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Weekly Prompt #41: How do you perceive your own resilience and ability to cope with challenges?
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 5 hours ago
...See more Hello all, I hope you are all being easy on yourself this week. A few weeks ago we discussed: How does your depression affect your ability to care about and take care of others? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/depression/General_2427/WeeklyPrompt40Howdoesyourdepressionaffectyourabilitytocareaboutandtakecareofothers_336335/] Thank you to all who participated and shared their thoughts and questions for discussion. They were thought-provoking questions and thoughts. I hope you all did too. If you didn't share yours, please share them here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/depression/General_2427/WeeklyPrompt40Howdoesyourdepressionaffectyourabilitytocareaboutandtakecareofothers_336335/] and I look forward to reading and discussing them with you This week's prompt: How do you perceive your resilience and ability to cope with challenges? To perceive your resilience and ability to cope with challenges, you can reflect on your past experiences, identify your strengths, ways to embrace a positive mindset etc. Let's get started and share your thoughts with us. I look forward to hearing all your thoughts and ideas.  Join us in the 24/7 Depression Support Group Chat [https://www.7cups.com/connect/groupChatrooms.php]
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Your Poem...
by EmmaE
Last post
 January 13th
...See more Hi everyone, I came across this poem prompt and thought I'd share it here if anyone would like to try! ------------------------- My Poem (Title) My name is (name). Today I feel like a/an (adjective) (noun) (verb)ing in the (noun). Sometimes I am a/an (noun) Sometimes I am a/an (noun) But always I am (adjective). I ask the world, "(question)?" And the answer is a/an (repeat your words from line 2). ------------------------- If you’d like to join the depression support team, please check out THIS POST [https://www.7cups.com/forum/7CupsLeadership_188/SubcommunityHelpWanted_2306/HelpWantedDepressionSupport2023_295219/] for more information. To join our tag list and receive notifications, click HERE [https://www.7cups.com/forum/DepressionSupportCommunity_52/DepressionSupportLeadershipTeam_404/NEWautomateddepressionsupporttaglist_274831/].
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You can keep going 💙
by LoveMyMoonflowers
Last post
 November 22nd, 2024
...See more Hey everyone (: I hope your all doing okie 💙 and if your not (': we *do* care about you and we would really love to be there for you whenever you need us. 💜 I really hope you know that you don’t have to do this alone, buddy.  i don’t know what your going through right now, exactly. i don’t know how you feel (': but i’d like to remind you that it *is* okay to *feel* 💙 and it’s okay to take your time when figuring things out. it may be hard to explain how your feeling as well and i get that. 💜 (it’s important to take some time for yourself also 🥰 please do try being kind to yourself 🥺)  and some days… it just feels like too much, doesn’t it? we feel like we can’t take it anymore, we can’t go on anymore. Things just get too overwhelming, life just gets too hard… and hope seems like a distant dream. i know i’ve felt this way many times (': i think many of you might be able to relate 💙 but honestly, i need to remind you that there *is* hope, and you really can keep going. your never ever alone 💜 and you’ve never been truly alone.  And even though you might have never seen it, you are strong. stronger than you think you are. You’ve come *this* far and I am so so proud of you. i know it hasn’t been easy. i’m so proud of you. 💙 i’m sending so so so much love your way 💜 you deserve it, you really do 🥺 we love you, we care about you *always* and yes, there *is* hope for you. 💙 i promise.  🌙 Ni 🌸 @HealingTalk 
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My 7 Cups Dream Journal
by integrityblues
Last post
 6 hours ago
...See more Entry 1: The Boxes of Cats It was a little strange but what I remember most is visiting a house that was in my old neighborhood that I’d recently moved from (it really wasn’t, so dream logic) but I came back to collect something I left or my mother left. It was very sad and the people who were there now were sort of okay with me wandering around and looking. I kept noticing the signs that I’d once lived there (painted over places that still revealed chipped paint and stuff I recognized from my apartment). Then I looked beneath a couch or table and found boxes full of kittens. Two boxes were full of meowing kittens in water that the new home owners had no idea were there, and one more box held a very dead cat that was an older one from a previous litter. All of the kittens were starving without their mother and I knew that it was the reason why the older one passed. The new owners suddenly smelled the dead cat and I took it upon myself to get rid of it. When I came back an hour later all of the kittens were gone, and when I was walking past another house I could see all the kittens. They’d all grown up into adult cats!
