Living arrangements
Hello everyone, so me and my boyfriend have been together for almost two years now and we still live separately. Me with my parents, him with his grandma whom raised him. Now his grandma has poor health due to battling cancer. I understand completely the importance of taking care of her, I love her like my own grandmother and encourage him to take care of her. Recently I’ve been thinking about how I’m ready to move to the next half of our relationship by living together. We would be living right down the road from her and I encourage him to be there every day with her if need be all i ask is that we sleep in the same bed together at night. His worries is that she’ll fall and hurt herself and he won’t be there fast enough to help her, yet he still stays with me at my parents which is a bit further from her house versus where we would move. Is it selfish of me to just want to sleep with him in the same bed? That’s all I’m asking, he can be with her all day while I’m at work then come home at night. I feel like I can’t talk to him about it cause no matter what I say I feel selfish and greedy. Any advice?
No I wont say you are selfish... May be it is natural to want to spend time with your person. But I think may be you can tell him that at the end of the day you want to be beside him. And you already said you want to take care of his grandma with him which is actualy really great. But if he is not ready to do that you also have to understand what he fears.. may be not being able to help his grandma when she is in pain makes him worried just like you would worry if he is in pain and you are not being able to help him... I hope this helps... May be it is super hard to bring this up but just you can try to talk about it once..
