Fear of calling someone
Even thinking about calling someone gives me anxiety. I can
@conscientiousGlobe9875 I can get it. Some level of fear about it is there in me as well. Like, what if someone else picks up?
Is your fear of the same level with everyone, or does it vary from person to person?
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@conscientiousGlobe9875 What thoughts occur to you, like what worst can happen?
Well i have such severe anxiety typing this is freaking me out.Alo i cant spell worth a flip.
@conscientiousGlobe9875 I get you. I also hate making phone calls. Sometimes I'm pleasantly surprised at how efficient and quick it is. And sometimes it can be a disaster. There's no way to know so I prefer chat or email (or even face to face for facial expressions).
You're not alone!!!
@conscientiousGlobe9875 I have that as well, even if its my own family I get nervous and scared. Sometimes I just have to set a time say in five minutes and by that time I have to stop thinking and just call. I am ok once I get to speak to like granddad or my sister, it is just the first part. Even if I panic and cannot make the right sounds for words they normal just say go slow.
I never had that much trouble with calling people that I knew when I was younger except strangers or unfamiliar numbers... it only became this bad as I got older, I tried to fix on my own.. I got a job as a telemarketer selling advertising spots to small businesses.... but the company I worked for recycled numbers.. which caused a lot of people to yell an insult me. I got threatened on a daily basis for just calling and interrupting their day... I shake and start panicking about what I'm going to say, how they will react and what they will say.... it's a rabbit hole of panic and I just spiral down it...
@cryingmommabear2799 I could understand where your anxiety stems from. I imagine as a telemarketer you dealt with many frustrated people and came to associate the two.
I also have a fear of making phone calls that I think stems from bullying that happened to me as a teen. I had alot of ‘fr-enemies; girls that claimed to be my friend but often actively bullied me over the phone telling me how ugly/dumb/useless I was. Now any time I call someone I assume theyre judging me and just going to make me feel like crap. I actively avoid calls when I can and 100% prefer text over voice chat.
I try to remind myself that the strangers I talk to over the phone arent the same people that bullied me. And even if strangers judge me it ultimately doesnt really impact my quality of life. But its difficult to shake that kind of conditioning.
Oh, such a familiar feeling... I do everything to avoid calling people - customer service, various businesses, friends... My dating life was affected by it too.. I just stopped texting people as soon as they showed intent to call...
I always try to use emails, online chats or even talk in person, so I don't have to make a phone call. I never answer unknown numbers...
This makes no sense as I worry that I won't know what to say or I always think that I won't hear/understand what people say...
@yoveeta I can relate to this completely.It also affected my dating life severely. I was afraid to enquire about something through a phone call and even order things. But I've learned to overcome it. I've challenged my fears.