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Pmdd
by placidGrapes8613
Last post
 January 12th
...See more I suffer from pmdd. Some of the symptoms of pmdd are deppression, illogical thinking, suicidal ideaology. I have a lot of great treatments for pmdd. I have so much stress that nothing works. I have a pit in my stomach. Iam on day two of St. Johns wart.
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Depressed Fellow.
by EmpathyS
Last post
 January 12th
...See more i m just so depressed i rarely feel hsppy i feel tired of this world tired seeing people justifying violence, hatred, harrasements, bullying and other forms of inhumane stufffs i wonder if even good people exists or its just the fear of law that stop tghem from doing bad.. that is selfish and not truly being good i m soo tired of this world
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wut
by sunnyangel3333
Last post
 January 12th
...See more I've been waking up and feeling monstrously depressed for about 2 weeks, but recently someones come into my life that's there when i wake up in the morning, and they make me feel so happy I'm so scared of loosing them, but i don't want it to get in the way of me being close to them. we make each other smile and support each other, and i have not felt this much towards another person in a very long time. waking up is so hard, but having them there has been making it easier. its really funny, cos they're the sort of person i've been waiting for... 
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blockage
by affableStrings4654
Last post
 January 11th
...See more So I'm an artist. I draw and paint, mostly. I have been doing digital art more often recently, but i do have a day job and lots of adult responsibilities. I also have depression. It's making it extremely difficult to finish pieces of art. I have a goal of trying to do one digital painting a month, and I"m always struggling to meet it. It used to be really easy for me to create things when i was younger. I got to spend a lot of mental energy on my art. I think part of the reason i struggle with it nowadays is that i am too critical of my own work. i am afraid of messing up or having my art look weird. perfectionism leads to avoidance. i don't know. it doesn't feel good. I want to be back to making things without the pressure that i put on myself. but I also don't know how to stop.
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You don't necessarily need to understand, you just have to be present.
by MarianaFilipaSouza6
Last post
 January 9th
...See more "I hope you never know what its like to wake up and wish you hadnt. Not because youre tired and you want another few minutes of sleep; not because youre hungover; not because its Monday and you dont want to go to work. I mean you wake up, and you realize tomorrow came — and its not a good feeling. I mean you wake up and you open your eyes, only to close them right away and silently keep yourself away from it all. I mean you wake up and you are disappointed that you didnt, by some miracle, die in your sleep. Quite simply, I mean waking up is just a reminder that you havent escaped your life yet. Youre still here. And I hope you never understand what its like to wish you werent here. I hope you never understand what its like to be unable to get out of bed. Not physically — because physically, you are capable. Your legs work. Your heart is beating. But I hope you never understand what its like to be unable to move simply because your thoughts are crippling you. I hope you never understand what its like to be held in place, stuck there, battling with yourself within your own mind. Swing that leg out and touch the floor. Take a step. Get out of the bed. I hope you never understand what its like to forget what happiness feels like. I hope you never feel like theres no way out of your sadness. I hope you never get overcome by numbness. I hope you never experience that feeling of pure emptiness. I hope you never feel like there is nothing good, or bad, coming around the corner. I hope you never feel like you cant imagine there being a future for you. I hope you never need to rely on people to remind you to eat. I hope you never need to rely on people to remind you to sleep or to be awake. I hope you never need to rely on people to remind you to take your multiple medications on a daily basis. I hope you never, ever need to rely on people to hide all the sharp knives in the house so you cant get hold of them to hurt yourself. I hope you never, ever need to be checked on every time you take a bath, just because theres a chance youre trying to drown yourself. I hope you never know what its like to not be trusted near open windows. I hope you never have to convince yourself not to jump in front of the train as it approaches on the platform. I hope you never understand what it means to be afraid of opening the front door and stepping out into the real world. I hope you never have to force yourself to appear normal and happy when all you want to do is run and hide, and never come out. I hope you never understand what it feels like to worry that everyone in the world is against you. I really hope you never understand what it means to feel completely alone while youre surrounded by