You know who focuses on the positive? Losers.

@patrik9321 For example; I am happiest finding and fixing my flaws. All this 'focus on the positive' b.s. just makes me more angry. Where would we be if our greatest men and women focused on the positive instead of doing something about the negative. Winners focus on THE NEGATIVE, not the positive. Theres a saying 'proud but never satisfied'. Its ok to be proud, but it is CRUCIAL to never be satisfied.

@patrik9321 if I ever became satisfied, I would fall right back into my depression. Tears are healthy, anger is healthy, losing is healthy. There is no positive without the negative.

@patrik9321 But I feel you are somewhat seeing the positive in the negative by seeing that there's nothing wrong with tears, anger, and perhaps even being a loser as you can learn from failure. So I would say there's still value in both sides

@patrik9321 I agree with you. When you focus on the positive you are either denying negatives exist or distracting yourself from them. If you do that, nothing will ever get fixed.

The book 7 Cups for the Searching Soul describes how denial and distraction are like an infection, and everyone needs to find an antidote to it in order to be able to live the life they want. There was a time, it seems long ago now, when this philosophy was at the heart of 7 Cups.

However, I happen to know some career therapists who actually do have honest conversations and who understand the healthy energy and power that can result from loss, anger and tears. I know there are a lot of incompetent therapists out there who will never get it, but there are also a few good ones.

If you'd ever like to chat about these things, feel free to click on my profile picture and send me a message.

Charlie