Advice for aftermath of depression in terms of friendship
Hey everyone !
I am looking for genuine advice and tbh reaching out for help is quite scary . But here i go ! Its long but i would really appreciate help and guideness
I overcame my depression an year ago with the help of a teacher . ( she gave hope )
And since then i have tried my best to be better at everything. Priorities, academics , relationships.
But in doing so i have realized that my best friend for 9 years is truly toxic for my health . not that i dont love her , i do very much in some way i am addicted .
She has done many things like soreada rummours about me , send my pic to a guy without informing , told a guy that i have a crush on him because he proposed to her nad she didnt wnat to accept , her mother said awful things to me on call like you are doing a good job ...she is not expresive and hence you should take care of her , she told her mom false awful things about me due to her own insecurities which made her parents hate me but then quickly told them nc things in order for a hangout etc .
Now i forgave and forgave but i cant forget and now since i am hopying to do more than survival ...i feel angery . she is a topper and i was numb for years which makes simple things hard .
I do still love her but its like i hater myself for loving her , i feel sad cuz of my love , angery . any time we are together i blsme myself and never her .
I just want to really focus on my goals but she is addictive .
I have other friends afc .
But lets be honest i am deeply mistrusting person , abnormal , different , intensive.
So ya ! I did be very happy if anyone could advice me or guide me .
@optimisticVase7844
It’s truly admirable that you’re seeking to understand and improve your situation, and it’s completely natural to feel conflicted and hurt given your history. Your feelings of love and anger are valid, and it’s important to honor them. The fact that you care deeply about your friend highlights your capacity for empathy and kindness, but it’s also crucial to recognize when a relationship becomes harmful to your well-being.
It sounds like you’ve experienced a lot of pain due to her actions, and it’s okay to feel both sadness and frustration. Loving someone doesn’t mean you have to accept being mistreated, and it’s healthy to set boundaries that protect your mental and emotional health. It’s not about fault or blame, but about recognizing what you need to feel supported and respected.
You’re on a path of personal growth, and focusing on your goals and well-being is a positive and necessary step. It’s perfectly okay to take space from relationships that are not serving you well and to prioritize connections that contribute positively to your life. Your journey is about finding balance and creating an environment where you can thrive and feel fulfilled.
With friends like her, who needs enemies?
Vase you seem to have a good spirit. Please listen to yourself. Do not second guess yourself. You know what you need to do. Good luck.