people. I really, really hope you never understand what it means to want to end it all. I do hope you understand that you cant always understand. I do hope you understand that you dont need to understand. I do hope you understand that you cant fix everything. I hope you understand that no one thinks you can, and no one is expecting you to. I think you do understand that no one knows the battles other people are fighting. I think you do understand that we all have our own stories. I think you understand that we dont need to understand each other to support each other, and to love each other, and to wish the very best for each other. I think you can see that all anyone has ever wanted is to be accepted. So, stand by me. Lie next to me. Sit with me. Talk to me. Stay silent. Hold my hand or smile at me. Tell me youre with me and that everything will be okay, someday. It might not be now. I know that. I might be hurting for a long time. I might be numb for a long time. I might be happy for a long time, and I might feel myself falling down the tunnel again. So just tell me youll stay with me and youll protect me from myself, because thats who Im most afraid of. Tell me youll hang out with me until the storm passes. And then, once it has, hang out with me some more. You dont have to understand me. I dont want you to know what this is like, because I know its awful, and thats enough. I dont want you to know it for yourself. I just want to know that youre here with me."
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Depressed Boyfriend Ignoring for Me Weeks
by coldWater6416
Last post
 January 5th
...See more I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 9 months now. I know that is not a very long time, but I really like him and see a future with him. He's five years older than me (30 vs 25), very career oriented, into his hobbies, and has expressed that he is not completely happy with where he's at in life (not married yet with no kids was never his ideal plan.). I never wanted to push back on those topics in fear of sounding like the crazy girlfriend that is already considering marriage and kids. He was a complete gentleman from the very beginning and our relationship was fun, comfortable, and stable until about 2-3 months ago. He started becoming more distant, not texting or calling me every day like we used to. I know every day is a lot and he works a very demanding job with long hours and can understand not talking every day. But then days turned into 5 - 10 days without talking to me and only responding when I reach out first, making me feel like I was begging for attention. Our most recent duration of not talking was about 2 weeks. I finally called because I didn't understand what was going on, spending some nights crying or upset wondering what I did or if he had moved onto someone else. I needed answers. He finally answered and we talked for an hour. He finally revealed to me that he's depressed, on medicine for it, and is having a midlife crisis trying to figure out what he wants to do with his life. (I myself have extreme anxiety that I have been seeking help to deal with). In retrospect, I feel terrible knowing he is in such a dark place and wish I expressed that at the time. But instead, I kept asking if he thought about how I've been feeling because of this cold-shoulder treatment. Long story short - it was a long talk, each of us expressing how shitty we felt and how this affected us, but not really listening to the other person. We agreed to try to reconnect to follow up with this conversation in person to discuss it. But after exchanging a few texts and him saying he'd let me know when we could hang, I haven't heard anything. In these few texts he made it clear that this lack of communication was not because of anything I did, but him simply trying to figure out how he feels about himself and his future career wise and personally.I followed up a few days later with a long text expressing how I am here for him during this tough time, how much I care about him and hope I can help. Still no response. Of course I have family and friends saying to move on and that I don't deserve this treatment. Only one of my friends, who is in a committed relationship with someone who has depression has told me to be patient and wait this out. To focus on me right now, but don't assume it's over and give him space. I don't want to this be over, but I don't know what to do at this point. Will he ever reach out when this episode is over?Is this normal for a depressed boyfriend to not talk to his girlfriend for weeks? Are long periods of time not out of the blue for someone in his shoes to not reach out or answer calls/texts? It has been almost a week now since I sent the follow up message expressing my support. Should I consider this done and move on? I've never been in this position before. I'm not claiming to be a perfect girlfriend and know I should make a better effort at communicating what I want/need/feel, but unsure how to deal with someone in this situation. I don't want to overstep boundaries by reaching out numerous times with no response, but don't want this to end because I decided to stop reaching out as well. Any advice would be great!
