Self-Care Reflection through Subtraction (July Self-Care Challenge Day 1)

To be honest, if I couldn’t do self care for a month, I would die.

Or experience a Joker arc!

Either way, probably not a good idea eh?

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Speaking from experience from the other side

I am married to a man who has a seizure disorder and COPD. He also had a heart attack a few years ago. He mentally gave up about 8 years ago. He stopped bathing, brushing his teeth, and changing his clothes. He didn't leave his bed except to go to the toilet. He wanted all his food and drink brought to him. He slept most of the day. He was very kind and quiet. He couldn't tell that he smelled terrible. He did not require affection and could not return it. He had no interest in anyone or anything. He would not seek therapy. He canceled doctor's appointments. This is a very intelligent man. He just received a diagnosis that had a prognosis with no cure, he lost his career, and he became so depressed, that he gave up.

We are currently separated.

💜💕If I could not self-care for one month💜💕

I would be an absolute mess

I would probably end up in hospital;

💜💕I would lose all the resources that help me stay balanced💜💕

This actually happened after I bore/delivered my son last year. I was unkempt per se. I'm glad my mom is nearby & I was at least fed and rested because of her.

Would make me very depressed and very tired.

@SoulfullyAButterfly

If I can't self care for a whole month, I would end up overthinking a lot, my focus would become a mess, and I believe I wouldn't have the guts not to judge myself. Also, emotionally, I would get quite hectic and it would put me out of form at studies, work and with friends too, I beleive. It would also affect my family.l and everyday habits.

Thank you for the open ended question, Soulful. 😊

Imagine that you cannot self-care for one whole month. How would this change your life? Be honest and share your answers. This is our starting point - realizing that we do need self-care, already do some form of self-care, but can always use the improvement.

I am already going through quite a busy time, in the sense that I have a lot on mentally, physically and emotionally, if I couldn't do self-care for one whole month, I would end up running on auto-pilot, I would feel depleted constantly, and I would find it difficult to find meaning or even to to smile.

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Imagine that you cannot self-care for one whole month. How would this change your life?

A really interesting question! I think my mental health would plummet and so would my physical health too. I would feel sad and irritable all the time. I think it would impact my relationships too and of course my ability to listen. I go through ups and downs with self care and it's always noticeable when I start letting some things go/slip.

🦊

@SoulfullyAButterfly

I've not been able to perform one aspect of self care for a whole year and almost 5 months. I consider working and making money for myself an act of self care.

Its exhausting, depressing, unhelpful, and anxiety filled. I've had self-harming thoughts because of it.

@SoulfullyAButterfly lovely post soul

If we did not self-care it would affect our confidence and not create balance in our life