Sad and Depressed
The person i was with me is with someone else. I feel so sad. Our friendship is lost. I miss him. Very hard going through everyday. He was one person I spoke to everyday and shared every part of my day
@Kckay
Hello Kckay, sorry for your pain, i understand how difficult it is to lose someone with whom there was a deep connection.
Hope that to join for sharing can alleviate a bit your sadness, if possible don't bottle up your pain.
Sending you good vibes 🌸
That sounds really tough. It can take a while to heal and find your way to the other side. Sending strength and peace. @Kckay
Thank you poeple. He just texted to ask how I am doing. I couldn't ignore but it makes me feel anxious and sad again
@Kckay
Hi Kckay!
So he cares to know how you are doing. Maybe I did not understand well the situation, I thought he's a dear friend you lost because he's now engaged and you two can't interact as it was before, but I wonder if he was more than that for you, because you feel bad also if he texted you?
@MeaningfulSilence
We liked each other and he lost interest sometime back. But we continued to be involved and I still had feelings for him. He told me about this new person in his life and this made me anxious sad replaced and also felt a loss as i cannot be the same with him anymore. I feel I lost my happy place. he texted to check up on me today after 3 days but I still feel bad cos I lost him to someone else.
@Kckay
He told you about this other person. Which I understand can be emotionally impacting. But what if he still feels the connection between you two and doesn't want to let it fade? Is it possible or do you think he is discarding you?
Yes it is emotionally impacting me. Guess he did what he felt was the honest thing to do. He isn't discarding me for sure as even after I told him I do not want to be in touch and I did not. He texted today to check up on me. Yes there was a good connection between us and it was for 2 years so I am confused at the sudden turn of events. Before knowing about his new gf. He has just met me few days ago. So it's left me in deep shock and sadness cos i considered him so close
It is all one step at a time. Lean on us here for a bit to talk about how you are feeling on a daily basis. It helps. @Kckay
@bestVase7265
Thanks. I think of him every and wonder if things will be okay again. Really dark period of my life.
I bet. What kinds of things do you try to do to manage to distract yourself during the day? @Kckay
@bestVase7265
Right now it's just work during the day and watch shows in the evenings and that's the end of the day. But the thoughts do cross my mind often.
They won't instantaneously stop because your brain needs time to think through things and heal. But do let yourself watch shows and other things that make you happier. Do you get outside at all? @Kckay
It is okay to do some things alone. It is the doing of them that matters right now. Give yourself lots of room for walks and just going out and seeing nature. Looking at or swimming in water can be particularly soothing. @Kckay
Remind yourself that you aren't looking for great days at the moment. You are looking for solid minutes or even an hour here or there. When you can focus your brain (this is very hard) on those moments of victory and recognize them as such then you can begin to heal and get stronger. But it takes time and granting yourself lots of grace. @Kckay
That is the best way. Keep coming here and commenting any time that you want. @Kckay
@Kckay Hi I'm Celine :) I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Just know that whatever your feeling, it's all completely valid. Sometimes a good cry is just what you need to let it all out and feel better. If they left you, then they truly don't deserve you. If someone is meant to be, they will do whatever it takes to stay by your side. They would never choose someone else over you. Everything will work out in the end. It'll be hard, but you'll see that as the days and weeks go by, you'll start to miss them less and less and you'll start relying on yourself.
Hi I am new, but what Celine said is true. If they left, you then that means that they weren't good enough for you. I know how sad it is and how depressing you might feel. But everything will get better. And it is good that you went to this website to talk about it. Talking to someone about your problem is the bravest thing you can do to get better. And I hope you do indeed. feel better.
