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Hopeless

Okay so I was never the type of person who dates or ever dated, growing up I only focused on my sturdiest and grades. That’s because I come from a very toxic and dysfunctional family where love was never there. Only trauma and fights and crying etc. so I didn’t even know what love was growing up. Now I do cuz I fell in love with someone. But it was one sided. I’ll have to move on now. But I cannot.

Because I feel like I will never feel this way for anyone ever again, the guy I love will be happy with someone else and move on with life and I’ll be stuck here, never find anyone, I’ll be unhappy for life. My life will become like my parents. Unhappy. growing up, not having friends or supportive parents have made me very independent. I always have to be my own therapist, my own advisor. But I want someone to be there for me. I want someone to be my emotional companion. Everyone has at least someone in their life. They have a best friend or a partner. I have none. And sometimes doing everything for myself all alone makes me feel really bad about myself. Makes me feel like I’ll always have to live like this and I’ll never have anyone in my life who’s gonna love me or listen to me or be there for me. How do I overcome this?

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ASilentObserver March 7th

@sensitiveBalsam7250  Thank you for opening up with us balsam. It sounds like you've been through a lot, and that this recent breakup has brought up difficult feelings of rejection and loneliness. I get it you are feeling scared about not finding another partner or feeling like you'll be alone forever. But please know that healing takes time, and it's okay to take things one step at a time. What are some small steps you could take towards healing and finding connection?

sensitiveBalsam7250 OP March 10th

Thank u for your words. I felt better when u said this is like reading your own story, knowing that I’m not the only one going through this. Thank u.

warmheartedBunny4 March 11th

I wish I could knew how to answer this.