am i in the wrong?

@shadowmoonking

Hi there! That does sounds like a frustrating matter to deal with! Boundaries are such an important thing in our lives and should be respected and adhered too, so I don't think you are in the wrong at all, you are wanting to keep your personal space your own and have that allocated time slot for yourself which is more than understandable!

I am sorry to hear this is happening to you and it might benefit to potentially ask your counsellor if there is anyway they could speak to the people at home, as if it comes from them, they possibly might listen and have a better understanding? Obviously, you do whatever feels right for you, but do not be afraid of telling people this. You are so in the right for reacting in the way you are, I completely understand! I hope this situation gets sorted and resolved soon!! 

I completely understand how frustrating this may be. You are not in the wrong for not sharing a personal conversation between you and your counselor. Whatever you guys talk about is between you.

if you have a hard time taking 15 minutes to yourself, maybe try to dedicate this time early in the morning, or go outside if you can.

If ever you find yourself having a hard time having this conversation with your family, you could also ask your counselor to communicate to them on your behalf.

Hello @shadowmoonking

My name is Gia, and I am an active listener on 7 Cups. That sounds very frustrating and annoying, especially as it has occurred multiple times and has escalated to the point where they don’t allow you to lock your door and ignore your signs. You seem very accommodating in telling your housemates what you are doing and placing signs. I’m sure this is even more upsetting when you are utilizing these 15 minutes to better yourself and focus on yourself. I would love to chat with you about this. Please feel free to message me whenever you are free and we can find a time that works for both of us. Best, Gia

@shadowmoonking

hello, this sounds so frustrating! It’s absolutely valid to have time to yourself, and to set those healthy boundaries with others to make sure you get that time. 15 minutes alone isn’t a very big ask, I don’t think you’re in the wrong at all. Also, you don’t need to disclose anything you talk about with your counsellor, that’s confidential. I hope that the situation improves for you, they really need to respect your privacy and boundaries. 

@shadowmoonkingIt sounds like you’re facing a tough situation with your need for personal time and the interruptions from your family. To address this, start by having an open and honest conversation with them about why those 15 minutes are crucial for your mental well-being. Explain how uninterrupted time helps you manage your anxiety and ask for their support. If locking the door isn’t feasible, consider designating a specific area in your home where you can have that time without disturbances. Additionally, think about involving your counselor in the conversation, as they can offer strategies and support. It’s also important to practice self-compassion; it’s normal to feel frustrated in this situation, and establishing boundaries can take time and persistence.

@shadowmoonking 

Hello, I think it is perfectly reasonable to ask for 15 minutes to yourself. It is a small amount of time. I also think it is reasonable to ask for privacy. I understand that when someone cares about you, they would want to know those things, but it is up to you to tell them. 

@shadowmoonking

I am sorry to hear that you are struggling with this. I can only imagine the impact that it has had on you. It sounds very stressful and frustrating to have an intrusive family that wants to know what is going on with you and a counselor. You deserve privacy in your room also. Having time alone in your room is very important and essential to you and your family should try to understand that. Your family should be more respectful to your privacy and maybe it might help if you gave your counselor permission to talk to them about your privacy. But I know that conversations with the counselor are confidential so you have privacy with your counselor. And what you are asking for with the 15 minutes to yourself sounds reasonable. It is up to you to decide if you want your counselor to talk and advocate for you to your family. I hope this is helpful.