Stressed About Things I Can
I've always been one of those people that try to control certain aspects of my life. I've noticed it most recently in my relationship, where if my bf doesn't do things the way I normally would or what I deem to be correct, it frustrates me and causes tension. I know my way is not always right but I find myself getting stuck in these situations and it upsets me that I react the way I do. Currently stressing over the rise in COVID cases, and I know life needs to move on as this will most likely be around for a while. But I'd be lying if I didn't say I was scared...I caught myself today completely overwhelmed and consumed by the fact that this virus is spiking and is here to stay. It makes me feel like life won't resume as normal. And while this isn't something I can control, I feel like that's what makes it stressful.
@neonAcai8801
I understand - it's extremely hard when you just want things to happen a certain way and it doesn't happen. Because when things stay the same, when things are how you like them, everything is better. It's relaxed. It's comforting because it's all expected, and you know what is going on. When people go away from the normal you want, it's horribly stressful.
I feel the same way, but unfortunately I haven't found any answers.
@thoughtfulmomma it's nice to hear someone else feels the same way. I don't realize it in the moment, only after it's too late do I notice. I don't want it to affect my relationships, but I do find it to be one of the main reasons and causes of tension in my relationships.
@neonAcai8801
I think sometimes what sort of helps me is being able to grab control of something small - something that's just about me or for me. Like taking a drive somewhere. You choose where you want to go, what the temperature is in the car, what music you want to listen to. You don't feel guilty if you go through a drive-thru and snack a shake or a burger, you don't feel guilty if you just sit in a parking lot and cry for a minute. Just take control of some time for yourself.
Unfortunately we can't control what's happening with the rest of the world. But we can grab tiny little parts of it to cling to and feel safe and "normal" in.