How do you remind yourself to trust people again?

@friendlyTortoise7027

Start by giving people small, repeated opportunities to display their trustworthiness. (That means really trusting them - not trying to monitor, control or contract them into behaving well.) Small meaning small things that you feel comfortable with - meeting up somewhere at a specific time...etc.

At the same time, find opportunities for them to place trust in you. Live up to this trust scrupulously. You want to make sure that you are reliable to them. And that they can confide their trust in you.

The best way to develop trust is reciprocally (back and forth) and incrementally (bit by bit) over time. And gradually increase the opportunities as time goes on. By letting yourself become trustworthy, people who heavily value trustworthiness will want to be around you.

Best of luck!

@SenpaiXD Very helpful post, thank you. 👍