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My name is Kyle!

I'm currently not taking chats due to a lot going on with school and personal betterment.



I have been helping people personally and just listening to them for about 3 years now, I am 18 years old. I show support to those who feel as if they have nobody there for them and for anyone who needs someone to talk to. I've made it my self-proclaimed duty to help/listen to as many people in any way that I can. I've overcome self-harm, cut down on my depression and on my anxiety (both social and general), I'm much more social than I used to be, I've improved my self-esteem, my mind is a lot more clear than it used to be. I've learned to be myself despite being put down by others. I would like to help anyone I can do the same as I did. I truly believe that here is always hope for anyone. I wish everyone the best in life and I hope to see everyone improve.

To members/guests

My areas of knowledge:

-Anxiety

-Panic attacks

-Self-harm

-Depression

-Sleeping well

-Managing emotions

To listeners:



- Member of the peer support program, feel free to message me after a hard chat.

- I am a group moderator, if you need someone in a group chat please message me.

- If you do have any questions at all for me, feel free to message me. Other information about me

I'm a graduated high school student C/O 2015, I'm searching for a summer job and I'm currently enrolling in a community college, I'm unsure of what I want to do in life, but I'm sure I will figure it out.
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Massive List of Anxiety Resources
Anxiety Support / by KfindingSpeaceK
Last post
 June 9th, 2016
...See more DISTRACTIONS----- SLEEP ASSISTANCE----- ANTI-PANIC ATTACK----- ANTI-ANXIETY ----- CALMING ----- RESOURCE AND INFORMATION LIST Note: I have checked out and used every single one of these websites and apps on my personal devices. Also, not all the apps will be available on all platforms. If you need help finding an alternative app for your specific device, please message me. ----------------------Meditation/relaxation/anti-panic/anti-anxiety websites---------------------- You can use http://www.calm.com for guided meditations 2-20 minutes with ambient music and calming scenery. Very good for bisensory relaxation. (There is a free app available) Enjoy looking at nature without all the fancy ambient music? Visit http://relax.li/ put in full screen by clicking the rectangle with 4 arrows near the bottom left corner of the website. You can also use http://www.omvana.com for guided meditations (sign up required.) You can mix and match free ambient music tracks with free vocal guided meditations. You can upgrade ($7.99 per month) to receive access to more vocal and ambient tracks, there are many available for free, though. (There is a free app available) If you find the sound of rain and thunder soothing you can visit http://www.rainymood.com and this website will act as a rainstorm right on your computer. It sounds great with any kind music you play or you can just focus on the sounds of the rain and thunder. (App available for $0.99, website is free) Alternative free app: Relax Rain - Nature Sounds by Mikdroid In addition to using Rainymood, if you find watching light rain collect on windows relaxing this website will be great for you https://maroslaw.github.io/rainyday.js/demo012_3.html (no app available) If you find comfort in ambient coffee shop murmur, this is the perfect site for you. It sounds exactly like being in a coffee shop. Note: It sounds better with headphones. https://coffitivity.com/ (There is a free app available.) If you enjoy beautiful HD nature scenes Im sure you will love this website. Put it in full screen, set it to HD. Relax. Note: You may notice an add to cart when trying to look at other videos, scroll past this and the video will be right below. http://www.naturerelaxation.com/ (No app available) For creating a mixture of preset sounds ranging all over the place from nature sounds to Christmas music use this website http://naturesoundsfor.me/ (There is an app available for $0.99) For ocean sounds and a moment away from the stress of everything sit back for 2 minutes and do absolutely nothing. http://www.donothingfor2minutes.com (No app available) A very unique guided meditation website that I can't describe with words http://relaxinfinity.com/ (no app available) For brown noise, pink noise, and white noise check out http://simplynoise.com (No app available, but you can find many apps for the same thing just search "Brown noise", "Pink noise", or "White noise") ----------------------Meditation/relaxation/anti-panic/anti-anxiety apps ---------------------- "Relax M Meditation: Sleep Yoga" Creator: Ipnos Software If you enjoy the styles of Asian music this app will help relax you. This app is free with an available upgrade to unlock more sounds NOTE: The free version does not allow you to use other apps while the sounds are playing, however you can put your phone to sleep and it will still play. "Relax Melodies: Sleep & Yoga" Creator: Ipnos Software Similar to Relax M Meditation, but completely different sounds. I own the pro version of this app and let me tell you, it is fantastic. There are so many different sound combinations you can make and the app has isochronic and binaural tones for meditation and deep sleep as well. With the pro version you can use other apps while the sounds play. NOTE: The free version does not allow you to use other apps while the sounds are playing, however you can put your phone to sleep and it will still play. "Mindshift" Creator: Creative B'stro An app designed to help people relieve all kinds of anxiety. Allows you to log feelings of anxiousness during situations, includes different relaxation exercises, visualizations, and mindfulness strategies. There is much more in this app and can be extremely helpful. "Binaural Beats Therapy" Creator: Giorgio Regni If you don't know what binaural beats are or what they do, read here: http://www.omharmonics.com/blog/how-to-use-binaural-beats/ they can aid in sleep, meditation, concentration, and more. "Breathe2Relax" Creator: T2 A fantastic app designed for breathing exercises that result in stress/anxiety-relief "My Chakra Meditation 2" Creator: Mobureau If you are a strong believer in rejuvenating your 7 Chakra points then this app is meant for you. "Insight Timer Meditation Timer" Creator: Insight Network Inc This app provides over 200+ guided meditations for all different kinds of things. "Relax Forest - Nature Sounds" Creator: Mikdroid I discovered this app earlier today and I absolutely fell in love with it, it has many different beautiful scenes and wonderful forest water and nature sounds. "Relax Rain - Nature Sounds" Creator: Mikdroid Another fantastic app featuring many different kinds of rain/storm sounds. "Self-help Anxiety Management" Creator: University of the west of England Wonderful app for assisting in the management of anxiety and panic attacks. It has many different exercises and forms of relief. There are also ways to track your anxiety. "The Worry Box" Creator: Excel At Life A wonderful way to lock away your worries and manage your anxiety. "What's Up?" Creator: Full of all kinds of anti-anxiety and anti-panic attack resources and tracking resources. Has uplifting quotes and many other things. Distractions and diversions Distracting websites: This website will send you to a random useless website every time you click "Please" it can be a great way to waste time, discover interesting websites, and get a few laughs. http://www.theuselessweb.com Do you enjoy reading funny texts? Try reading this hilarious email conversations http://dontevenreply.com/ A website for your artistic side, create a calming and amazingly beautiful symmetrical art pieces http://weavesilk.com/ (app available for $2.99) Alternative free app: Silk paint by i20.biz A drawing website similar to Weavesilk but just as fun, http://www.escapemotions.com/experiments/flame/ (no app available) If you feel like you need a hug then this is the place for you http://thenicestplaceontheinter.net/ If you enjoy creative and fun pointless online gaming then this is the website for you http://manyland.com/ (no app available) Another website for your creative side, draw using absolutely wild utensils provided on the site http://bomomo.com/ (No app available) Do you enjoy writing, but never know what to write about? Use this website to generate a random prompt http://www.ineedaprompt.com/ T website will allow you to easily create awesome songs using beatboxing presets, its very fun and I would recommend it to everyone http://www.incredibox.com/ A simple funny game that can give a couple laughs and distract you for a while. http://www.findtheinvisiblecow.com/ (free app available) -----------------------------------------Distracting apps----------------------------------------- "Find the Invisible Cow" Creator: Edward Moyse One of the stupidest and most entertaining games I have ever played. Great distraction and time waster. "Let's Create! Pottery Lite" Creator: Infinite Dreams A game that lets you unleash your creativity while you sculpt, fire, and paint pottery. "Magic Doodle" Creator: Doodle Joy Studio An app similar to Silkweave, beautiful symmetrical drawing with bright colors. Very soothing to play around with and create art. "Fluid Monkey" Creator: Buzz Monkey Software, LLC A calming art app that allows you to play with seemingly colored water. Hard to explain, you'd have to try it yourself. "500px" Creator:500px Find comfort in looking at beautifully taken pictures of all different kinds. (Social media: Sign up is required) "Jigsaw Puzzles Epic" Creator: Kristanix Games If you enjoy puzzles and find them calming this app has so countless puzzles for you to complete. Duet Creator: Kumobius A simple, fun, and distracting game to help get your mind off of things. BeyondPod Podcast Manager Creator: BeyondPod Team This is an app (that my mom showed me lol) where you can find large amounts of podcasts to listen/watch based on your personal interests. This can be an extremely way to indulge yourself in what you enjoy and help distract yourself. Self-help guides and information for anxiety: http://psychcentral.com/lib/top-10-lesser-known-self-help-strategies-for-anxiety/ http://www.moodjuice.scot.nhs.uk/anxiety.asp http://www.get.gg/anxiety.htm http://www.anxietycoach.com/ Self-help guides and information for panic attacks: http://www.anxietybc.com/sites/default/files/adult_hmpanic.pdf http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Panic-disorder/Pages/self%20help.aspx http://www.anxieties.com/panic.php#.Vb6SzflViko http://www.moodjuice.scot.nhs.uk/panic.asp Self-help guides and information for insomnia http://www.helpguide.org/articles/sleep/cant-sleep-insomnia-treatment.htm http://www.uhs.berkeley.edu/home/healthtopics/PDF%20Handouts/Insomnia.pdf http://www.moodjuice.scot.nhs.uk/sleepproblems.asp http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/insomnia/Pages/treatment.aspx Tip from personal experience: Your phone and computers brightness can mess up sleep schedules because your brain perceives the light as sunlight. You can turn your brightness down all the way during the night and can be darkened even further if you download Twilight – Urbandroid Team
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Anxiety Success
Anxiety Support / by KfindingSpeaceK
Last post
 August 4th, 2015
...See more Post in this thread about any time you've overcome your fears even just for a moment to do something! Post something you're proud of. I've always had a extreme social fear of phone calls and I've been working on it lately. I just survived my first full phone conversation with a stranger with nearly no anxiety.
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Social Anxiety Exercises
Anxiety Support / by KfindingSpeaceK
Last post
 August 26th, 2015
