage your stress
Structure your time and look for the support of some good friends
