vent?

@oliveTree4069

Haiii Lucyy, how're you doing now?
Sooo, parents.... their scolding gets pretty hurtful sometimes indeed, but hey, theyre our parents, nothing much we can do except try not to repeat the mistakes. You never know whats going on in their lives, maybe theyre stressed, maybe theyre upset about something else and they take it out on you by mistake.
But either ways, theyre only scolding us for our own good yea? And no matter how much they may scold, you know they love you a lot. So instead of taking it in a bad way, use it as motivation to make them proud, cus they do sacrifice a lot for us. And no, you're not being over dramatic, you're just sensitive like lots of others. Anyways, do your best, good luckkkkkk.

PS: i think being chatty is a really really fun character for a person, its not a flaw, so dont call it one. Chatty people are jus soooooo much fun to be around. So embrace your chattiness lol, but jus try not to overdo it in a school or formal setting yea?
Have a good dayyy!!!

I've always been the chatty child, too. My voice is also loud and commanding. It annoys some people, especially teachers. But you know what? I don't care. I see my gregariousness as a real blessing. Being a chatty extrovert makes life easier, in my opinion. I can make friends anywhere. I never worry about joining a large crowd. I'm also always heard, because my booming voice makes it difficult to ignore me. It's harder for people (usually men) to interrupt my thoughts or to take credit for my ideas. I can give a speech without needing a microphone. If I call for help, everyone will hear me. I use my chattiness to learn new things, to make other people feel at ease, and to build relationships. Sure, there are times when I need to reign it in, and that's something that I'll probably always need to work on; however, I generally think it's a positive character trait.

Maybe you could work on accepting yourself as you are and reframing your thoughts so that you see your traits as something positive?

One more reply:

Your feelings are valid. You aren't being dramatic. You're allowed to feel hurt, when someone's words are causing you pain. Your family should be willing to communicate with you differently, if that's what you need, and vice versa. Have you tried telling your father what would work better for you? Have you given him clear examples? Some people are just hyper critical. Maybe he's more of a logical thinker than a feeler, so he can't relate. Maybe he assumes that you know he's proud of you.

@oliveTree4069

hey i definitely understand where your coming from. You deserve to have your accomplishments acknowledged, and I hope someone sees that. It’s not much but I can definitely be a friend or even just an ear to you if you want. Wish you the best

This is a great place to pour out those feelings as often as you can. It helps.

None of this is your fault and blaming yourself for your feelings just makes things worse. Your dad isn't understanding how his words are hurting you because he is making a decision to not listen to your concerns. That is his choice, not yours.

So for right now just do the best you can with school and come here for validation when things feel off. You deserve to have people cheering in your corner. @oliveTree4069

@oliveTree4069

Hey Lucy, it sounds like you're carrying a lot on your shoulders. Venting is a healthy way to let out what's been bothering you, so good on you for reaching out. It's tough when we're aware of our flaws, but remember, nobody's perfect. Getting chatty or off-topic sometimes doesn't define your worth. Your passion for learning and school is commendable, and we all have moments where we unintentionally become a distraction. It's understandable that your dad's comments hurt – we all want our parents' support. Don't be too hard on yourself; you're not alone in feeling this way. It's brave to share your feelings, and even though I'm just text on a screen, I'm here to listen if you need to talk. You're not disappointing anyone, and focusing on the positives you achieve is important. Hang in there, and don't hesitate to reach out to friends, family, or even a counselor for support. 🌟💕