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Job Hunting argument with my parents

tim2009 March 20th

During job hunting, I had a severe argument with my parents. To aid my job hunting, my parents find some jobs for me also. However, when I expressed denial of one job they found, that's when the situation went bad. My parent accused me of denying every job they found, but for me, that's not true. I applied for some of them, but I denied some because I thought the duties of the job were too difficult for me or required a program that I didn't know. Also, my parents were talking about the industry today, telling me that without the skill of using certain programs, I can't find my job. I was furious, telling them 'I don't want to hear about reality', 'There will be companies that will need me'. It felt like not only that they were killing my self-esteem, but also effectively putting me down, like 'Why bother finding a job when I can't get one?' Also, when I told parents that I applied for some of the jobs they found, they stated that due to no more messages, I failed in resume check progress. However, I expressed anger, like 'Are you the judge?', 'You don't about know everything about that progress. At least they will send a news of being disqualified.' etc. I was also not happy, since when I applied for some jobs that I found myself, my parents denied it stating several reasons. When they denied the several jobs I found myself, I felt they didn't have any right to accuse me of denying every job they found. I felt like they were forcing me to apply for all jobs they found, ignoring my efforts to evaluate if this job was right for me.

I feel like my parents are ignoring my efforts for effective job hunting, not to mention ignoring my viewpoints.

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Jem7Cups March 21st

It sounds like you are facing quite a challenging situation with your parents during your job search. It's important for both parties to communicate openly and understand each other's perspectives. 

Finding a balance between the opportunities they present and your own preferences can be tricky, but remember that your happiness and well-being should also be taken into consideration. 

Have you tried having a calm and honest conversation with your parents about how you feel and what you think would be the best approach for your job hunt?
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tim2009 OP March 26th

@Jem7Cups

After a quiet talk today, my parents apologized that they're extremely pushed to the edge, worrying that I won't find a job to support myself by sorting out the available positions. 

However, they stated that it was wrong to ignore my feelings, as I was sorting out the available positions to make sure they matched my skills, interest, and abilities. They knew the fact that I never gave up, and it was wrong to push me like that. 

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