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Work and roommates help needed

Shygal1994 July 19th, 2018

Hi, a lot is going on right now. So the first thing is that at work there is this person I work with, who acts as if I'm the most irritating thing there is. She just seems short with me everytime I've talked to her. When I ask a question she acts as if it was the dumbest thing I could have said. I've tried killing her with kindness, ignoring her and just focusing on work, I've tried talking to her about it and she just said I'm "being oversensitive" so I just stopped talking to her all together unless I have to. I've talked to my supervisor about it and she told me she's not the babysitter and she wont do anything about it. It's gotten to the point where I get so stressed out being alone with her, I've been waking up each morning before work feeling sick to my stomach about going in and possibly having to deal with her.

The next thing is that I live with 2 roommates, our rent is pretty cheap, as in $290 per person. One of them quit her job without anything to fall back on a few months ago, and is trying to sell door to door makeup. The other works about 24 hours a week. They just told me that they're thinking of getting their own place. I asked them why and they said it's too expensive here. But they found a house for $15,000 they want to buy, but the house has roof issues and a basement wall that's collapsing in, among other things. So they can't afford $300 a month but they can afford a house that pretty much should be torn down? I asked them what about me?

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VenusMoon123 July 19th, 2018

@Shygal1994

Im probably not the best person to be giving out advice, but I wholeheartedly understand your first situation. If she isnt your higher up and a regular employee like yourself, Id suggest being upfront with her. Hostile work environment, where you feel like you have to be careful about everything you do is stressful for anyone. Its not pleasant or productive for you. If you want, express to her what you want out of your work relationship. If she continues after your talk then start ignoring her behavior and dont give her the satisfaction of seeing you upset. Not much else you can do when your boss isnt cooperative.

As for your roommates, If they want to make choices that are going to leave them broke, let them learn. Just start looking for new people to move in with you. With $300 as the rent I think youll have more than willing people. 😊

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Shygal1994 OP July 19th, 2018

@VenusMoon123

Thanks for the advice! I actually have tried talking to her and I said 'maybe I'm being oversensitive but it seems like you're irritated with me everytime we talk' and all she was that i am being oversensitive. So I feel like theres mo one I can turn to there, and I dont want to bring it up to the owner because I dont want to make waves. So I'm pretty sure I will have to look for a new job as I'm not happy there.

I had a bad panic attack that made me take today off of work. My boss was fine with it, but then several hours later after finding out about the roommate thing I asked if I can have tomorrow off to pack my stuff. She got angry and said I'd better be there on Monday. It's like I dont plan on everything falling apart at once. When I get panic attacks I lose so much energy I pretty much sleep and almost get sick the rest of the day, I dont plan on having them and I'm doing what I can to control it. But not everyone understands how hard anxiety is :/

Update on the roommate situation:

They told me they are going to go through with the house and now I have to leave because I can't afford the 900 a month myself. I'm mostly upset with them because they have me no notice. I'm happy to move back with my parents and I can get my stuff together to buy my own place, but I didn't think itd be so soon.

Ugh I just feel like my life is falling apart.

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