I can't get comfortable around people
I get all weird, I don't know how to act or what to say. Then I overthink everything I did or say and feel bad, stupid, dumb... I get nervous, can't act natural and just be myself. I only feel okay with people I love and trust.
Hi @thenewkaty!
I know how you feel, and it flipping stinks right! For me, the overthinking really is the problem, as it shuts me off from the outside world and keeps me hostage and as a result, no spontaneous thoughts can come through. To bring myself back to the present, I usually take a few deep breaths and name 10 objects around me. Take it easy, and love yourself because I'm sure you have the best intentions with all your loved ones, and they love you back just the way you are!
Ugh I thought I was the only one. I literally make myself look like a idiot. As soon as my brain starts going I say the dumbest things and then the next 5 years obsess over how stupid I was for saying that one thing.
Same here. I feel like everyone will look at me weird if i say something. So i usually ended up saying nothing and look stupid. When everones attention starts to go to my direction, i want to go invisible. I always act awkward and worse at family occasions or anything that involves being in a place where there are lots of people around.
I get like this. I agree with you and what the other people who had commented had said. I have those experiences too. It is hard to be myself when people are always saying things to me like "you are crazy" & "something is wrong with you".
When I'm in a situation whereby I have talk to people I find myself stuttering and saying strange things. When I get home I spend the rest of the night thinking of all the smart things i could have said.
Wow. I can completely relate to overthinking about what to say and how to say it. When I finally do speak I wish I hadn’t. I’ve unfortunately gotten to the point where I don’t talk at all unless I know the person. Otherwise I answer with simple yes or no question. I don’t elaborate.
Try the art of living sky breathing meditation or something similar like transcendental meditation or inner engineering But also you are okay the way you are, sometimes around violent people even emotionally you have to be more aloof to protect yourself