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poems & quotes if you're feeling lost or hopeless x
by ollliieeeeeeee
Last post
 December 30th
...See more a poem for thoses who feel like nothing will get better: 'Life wont always be like this, a mess of colors of choices of decisions youre too afraid to make. Your body wont always feel like this, a collection of fears of thoughts of memories mixing together in the folds of your mind. Hey everyone, i thought i'd start this to share some positive quotes, stories, poems, pictures etc... feel free to join in. i know many of you (including myself) aren't feeling great about life right now but nothing lasts forever :) it will get better in the meantime i thought i'd share some positive poems/quotes with you all xo - ollie x 'You are a person, a soul, a creation made of muscles and matter that are stronger than you could ever imagine. Rest your worried head on my shoulder. Close your eyes and breathe deeply, in out. Remember everything is temporary— and you wont always feel like this.' - unknown
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"Mature" women who are community members?
by enthusiasticLand7037
Last post
 December 28th
...See more I just discovered 7 Cups and I am still browsing around but it seems to me, at first glance, that there aren't many listeners or members in what could be called a "seniors' community. I am going to be 64 at my next birthday, I have experienced depression my entire adult life. I am going through a rough spell right now and was hoping to find someone who could relate. So, are there any other 50+ or 60+ women in this crowd?
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Why am I so alone?
by Sleebo
Last post
 December 27th
...See more I don't know what's wrong with me. I seem to be so forgettable to everyone... I don't talk to anyone from high school, even though we just graduated. Nobody ever wants to hang out. Nobody cares. I try to organize things and I get nothing and it's so frustrating. I feel like people only use me. I only have one person that I can truly consider a friend, and she doesn't even live in the same state as me. I feel so alone. I don't have anybody and nobody would bat an eye if I were to disappear, which is basically what happened. None of my "friends" have heard from me in months because I'm just... so sick of feeling disposable. They talk behind my back. I know it. I've HEARD it. I can't keep anyone around. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. It has been this way for years. I frequently remember that I don't have any friends in real life. I'm forgettable and disposable because I don't stand out, but I don't know how to. It really gets to me. My own family doesn't even care. Of course, they'd be sad if something bad happened to me but... beyond that. Nothing. They don't care about who I am. Or what I like. Nobody seems to have any interest in me besides this one friend. I have nobody. It hurts and I try to brush it off, but humans naturally crave social interaction. What's wrong with me? It has to be something that I'M doing wrong. It's the only way for this all to make sense.
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Holding too many different jobs
by aquaKitten9729
Last post
 December 18th, 2024
...See more I'm depressed because I can't seem to stick with a job for very long and have problems working. I've held too many different jobs in a short time frame
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Slipping into old patterns
by loyalBeing54
Last post
 December 18th, 2024
...See more Hello everyone, I have been battling depression and anxiety most of my life. My upbringing was (to put it politely) rough and I remember being extremely depressed as a child. I have gone to counseling off and on for the past 7 years and I have been doing a lot better until the last year. Needless to say life happened and a bunch of stressful events have come crashing down on me. I can't really talk to my family and friends because they either don't understand what I'm going through or they think I should just "let it go." But letting major hurt go has been a problem for me. I just want to get back on track were I didn't over think everything and I had some semblance of self esteem. If anyone has any thoughts/feelings/advice or just kind words to help me put it would be greatly appreciated. Talk to you soon.

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Community Resources

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- 9 Types of Depression and How To Recognize Them 

- You don't have to understand, you just have to be present by @MarianaFilipaSouza6

A beautiful testament to the nature of depression

- Rethink Mental Illness: Depression

Basic information and facts

- Resource Masterpost by @Sealiously

A plethora of amazing links

- Depression Self Help Guide

Discover some ways to help manage what you're going through

- Safety Plan

Here's a safety plan for those who are passively suicidal. Your life is important

- Resources to Help Manage Depression

A collection of helpful links for more information and support

- Depression Community Path

A path that helps guide you through dealing with depression on a day to day basis


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