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You
can immediately take advantage of the fact that we live in a world where you
can freely choose your thoughts or feelings. Often easier said than done, but
it can be done.
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Suppose
a stranger tells you that he fears that his car will be stolen. When you hear
this statement, you wonât worry, because you wonât be affected, even if his
fear comes true. Your mind evaluates within milliseconds that what the stranger
told you is not a danger to you, so there is nothing to be afraid of.
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You
also have to realize that what the stranger told you is just an assumption. He
has the right to assume all sorts of negative things. Your mind might say, âI
donât buy into it, because there is no point in being uncomfortable with this
personâs thoughts.â
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Of
course, we live in a world where the future is uncertain. Please note that the
future was not certain 100 years ago, and the future wonât be certain 100 years
from now either. Fortunately, the word âfutureâ is just an abstract concept. We always
live in the present moment. So when you think of the future, you do it in the
present moment. If you think about positive
things in the present moment, and give full attention to what you are doing,
the chances of it coming true will increase.
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The
stranger has the fear that his car will be stolen. What advice can we give him?
How can he minimize the chances of his car being stolen? In which case is the
least likely that his car will be stolen? When he is currently thinking of
ideas to prevent car theft and insuring his car and taking action, or when he
is constantly worrying about it, without doing anything to reduce the chances
of the negative outcome?
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In
order to maximize your chances of a positive outcome in any area of your life,
you can think about with confidence how to do it right now. The good news is that when you
think about something positive, you canât think of something negative at the
same time. I suggest you start thinking about the joyful things you will do
when you wake up tomorrow. Even better, you can think about what joyful things
you can do right now, and then act on them accordingly.
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At
the same time, you can be fully aware of what you are doing and what is happening around you and to your loved
ones. This way you maximize your chances of immersing yourself in a pleasurable
activity, avoiding unwanted situations, and taking care of your loved ones will
make them happier and more likely live longer.
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Just
focus on the present moment. I recommend you forget about what happens next,
because you will realize that your life and fate always happens now. And if you
pay more attention to what you think and do now, you can eventually be happy
all the time. This will automatically take care of the past as well as the
future from this point forward, which is of secondary importance.
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The
challenge is to change your thoughts, which in turn will change your emotions
in a positive way. Donât worry if a negative thought pops up into your head. It
happens to anyone. Just notice it and tell yourself: âOK, this might be
something to worry about. But Iâm the boss, so instead of worrying, I decide to
think of a solution or a positive idea, and immediately start implementing it.â
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I
hope you are closer to knowing how to cope with your situation.