Fears of growing up
Or so I think it is, I'm not even sure if I post this in the right place. It's the fear about everything I have to deal with by myself.
I'm an Asian living in Asia society and I've been worrying about lots after I graduated 6 months ago. I'm worry about having a stable income, my parents' health, other's opinions about how immature I am, about getting married before 30s when I don't even have a boyfriend for ages, and about how to deal with everything when my family is not here to guide me (housing, money management, relationships, etc.)
I'm worry cuz I know in Asia there'll be no one who will help you happily willingly unless you pay them...
I also fear about having to be completely independent, I just try to learn everything from my parents
@Amethystos I here you. I feel you. I understand. Moving into Adult hood is a big change in anyones life. I understand your worried. Being an Adult has its rewards. You get to share you wisdom with others,in time. You can even help others too. I hope this helps.
@Amethystos
I know a little about some Asain cultures and in Thailand for instance the girls perfect the use of their sexuality to get a man. The man give gifts to the women's family if he is worthy. Your needs will be met, but you also need another skill such as the all popular cooking in restaurants. Thai women try their best to attract American or German men, because it honors the family. The women is considered very sucessful if she marries and moves to Germany or the United States, and is able to send money home to help her family. When Thai women become pregnant they want to have their child in Thailand and all the family women car for the pregnant women in the last 3-4 months of pregnancy.
Is your culture simular to Thai?
@ Uhm, it's not THAT bad. I don't know how it's over there but in my country, people usually think girls should get married when she's in her 20s. When you get to 30s without a bf, others will call you "spinters", which in my culture means "left on the shelf". Some families don't care about that but unfortunately my family does. But I'm thinking I don't want to get married since my parents' marriage is not a happy one....
I understand your fear as someone who is struggling with these worries myself. I'm a young adult who graduated not that long ago and my fears mostly concern getting older and not being able to find a job, a girlfriend or eventually losing my parents. Growing up is scary and it's totally normal to feel like that. I think the best you can do is to live in the moment and focus your time on the things you can change like finding a job.
You also said in Asia there's not many people willing to help, I'm not familiar with Asian culture but what's about family and friends? If you find they can't help you willingly then you can still try to learn from them.
I hope this helps and that you'll find comfort soon. 
@NigelS Thank you so much, yeah, that's exactly what I'm worrying about. I don't really want to tell my friends about that cuz they have their own busy lives, they don't have much time. Family is a choice yes, but I can only tell them part of it since they are the cause of the others (such as usually tell me to get married, getting a better job). The only lucky thing about this is the fears are not there 24/24, they only hit me once in a while.
