What's up Wednesday? #1

@kindLemonade

That happens a lot in social media era, isn't it? Maybe jealous is not the right word when I'm seeing someone's achievement, more admiration because I'm aware every achievement worth flexing on social media, comes from a consistent hard work.

Behind that achievement are days, months or even years of constantly pushing themselves to move forward. Fighting their limiting beliefs all the time. It's tough.

Sometimes I do feel jealous whenever I see Chrissy Teigen xD she got the look, she got the bod, married to John Legend, and a cooking skill! How is it fair?.... LOL *kidding, I love her 😃 What about you, Lemo?

Thanks for the post! 💜

@kindLemonade

Hi kind.

"Have you ever....." NO.

"How would you...." - I have felt jealous in "real" life. I was thinking that a friend of mine and my b.f. were talking so good together. I was sure they were going to get married. So that's my "bad" way of handling jealousy. I just don't handle it at all!

From Helga.

I don't use social media, however my cusion seems to have it all, her part actually care unlike mine so they allow her to date and have reasonable standards, her parents are also pretty well off financially and mine are not so much.

@kindLemonade

I already quite like this series :)

- Have you ever felt jealous from seeing content about other people's lives? Where did you encounter it? For example posters, news, movies, following idol's social media,...

not gonna lie, I feel jealous quite a bit. But I have my major reasons: I’m too depressed to keep up with my (I’m not even sure if they still are) friends. Plus they are always going out, having fun, meanwhile I’m poor as. So I can’t afford to go. But I get jealous in many ways, whether I see images of those I know having a good time, to even on cups, people barely say Hi to me, and I get so jealous I literally go on a rant about why people should say Hi to everyone and not just their ‘friends’.

- How would you deal with jealousy?

honestly, I deal with everything poorly. It’s not just the jealous feelings, but I get so jealous it turns into anger which is the worst emotion for me as I become unpredictable and mad and basically I become a bull in a fine china shop 🤡

@kindLemonade

I have felt jealousy when seeing how wonderful people's lives are, or their jobs, or the fact that they can afford a vacation.

I probably don't deal with that type of jealousy very well. It's harder to talk myself through. But jealousy IRL, is different. I can get myself back on track easily, especially if it's jealousy due to something that someone I am seeing is doing.

@kindLemonade

Most of the time I remember being jealous was in childhood. Like, being on a school field trip to the zoo while we all had to carry around our school stuff and constantly write stuff while it seemed like a lot of kids in big groups got to just have fun and experience more things up close. Stuff like that. I was also jealous about every other kid around me having siblings. I know, it's not always such a good thing, but there's loneliness on the other side too.

My jealousy pretty much automatically turns into resentment. I tend to immediately see how they aren't fully appreciating what they have, or how it might not work out for them, or how they aren't doing enough with it. That resentment isn't useless though. It leads me to examine myself, especially when things seem more ok.

@kindLemonade

Hi Lem! 😊❤️ Many thanks for this amazing forum post! I really enjoyed reading it and it gave me a moment to think about how I am, who I am.

I don't really engage in social media. Just a personal choice. As for me, I have seen the pitfalls of it all along without ever actively engaging in that way. Social media posts many times are not the true story. It's a moment for someone to smile brightly, put their best foot forward and simply show the world what they want the world to see. You don't get to see "all of the other stuff", the things the person is going through, the things that trouble them, their self doubt or things that keep them awake at night.

I think it would be incredibly difficult to compare and contrast ones one self and ones own life to a fictitious ideal, something that doesn't truly exist. Social media at times can lead to anxiety, depression, low self esteem, lack of self worth and even, potentially, body image issues. We are now seeing the biggest "uptick" of all time for those seeking rhinoplasty from cosmetic surgeons and many that are seeking this are taking selfies into the surgeons office with the selfie and filter applied as the example of what they want.

For me, even in real life, I don't succumb to what has been called the "green eyed monster" lol (jealousy). I have always had a different approach. There will always be someone bigger, better, faster, and stronger than me. There will always be a bigger package with a more shiny bow! With acceptance comes peace.

For my friends that have things I don't, no matter whether it be beauty, intelligence, wealth, etc. I have a tendency to feel really proud of them. To feel like, oh my gosh, that is my friend! And to be happy for them! I instead like to watch them shine and support them every step of the way.

For me, it makes me feel better to focus more on me than others around me in those types of ways. I come with a "non compete clause". I compete against no one, no one at all! The only person I ever compete against is me and my last greatest victory! For me, there is always room for improvement and I see myself as a work in progress!

Lem, again, thank you for this forum post! I really enjoyed reading it and responding to it! *high fives* 😊 and *hugs* ❤️

@kindLemonade,

Hi, Lemonade!

1. Have you ever felt jealous from seeing content about other people's lives? Where did you encounter it?

I did feel jealous a lot when I lived on the Palos Verdes Peninsula in California. I lived in the poor area, but drove past multi-million dollar mansions to go to the grocery store and to my therapist. It was very difficult. I tried to just concentrate on the beautiful coast and the road when I was driving past. But, it was hard.

2. How would you deal with jealousy?

Now a days I try not to compare myself to others and try not to pay attention to the rich and famous.

I have always felt that we feel jealousy when we can't have that like being wanted and materialistic stuff. I think I always had a different approach towards things I think, this is the part where I felt indifferent, like to find common line to communicate to other person. But I have always loved the way how I thought because it's more fun for me at least. I use social media sites but it is just to keep up with my friends and when they post pictures it doesn't make me feel anything because I know behind story of post, I'm in some fake smiling but everyone looks genuinely happy . Despite everything we all are trying our best and having fun rollercoaster rides 🙃. Also I have social media for Taylor swift ❤💐

of course! I'm single and dating, I want a relationship, I want a partner, I want love in my life, I want someone to share the journey with and companionship, so often I see couples together holding hands and planning together - and I want that! That's the life I enjoy most for myself, when it's shared! The world has so many great things in it - they're too good to experience alone! Seeing the same thing through 4 eyes is always different from 2... I can't wait to meet the person who will eventually become special! I keep going, I keep on dating, I keep looking, I keep being my best self and attracting people into my life... maybe I'll find it one day! I acknowledge everyone is on different parts of their own journey. So I change the jealousy feeling quickly to thankfulness, because it's good to have models and people to learn from who have and are ahead of me on their own journeys.