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Kept thinking about bad memories

fluffymarshmallowpuff December 27th, 2020

I have no one else to talk to and my best friend is not the person I wanna vent my problems to cause I don't wanna burden them with my own.

I just want someone here that can relate to this post cause I have been feeling very lonely for a couple of weeks.

So, these memories of when I was 13-16 came back since I just turned 18 in April. And for a couple of months these memories kept flooding back and forth and I don't know what to do about it? I won't go into further detail yet,b but all I can say is that I feel negative emotions over stuff I did at that age. Social media doesn't make me feel any better about it. The community has this mentality that you can't change and grow out of bad behavior and I'm starting to think it's true. It's affecting my friends too because of social media. I wanna vent to someone who has something in common with me but I don't know who. :(

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NguyenHoangLong December 27th, 2020

@fluffymarshmallowpuff I don't know how much we are in common, but at least we are alone and 18 years old. It seems like things like this doesn't happen often. So, it may be a good opportunity to savor past memory. Life will soon distract you from them.

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fluffymarshmallowpuff OP December 27th, 2020

@NguyenHoangLong

Well I hope it does. I've been trying to distract myself by staying away from social media apps from triggering these memories and so far I've been doing ok!

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thoughtfulmomma December 27th, 2020

@fluffymarshmallowpuff

I am well beyond 18, :), but that just means I have lived through a lot of different experiences. First, the past shapes who you are, or who you are becoming. And we all.... ALL OF US... have done things in our past that is: stupid, reckless, thoughtless, foolish, selfish, and just downright awful.

When we're young we have to do these things. It's how we grow. Everyone older than you can tell you not to touch the hot stove, but until you touch it yourself, and feel the pain, you're not going to be able to understand what the big deal is.

When you look back on the choices you feel bad about, look at them objectively. Honestly, you're already ahead of the game. You're looking back and thinking "that was really not a great way to have been" which means you're not choosing to go in that same direction again.

And the world WANTS people to change. They need people to change for the better. Everyone loves a story about someone who had it rough, or went through some crap, or was just a certain way, and then turned it all around and made their life better. Maybe some people around you think you can't change. Maybe they think you'll always be the person you were at 13. But that was a long time ago, and your post here says that you're not that same person.