The Pleasant Life Activity: Your Life Vision

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Such a nice prompt, Soul, thanks for sharing, will definitely try out soon. 🦋

1) Think deeply of a moment in the past during which you felt at your best. Reflect on this moment and write about it, including what made you feel at your best and other positive emotions you experienced.

- My past memory where I felt my best was when I moved into my college dorm for the first time and walked around campus with my friends that helped me move in at that time. I felt so excited and proud!

2) Now think deeply about anything currently happening in your life that you feel happy about. Reflect on this present situation and write about what is happening, including the positive emotions you are experiencing.

- I currently feel extremely happy with 7 Cups; It keeps me out if my comfort zone, keeps me productive with roles that align with my purpose like being Listener Coaching and Quality Mentoring here, and keeps me on the right track overall with constant healthy content. Those roles help me support people who are looking to improve in how they support other people.

3) Finally, envision a time in the future when you will be at your best. Reflect on the future and your future vision and write about what makes you most hopeful.

- Surprises earned from hard work is best; I have much hope and faith towards a healthy future and well-being.

What was your main realization or learning about yourself?

- I'm right where I need to be and on the right path

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Past Memory: I would say senior year in high school. I had the best grades and was involved in many extracurricular activities like cheerleading, yearbook, and different committees. I had positive relationships with my boyfriend, friends, and family. Financially, I worked enough to pay my phone bill (which is all I paid at the time) and enough money to buy whatever I wanted. I felt successful because I was accepted by all my college choices and had scholarships for most of them. I was the healthiest I've ever been emotionally, mentally, and physically. Quite honestly, I wish I could go back and do things differently after my senior year.

Currently: I'm usually a glass mostly full type of person who is always smiling and looking for the positives of any situation but currently, I don't see anything I'm happy about. Every aspect in my life that could mirror my past memory is in disarray. Do I want to share? Not really because I'm still processing the events that got me here to where I am.

Future Vision: Hopeful. I don't have a hopeful drop in me right now. I feel lost and angry at myself for letting these events take me to where I am now. There are days that are more manageable but for the most part I still feel the same. But if I was still the same hopeful girl from before, I would say when I get crowned for my third pageant crown and I can look back and see I have earned my law degree; I have positive relationships with my partner, friends, and family; I am financially stable; healthy physically, emotionally, and mentally enough to carry a child, and lastly, free from any weight holding me down.

What was your main realization or learning about yourself?

While I didn't share a lot about my current situation, I will say relationships with those I hold dear are more than important to me. When any of those relationships aren't at it's best, it cripples me that it affects other aspects of my life. It paralyzes me from doing anything. I wish I wasn't wired this way where I care too much and love too deeply.

Right now for some reason my mind is chaos.

looking back I can't recall the best time - maybe as a senior in highschool? Had a vehicle, job, boyfriend, interests, hobbies.

also enjoyed a good group of friends at the time and felt pretty stable at home on the familial front. Didn't have much responsibility or expenses.

i was taking a lot of hard courses as i wanted to cover all my bases; I didn't know what I wanted to do or be and so was up to my ears in science, math, volunteering, sports, etc..

lived on a beautiful little property with my family - little orchard, natural beach on the river behind the house, greenhouse, dog, cat. Had my own room. Home was a bit outdated - shag carpets and shiny wallpaper, dark paneling.

My sister was off to Uni in Victoria and my brother finding himself after joining a mountain biking club. Mom and dad were both working and in their spare time buying tons of wine. Dad liked golfing, mom liked singing in groups and making cd's with them like her parents.

It all kinda fell apart though. Since then I've been in some tug-of-war with it...trying to heal from societal agreements and expectations never agreed to or running and hiding from it all or fighting it completely. There were fun adventures I suppose, wasn't there? Or was that all some fever dream.

a year long road trip, gaining certifications in things here and there, taking different jobs like teaching skiing and snowboarding, at a magazine and at a surf shop in Tofino, starting a couple small businesses with my partner at the time, living off grid for a while. Fun right?

i suppose it all sounds cool on paper. And maybe it is when one thinks about it. So why did it, deep down, never quite feel like enough? Why do I think I'm failing, have failed, will only fail? Is it me? Is it society? Did I miss my chance? Are all these 'guides to life' people keep talking about ever going to make sense?

aside from the tragic comedy that is me trying to read and even (Often.) find the instruction manual to life, building my life is an amorphous and ephemeral task using elements still yet discovered by science, which makes it all very confusing and has me cultivating all kinds of soft addictions like sugar, coffee and the most savage of resting female dog faces.

