Anxiety is the root of my anger

After putting up with intolerable things for many years at home, I have recently become prone to angry outbursts. I realized that I get angry because because of my anxiety about something that keeps happening. I resent my family for criticizing me for getting angry occasionally because they yelled at me nearly every day of my life. They feel justified in yelling at me and calling me names all the time, but if I ever raise my voice once I am labeled as a bad person. And the injustice makes me more angry. I am just angry all the time. I have to figure out how to rise above it because those insecure ignorant scum shouldn't have any power over my mood.