Anxiety about helping people?

@anyonymouscollegestudent

It's something I experience too. I don't have intense technical details, but I know (also by experience) that being in a relationship can make you extremely sensitive to your partner's feelings and you can feel them as your own. It's common to feel helpless when you cannot help someone as well, even for those without generalized anxiety. But if you add anxiety to it it is kind of bound to happen.

I know it can be difficult. But this is a situation where coping mechanisms and healthy boundaries between your own emotions and those of others come into play.

I hope you can find a way that works for you. And I totally feel for you.

@LonerWolf1

thank you. It's really helpful knowing that it's not just a me thing, and I've been working on different ways to cope (I've found a few but I'm still looking for something that works every time I need it to)

@anyonymouscollegestudent

You might be experiencing an emotion explained by the "dreaded drama triangle" model of social interaction per Psychologist Dr. Karpman.

The trick is to follow the good Listener guidelines and let them solve their own problems, not be the Rescuer.

The Drama Triangle Role problems are explained along with alternative roles that work better in this video here...

http://nicertube.com/q80ns0

@7motivation

that video was really helpful, thank you!

@anyonymouscollegestudent

You say you like helping people, but are you helping them for them or for yourself? Is the issue that you don't have self gratification after you are not helpful? Are you a people pleaser?

@BurdensDown

was super busy with finals and just saw this

I think it's more because I hate it when other people are struggling with something and I can't help. I'm the oldest child and I've always been the "helper" out of my friend group so helping people is kinda what I've always done

@anyonymouscollegestudentI