I don't even know what the questions were anymore. Something about past, present and future, right? A lot to think about when I'm a one on a scale of one to five, five being the most motivated to live this day. I'm pretty surprised just to have the basics basically covered right meow 🐱 because there were times they weren't really. I guess life hands none of us a guarantee: It's so intense.

@SoulfullyAButterfly

@SoulfullyAButterfly@SoulfullyAButterfly 1) I wont describe the moment of the past(cause I might get depressed).But it was a beautiful moment with my ex. I felt the best

2) Presently, the best thing happeing to me is that I am making alot of progress in my life. I am completing tasks after taskes and also completing the checklist of my daily habits. I dont know about the results but effort-wise I am making the most progress that I have ever made in my entire life

3) Ok so I will talk about my final purpose- I and my future wife(1 quality-who actually understands mental health and wants to grow with me) and our kids are having fun. We are in a holiday. And together we are playing football, going to a beach and also at night we have fun in a movie theatre watching a movie (obviously a movie of kids). That's the best thing I can visualize for myself.

Thanks for this thread. Acted more like a journal for myself.

Have a great day🙃

@SoulfullyAButterfly

I was healthy in past because I did not take stress and I had a healthy lifestyle.

I am hardworking in present because I do a job.

I will be intelligent in future because I am learning new things everyday.

I concluded that it all depends on me that I can only progress in life if I try and have great will power. Secondly it also depends on my trust in God and my prayers! :)

Thank you for reading.

I wish God bless everyone who reads my post 💚💙

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Past

I don't really remember but uh hope this works the same

few years ago when my best friend (let's refer to her as P) hadn't shifted to another state. I didn't have to fight for her attention with our other friend like I have to do now for the attention of my current best friend (let's refer to her as S). But I know at heart that P will always be my best friend even tho it has been years since I talked to her. Neither S nor anyone else can take her place.

Present

I can say that 7 Cups is keeping me going as it is. I have made so many friends here who all make me so happy and it assures me that no matter what they will always be there for me.

Future

When I shift away from my emotionally abusive family to another country far away from them and finally live my life like I want to. (I hope I am able to do this soon)

Main realization

Staying strong no matter what

I think the biggest realization I got from this prompt was just how much two things mean to me right now, and in the future. My partner and my cat :)

@SoulfullyAButterfly

1) Think deeply of a moment in the past during which you felt at your best. Reflect on this moment and write about it, including what made you feel at your best and other positive emotions you experienced.

I play golf, not just for fun but also competitively. Playing this sport has been a challenging journey because of how much time it takes to improve. Golf has especially challenged me mentally being that it is an individual sport and at some point leads to perfectionism. I entered a tournament during the summer and at the time I had not been playing that great. After finishing the last hole of the first day of the tournament, I had beaten my tournament score record for eighteen holes. The next and final day of the tournament, I beat my tournament score record for thirty-six. I felt so many emotions after having such a great couple of days, including: happiness, disbelief, relief, excitement, and hope. For the first time I felt that my hard work had paid off, and that I have the ability to be even better.

2) Now think deeply about anything currently happening in your life that you feel happy about. Reflect on this present situation and write about what is happening, including the positive emotions you are experiencing.

I feel happy about a few things that are happening in my life right now. First, I am on track for all of my assignments and important tasks I need to complete (aka I am stress free). Second, I've made sure to set time aside to read a book for fun which I have dearly missed doing in the last several school years. Third, I've been actively taking care of my mental health; taking the time to do activities like these to reflect on what's been good in my life, and how to become more self-determined or confident, has been such a great source of happiness.

3) Finally, envision a time in the future when you will be at your best. Reflect on the future and your future vision and write about what makes you most hopeful.

My future vision is me going to college, playing on a golf team, and studying some type of science major. I hope that in this vision I continue to take care of myself. I hope that I do not forget to be a self-advocate and do things that make me happy. I believe that with the success and improvement I'm experiencing right now, I will do great things in the future.

What was your main realization or learning about yourself?

I realize that I struggle with perfectionism and lack of confidence but I also know that I can overcome these things because I've overcome obstacles just as large before.