Morning and Anxiety
So, I have had a rough couple of days with my anxiety. Last night when I went to bed I was “okay” and actually slept the whole night.
This morning my anxiety is ramping up again and it’s because I’m worrying about several things. The problem is, I’m not worrying about myself. I’m not thinking about myself.
I’m thinking of my son, my friend, other family members - all dealing with problems of one kind or another. It’s making me all sick with anxiety and it’s even more upsetting that I’m not even worried about myself and my own issues.
I need to learn to start caring for myself a lot more. I have no control over the lives and choices of everyone else. I can only control me and my reactions to them.
But, it’s just hard to change my way of thinking and addressing things. Any suggestions??
@thoughtfulmomma
Hey there 🌼 I can feel how much you care about the people around you, and that’s such a beautiful quality. It’s also really tough when that worry starts to weigh so heavily on you. It’s understandable to be concerned about your loved ones, but it’s so important to also make sure you’re caring for you.
One thing that might help is reminding yourself that you can offer love and support to others without taking on their anxiety. You’re doing the best you can for them, but ultimately, their choices and experiences are out of your control. It’s okay to set those boundaries in your mind and remind yourself that your well-being matters too.
Maybe start by setting aside moments where you do focus just on yourself—whether it’s deep breathing, taking a break, or even doing something that makes you feel good. It can be hard to shift your mindset, but every small step towards caring for you counts. You’re doing so much already, and you absolutely deserve some of that kindness in return.
Sending you lots of support—you’re not alone in this! 💛
@Mya000
"One thing that might help is reminding yourself that you can offer love and support to others without taking on their anxiety. You’re doing the best you can for them, but ultimately, their choices and experiences are out of your control. It’s okay to set those boundaries in your mind and remind yourself that your well-being matters too."
This, in a nutshell, is what drives my anxiety. This is why I see a therapist. Because I take on EVERYONE'S pain, problems, choices, etc. and my mind desperately works overtime to "fix" and "solve" things that are not mine to fix and solve. And it has burned me out.
If I could get to that point you describe, if I could be that person, I would no longer suffer from anxiety. I just don't know how to get there - but I'm working on it.
@thoughtfulmomma I hear you, I know it’s easier said than done. It’s so admirable that you’re working on it. Being gentle with yourself and setting boundaries will take time, but with each step, you're moving closer to where you want to be.
If you ever need to talk, I’m here. 🤗
@thoughtfulmomma well worrying about others, means you have a great heart, your a great person, who just wants the best for your loved ones🙂 ❤ it's very sweet, that you care about others before yourself. But the thing is if your struggling mentally and don't choose to take care of yourself. Then you will just get worse, and won't be able to help anyone at all. So please take care of your own needs first, keep your brain healthy so you can support others ❤ hugs you tightly ❤