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i dont like who i am

User Profile: slixy
slixy April 27th, 2023

hello,


i feel like i dont like who i am. I dont feel like i do good enough with my school and my hobbies. i dont like my lack of social skills. i feel like i am just getting sick of myself sometimes.


i am stuck at the moment because i want to be better but i just keep failing. i feel like a failure! i feel like a *** failure every single day!!! im so sick of being so mediocre: im never anyone’s first choice for anything because im so mediocre. im never the one who gets recognition for anything i do because it just always (and i mean always) gets overshadowed or just put down. it just gets so *** draining - it really does.


why do i not improve with anything? i feel so useless all the time. i mean just so utterly useless. i try to focus on what i do right and it just makes me more angry with myself because its just not ever good enough. idek what im trying to say with this post because really its just a personal issue but i just have no idea what im doing. i have no clue what is wrong with me and it just makes me so sick. i want to be the best at everything i do and all i ever get is disappointment because ill just be so average.


slixy

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User Profile: slixy
slixy OP April 27th, 2023

and for the social skills aspect - i had forgot to add this:


i mean my social skills are just bad to say the least. my conversations feel so awkward so often that i just stay quiet. and when i do talk i dont add anything useful/interesting to the conversation. or ill talk over someone. or ill just say something that doesnt even relate. i feel like i just dont ever know what to say.


-slixy

(again lol)


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User Profile: hopefulPond6108
hopefulPond6108 April 27th, 2023

@slixy it sounds like you’re feeling really frustrated. Not only frustrated but really hard on yourself.


Social skills can seem really difficult to learn because it really hurts when we don’t feel like we’re making progress. But I’m going to suggest you look for some other sources (ones you haven’t tried yet) to learn better skills.

Once you learn some skills it can be literally as easy as tying your shoe. You have to be willing to fail and to not take failure personally.

When we are upset we make some pretty strong negative statements about ourselves. “I’m a failure…” is a very common thing people beat themselves up with. You’re not a failure. You are a person who is feeling some emotional pain and you want things to change.

You’ve got this, you just don’t know it yet. Don’t give up!
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User Profile: compassionateOak202
compassionateOak202 April 27th, 2023

Hi @slixy . I’m sorry about what you’re going through. When I was reading your thread, I remember also feeling this way and saying all those negative things about myself too. It has been this way for me for the past 13+ years. I know how easy it is to fall into our negative thoughts, but it will become much more harder to pull away from if fallen for a long time.

It’s also really okay if you’re not best at everything. And wanting to be appreciated for your efforts, I also felt that too. I just want you to know that you’re not alone in this.

Sometimes we may feel like failures or the world hasn’t been treating us right, but I believe it’s very courageous of you to share with us what you’re going through and what you’re struggling with. So I hope you’ll be able to get all the support you need during your hard times.

You’re very much welcome to find a listener, or join the group chats here. You are also free to share your experiences in the sharing circle if you want support and listening ears from others. We’re all here for you.

Take care 💖

- Oak

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