...See more                      ---Recognizing unrealistic thinking--- Sufferers of social anxiety tend to overestimate the degree of danger in a situation causing them to have unrealistic and/or irrational thoughts. It's important that you are able to recognize these thoughts and replace them with more rational and realistic thoughts. Examples of unrealistic/irrational thoughts:  "No one will like me!" "I'm going to say something stupid!" "I'll do something foolish and other people will laugh!" Exercise #1 for recognizing unrealistic thinking: Ask yourself what it is that you are afraid will happen, it may be something you're afraid you might do (e.g "I'll embarrass myself", "I'll have nothing to say", "I'll blush.") or something you're afraid someone else will do/think (e.g "Nobody will like me", "what if someone notices that I'm anxious.") To become more aware of these specific fears, compile them into a list (digital or written) as you identify them. Repeat this exercise for about a week or so (or longer if you wish.) Exercise #2 for recognizing unrealistic thinking: Question yourself about your unrealistic thoughts. It can be helpful to ask yourself whether your thoughts are based on facts and whether they are helpful. If they aren’t, try and identify more accurate and helpful thoughts. Examples of questions to ask yourself to help examine thoughts:  Am I 100% sure that _____________ will happen? How many times has ______________ actually happened?  What is the evidence that supports my thought? What is the evidence that does not support my thought? Is _______________ really SO important that my whole future depends on it? Does _________________’s opinion reflect everyone else’s? Am I responsible for the entire conversation?  What is the worst realistic thing that could happen?  What can I do to cope/handle this situation?  What is another way of looking at this situation?  What would I say to my best friend if he/she was having this thought?  (Look in the posts to this thread for examples of these filled out.) Exercise #3 for recognizing unrealistic thinking: Sometimes it can be helpful to examine the truthfulness of your thoughts or beliefs. For example, how bad would it be if others saw you blush/shake, or how terrible would it be if you did say something stupid? We often predict that it would be horrible if these things happened, and that we would be unable to cope. However, we need to test this out! Purposely try to shake, and see how others react. Plan to say something foolish or ask an obvious question and see what happens! Be careful not to assume that others are reacting negatively – look at the facts! What did they do or say? Was it as bad as you thought?
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Anti-anxiety/panic attack techniques
Anxiety Support / by KfindingSpeaceK
Last post
 August 27th, 2018
...See more Tip to help with an anxiety attack: - Look around you. - Find 5 things you can see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell and 1 thing you can taste. This is called grounding. It can help when you feel like you have lost all control of your surroundings. Alternate: Find 5 things of different colors, name their five colors. Like: Brown chair, white table, green couch, red walls, blue box. Brown, white, green, red, blue. Repeat them in your head or say it out loud if you prefer. There's also the option to sit on the edge of a chair (or any stable surface), then you put your hands on your knees while keeping your back straight. This will forces you to keep keep your balance, and feel more grounded to the world around you. At the same time, find the five colors and repeat it in your head. Feel free to share any tips that you have as well!
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How I Heard About 7Cups
Newbie Hub / by KfindingSpeaceK
Last post
 May 24th, 2016
...See more I'm in a Psychology group on Facebook and I saw someone mention a website called 7cups, so I came to check it out. I was very pleased with what I found. I was even more happy when I found out I could train to be a listener for me to help people. 
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Such a wise listener, gives u the chance to say everything on ur mind, and helps u through every step! :)
Very professional, not pitying, asking good questions, and calm
She is a great listener..
It really helps to vent out your worries.
I was having a hard time figuring out how to navigate 7cups but KfindingSpeaceK found me and told me how to get 1-on-1 help. He was a very empathetic listener, and he helped me really get to the core of my issues. I had a great experience talking with this listener :)
Very helpful to me. Took my confusing questions and assured me that my ideas and thoughts were heard and explained to me how to help myself get through the tough spots in life.
The best listener I have encountered by far. thank you!
just an awesome listener. I had so much fun.
You give really sound, down-to-earth advice. Intelligent and calming! I can see the world unfold a little brighter when talking to you. You put things into right perspective!
Really great guy to talk to. I just needed to talk through my thoughts and he patiently waited as I talked. He's young, but talks very maturely for 18. Incredible empathy for an 18 y/o. I wish him the best!
i'll admit i was shocked to see how young this listener is when looking at his/her profile; however, this person has a natural sense of empathy & gift for reflective/active listening that many can learn from & be helped by
I found KfindingSpeaceK helpful because she helped understand the situation that I was in and helped me find the answer to the situation,
Really great guy ... Amazing help ... Just awesome!!!
Amazing amazing listener :) An extreme privilege to get to know him. Made me feel so much better about myself.
It was nice talking to you. Hope to get to talk to you soon. :) All the best for helping more people.
talking helped me so much, havent met a nicer listen, even checked up on me in a few days which meant the world to me because i needed it
Very sweet person and kind to talk with
Kind, sweet and helpful
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This listener is a really amazing helper
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