Avoiding but wanting to socialize

This is exactly me! I don’t know what the answer is but I hear you completely

Same here, i also want to have freedom but i can't just give myself a freedom....

Same here :(

@Lilyhux

I can relate aswell, im paranoid, and i have very fear based thiking which im trying to figure out how to prevent, but i say sometimes if you fall into fear thoughts i think that gives you leeway to jump in and do the thing. Is the fear of socializing irl or online if i may ask, or just in general.

@Lilyhux

Hello!, When I feel this way, usually I pick topic that I'm okay about.

For example I like Comic caled "A" , I will search friend that like one, and the conversation end up talking about those character, storyline, plot.

So the other person wont mention anything about me, not asking about my name, age, or anything, just focusing in having fun about our favorite subject

I hope it will helps~

same with me. I hope we all can get through this though.

I am like this because I struggle with accepting intimacy. For me, it's a defense mechanism. I'd suggest taking baby steps and setting small daily goals to build relationships with the people around you. Always celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how small they may seem. You can retrain your brain, but it will take time. If you stick with it, eventually you will build upon your little accomplishments and it won't seem so scary anymore.

I feel exactly like this. I've always felt like I didn't want friends, like there's no desire. Yet I would find myself complaining I didn't have any, then when asked why I didn't make some, I said I didn't want any. I saw it as exhausting and having no benefit. But I am also just so lonely and want to connect with people. I really don't understand it.

@LilyhuxI

Hello-Exactly how I feel. Nice to know I'm not the only one.

I feel the exact same way. I've been really trying to put myself out there, but still gone nowhere. If you get an answer could you let me know?