Relationship Anxiety
Hello everyone, I’m feeling anxious and stressed tonight. I’m having a hard time communicating my feeling with my significant other. I’ve been feeling stressed and anxious and to help me with that I recommend something I know will make me feel better. Spend the whole day together doing things we love and actually spending time face to face and then making love. The fact that I don’t want us to Play video games at all for just one day seems to be tearing him apart and it makes me think, am I asking too much? When I told him we’d be spending the day together he thinks I mean just fooling around in bed or playing video games because “what else would we do” as if we don’t spend most summer days fishing and being outdoors. Anyways I just wish he’d listen and try and understand where I’m coming from. I’ll never understand choosing video games over your partner..
@MissSaint21
Hello, sorry you are dealing with this kind of thing. I'm going to assume from your name that you are "she" and your SO is "he." Speaking as a guy, myself, it's sometimes difficult to share our feelings verbally, and so expressing feelings through actions, togetherness, or lovemaking is our "love language." For him, fooling around and playing video games means you're together, and maybe, for him, that's enough! he thinks of it as a good thing. But it sounds like you want something more, maybe a verbal expression of his care and connection to you.
Sometimes girls and women, in relating to a male, want to actually hear him say the words "I love you, I love spending time with you, you're so fun to be with" etc. That's where he's got to learn to open his mouth and say things like that. :) Sometimes for us, "doing" takes priority over "saying." Does that make sense?
When you say "choosing video games over your partner" do you mean the games start and he tunes you out until the game is finished? So you're basically sitting there playing along, Player Two, but bored, and wishing you were somewhere else, doing something else?
What does "spending the day together" look like for you?
