I need some advice
I’m not a native english speaker so srry for any misspelling.
i’m turning 24 this year, a year ago i broke up with a girl who i really loved and wanted to be with the rest of my life.
I was really kind, gentle and caring with her, because i know how it is to be with a bad person, i would not give my life for her but live for her, i have depression since my 14s and always was a struggle to connect or falling in love with someone, until i meet her, she was always i ever wanted in someone, a girl who listens to me, who appreciates myself and above all someone who could understand my pain.
We stood together for 8 months, but since it was my first relationship i get attached really fast, i said that i love her first and she replied, she promised me the world and to never leave me, but as you guys expect she didn’t mean to stay.
The story behind all is very long and painful to me, but since that day im struggling to meet new people and to forgetting her.
can you guys and girls maybe have some advice to how can i pass through this?
Hi @Stjepan ✨
I’m sorry you are experiencing this… Maybe may I suggest that you take one day at a time? It is difficult to forget someone that you were happy with, time helps but also maybe you can consider doing something that makes you smile? Something small? Also, maybe some walking, movement…. Or writing about it: about what you feel, how you met, what you think…
Let the energy flow ✨
Hi Elena, thanks for the advice.
i was very lonely in my childhood and this made me close my feelings inside me, i not so good in talk about my feelings so i write some poetry, it helps sometimes but this memories keeping coming back now and then, I didn’t have good experiences with relationships and i’ve been feeling lost, the major problem to deal with this is because I don’t know how to make new friends by myself, everyone i meet is a friend of a friend.
I see friend getting their soulmates and i’m very happy for then, but still hurts
i will not give up, not yet.
Thanks for the kind advices and i wish you the best
Poetry sounds beautiful @Stjepan ✨
You will find your soulmate too…also new friends - try to enjoy this time for yourself, feel all this feelings “this too shall pass”
All the best for you as well✨
All my friends betrayed me:)
I'm sorry to hear that friend, unfortunately some people will hurt us throughout our lives, but we can be better just by being differenfrom them, I know we never want to go through this kind of situation again but we need to move on. I'm sure you will find people who will welcome you, accept you and love you for who you are.
sorry you’re going threw that friend. i am experiencing break up issues as well. its very hard to not think about it but distractions like 30 min walks and even video games. helps take my mind off of the issue. it doesn’t help as much as i hope lol but its what ive been doing.
time will pass and you will eventually feel different…but getting to that point is very painful.
you can do it
Thanks for the advice friend, i will try some games, maybe know some online friends and take a couple walks as well.
I hope we go through this soon.
Wish you the best and thanks again
@Stjepan
I would emphasize the importance of learning to love yourself first because self-love is incredibly vital in any relationship. When you take the time to invest in yourself and cultivate your own happiness, you often find that you feel so much better overall. Although I’m still a teenager and I realize my perspective might not hold much weight, I’ve experienced a lot in my life that has shaped this understanding. Focusing on your own well-being can truly transform how you interact with others and enrich your relationships.
~Mae
Hi Mae, i like to think that don’t matter our age we can contribute with our life experiences, i knew teenagers that have more emotional intelligence than a older person.
i will be turning 24 y/o and so far i can tell that life isn’t easy.
I’ve been doing therapy after the broke up and made me realize that i hated myself, i hated what i was seeing in the mirror, i hated me for letting people putting me down, i hated the lack of self respect that i have at the time, i hated the way i accepted being a second choice for someone.
But it’s slowly getting better.
Thanks for reading this, for giving me a other perspective of the situation and for the kind advice
@Stjepan
Haha! Yeah some people look down as teens because of our age so its good to know someone out there doesn't, Im glad you are going to therapy though I hear it can really help as for me I had to wait almost a year after my ex kept using me as a second choice to stop obsessing and grow up just a little, Now I'm mainly focused on myself and my school.
Thanks for taking the time to read my advice. Have a great day!
~Mae
