One retiring + one new hire
There are some changes in the staff positions. One colleague who is currently on a relief full-time line, applied to the position of the one who is retiring. So, now she as a permanent full-time position. Which means, her relief line is up for hires. This is where the new hire comes in. If you have been following my previous posts about work, you might remember that this colleague retiring is the problematic one, so, I'm celebrating that she's leaving us soon. The other problem is, the new hire. She and I had a mishap at least 2 years ago. She got me investigated by our Managers. For what I did, I had already apologized through an email I sent out to her and a couple of others. I tried looking past the conflict we've had, but her response gives off the idea that she still holds a gr*dge against me and obviously just doesn't like me.
Luckily, the shift she's working, I only have 2.5 hours of overlap shift hours with her, and I could still easily avoid having any interaction with her. Her Relief Line is until end of November though. But to know that she's now on the same team, just thinking about it, makes me feel stressed. I have examples of why I think she holds a gr*dge against me and doesn't like me. There had been times after the incident, when I went down to the department looking for instruments because the staff downstairs couldn't find it. So, the nurses sent me to look for it. When I couldn't find it either, she came back from her dinner break, one of the others asked her. She found it, and I "thanked" her out loud when I walked past her. She totally ignored me and continued a conversation with someone across from the room. Other times, she will call my department asking about questions, whenever I answered the phone, she would ask for others. When I say, they've stepped out or went for break, she's like, can you ask them to call me back or she say's she'll call later. When she asked for another person, and that person is there, I've stuck around just to listen in on what she wanted to ask. And according to what my colleagues answered with, I could've easily told her too. So, that makes it obvious that she doesn't even want to speak to me. So, to know that she's joining the team, I really don't know how that will play out. My Manager knows that we've had some conflict between us, and she told me that she hopes I act professionally and look beyond our differences and work well together. I wanted to tell her, I tried putting it past us ever since the incident happened, but she's the one who isn't forgiving and isn't looking past the incident. Another thing I'm worried about, all the staff on my team, are all buddies-buddies with her, they have all started in the same department downstairs, before coming up to the OR for work. So, I get a feeling that everyone will end up taking her side and I'll be left out. This is a time where I'll feel like I don't want to work this job. Having her on the team just makes the atmosphere give a negative vibe.
I have one week of work in April, and by looking at the schedule, she starts on the same day that I have work. Literally, just thinking about it is stressful enough, I know she will eventually apply for a permanent line once the other 2 colleagues retire in the next two years, but hopefully by then, I'll either be gone or maybe I'll try and get my business going again. The one I tried starting last summer, with no income yet.
@Jaeteuk
Having someone around that holds a grudge against you and passes the negative vibe is just terrible :( I wouldnt wanna be around someone like that either :/
how did things go at work for you? hope they haven't given you more stress :(
good luck with your business too <3
It'll be next week, I'll let you know how it goes at the end of the week. Or you might hear from me earlier if something happens during the week. I never got a reply from my Manager either.
Thanks for replying though, I was thinking maybe my post got buried as no one gave a response.
@Optimisticempath
@Jaeteuk
oh no of course....it feels terrible not being responded to.. there were some glitches in forums so probably why the post was a little down as not recent and most people usually only respond to recent threads...i like checking out and replying for the needs reply posts that are lying un replied to for the longest time ... so found yours there too 😅 happy I did tho and your welcome <3
take your time in updating :)
Happy Friday! So glad it's the Friday, I'm not back until 3 weeks later.
In case you don't know, I work in a hospital, in the Operating Room. One of our many tasks include moving empty stretchers and parking them outside of each operating room.
So this week, on Monday, I saw her trying to maneuver one of the bigger stretchers that is a bit tricky to push. She didn't put it into Steer (which if you're trying to push it forward, it'll go sideways). So, I saw her struggling a little, so I pointed out to her, it'll be easier if she stepped on the Steer. With these ones, you really have to step on it until it clicks. So, when she lightly stepped on it, it went back to its default. So, I said, you need to step on it harder, until it clicks. So she did, but there was no "thank you" or anything. She just quietly followed what I suggested to her.
Then yesterday, I held the door open for both my colleague and her, as they entered a room with their hands full of product. Since it was my colleague who came through the door first, she said thank you, and I guess she followed my colleague, and also said quietly "thank you" as well. I was a bit surprised, so I just acknowledged her with a "uh huh".
I'm hoping things will get better eventually. Maybe she needs time to adjust in seeing me often again. But as usual, I try and stay out of the area that she's working in mostly. But since she's being trained this week, my colleague is showing her every other task outside her priority. So having us cross paths happens more often, I hope she'll be able to adjust more quickly this way though. I'm still afraid to initiate any conversations with her, as I don't want to get any attitude from her. It will just make me feel bad.
On another note though, there is this one housekeeping staff that has been giving me attitude every time I ask her a question. At least within this week, there had been 3 instances where I asked her something, or informed her of something (work-related), and the tone she replied in, was unpleasant. But then again, many of us know that she can get moody sometimes, and we haven't really seen her smile or laugh much. Very poker faced and serious at most times. So, maybe she's not in a good mood this week.
I was talking about this with the housekeeper that works evening shift last night, over dinner. A nurse came into the lounge and pitched in. She suggested, the next time I'm given attitude, to ask her, if I offended her in anyway that resulted in her talking to me with that tone. Of course, this kind of confrontation, is not my cup of tea. I'll just probably stop myself from asking her anything, and just let things pass.
@Jaeteuk It´s pretty normal to feel the way you are feeling. Coping with this kind of uncomfortable work relationships just ruins what could be a great shift. Nevertheless, you should try and feel calm as you did try to work things out. If this person happens to have a grudge against you, that´s 100% her problem and a matter she and only she has to deal with.
From what I´ve read, you seem like a good professional and person as to let yourself and your tranquility be bothered by this non-sense.
