Vent?
So btw this went down in a span of only 20 to 30 minutes at most.
so my sister was cleaning up a bit then mom came home and said something like “ you didn’t clean it looks like crap in here all you did was put the clothing from in that room onto the hallway” my sister “ what am I supposed to do put them back in the spare room?”
mom got bad and said something like “give my your phone go to your room and I better not see you for the rest of the night and I don’t want to see you tomorrow either!” Yes she raised her voice when she said that.
I had surgery on my back I had a spinal infusion September 12th im not comfortable cleaning just yet because I rather not have my mother telling me to clean and ordering me to. If she wouldn’t have ordered me to clean or forced me to etc I would have done it on my own accord and do it my self but no.
so my clean and moms is way different
my cleaning: tidying up cleaning all the tables sweeping and maybe mopping and j say clean the tables I mean near very clean a couple things left on it that needs to be on it
moms cleaning: basically cleaning it spotless or deep cleaning it or half deep cleaning everything in the house.
so mom said tonight she will set alarm for 6 in the morning and waking us up early early and making us clean all day take our phones away and not letting us in our rooms.
man’s we will be deep cleaning she said something like if y’all were to clean here and there a little bit we wouldn’t be in this position. For the record if I do she gets on to me still saying it looks like crap and I didn’t clean when I did.
she said sometimes she doesn’t even want to come home or she is down and she just wants to walk away.
you don’t say that to your children no matter how old they are or what you are going threw you just don’t do that, it could cause that child wanting to end themselfs or go into deep depression. Or wanting to take no contact and move out as soon as possible.
then she said she failed as a parent and she didn’t raid us right and she should have been way harder on us all.
I’m so sorry you had to hear she “doesnt want to come home” and sometimes even want to walk away 💔.
Your mom is venting her frustrations that have nothing to do with you. She is probably disappointed with her own job, accomplishments, and relationships. She would be discontent with every son/daughter on earth.
Cleaning perfection does not make you successful in life.
What makes you succesful is doing adequate ‘cleaning work’, then being creative and solving adult problems for people in your profession… and you can’t be successful unless you love people, help people, are patient with people who are younger/junior to you.
Please don’t believe that your best isn’t good enough. Your very best is wonderful.
I’m praying for you for real, it’s amazing but God really does love to hear our prayers and you will feel it!
she always uses the excuse of when I don’t clean to her standards “how are you going to get a job blah blah blah”
I will be glad to work or clean IF I GET PAID FOR IT. Here I don’t get paid I don’t get an allowance I don’t get anything like that so yeah of course I don’t want to clean when she is forcing me to if I could just do it when ever I would be cleaning better than I am now or if I gotten paid for cleaning I would actually clean how I’m supposed to depending how much I get paid for.
