Hello
I’m new here. I’m 35 and was diagnosed with autism about a month ago. I’m hoping to make friends but people stress me out
Hey there, I know it can be daunting posting for the first time but it's totally ok to want to make friends and everyone can feel anxious sometimes. So well done for taking that first step.
How are you feeling about your diagnosis? Does it feel like things make more sense now? I don't have an official diagnosis but people around me are convinced I don't actually need one as I tick so many boxes.
I feel ok about it. I used to really want to “fix it” until I internalized the fact that there’s nothing to fix and let go some ableism I didn’t even know I was holding on to. My whole life became clear after being diagnosed, also because my grandma is also autistic and she helped raise me. I always felt like she understood me better than anyone.
@rockmysocks I'm glad to hear things make more sense for you. That is what I was going to suggest as should feel like even a little pressure/expectations relief. You need to find the best version of you and be happy being you. If you are reaching out for friends happy to be here for a chat!
@rocksmysocks people stress me out too I get it. Welcome, you've always got friends here hopefully we can encourage each other.
Being supportive of each other is definitely the way to go about things!! Its perfectly fine to feel like you want to mix but also struggle at the same time. Just don't give up and people are here if you want to talk 🙂
@rocksmysocks
I relate... I'm lonely and want friends, but actually doing so and being around people is so stressful :')
@SleepyShyCat I do find sometimes it helps to talk this way with people as I can at least breathe between my words. I think I put a lot of emphasis unintentionally on my words sometimes haha happy to make friends though. Everyone needs a good chat every now and then
I can relate to this statement nearly ALL the time! I hate myself for it, but maybe it's totally normal to function differently with other people 🤔
@rocksmysocks
I hear you, people stress me out too
I have no true friends left and it's apparently my fault so 🤷
