Breakups
I just finished a break up! I’m following steps to help me become a better person. So I do not hurt like this. Anyone who is going thru the same. Be strong! And time will help you!
@Amigo456
i feel broken;/
My boyfriend broke up with me because he feels he's not treating me well, and yeah he doesn't actually. But I still love him and it's difficult to let go
I finally broke up with my ex about a month ago. I completely blocked and cut him off everywhere. No contact since. It's been a *** of breakdowns and confusion. Sometimes I think about going back and try to work things out. But I always remind myself of all the right reasons I left. He's always in my mind. I hate that I still care because it's making the 'no contact' much more difficult.
On my weak moments I try to remember all the bad experiences and how badly he treated me. I made an oath to myself to not allow anyone to make me feel less of a human as he did. So, here's to healing and moving forward. We can all get through this.
@leejieundlwlrma just an update 4 months later. I'm soooo much better and happier. I met so many amazing people and we made so many good memories that I can't even remember the pain and sadness I was going through during the break up.
This is a testament that life does get better. The only way out is through. Feel what you need to feel. Reach out to people, go out and live life, you'd be surprised on what's in store for you. Just hang in there.
I was in a 3-year relationship until 2 weeks ago. Everything was great (or so I lead myself to believe). We were both mature individuals who genuinely care and love each other. I’ve always been a very independent and career driven woman and he supported my move to another city last year. He tried to settle in a city that was a 1.5 hr drive away so that we can still see each other on weekends. About 8 months into that, he decided he didn’t like living in that city nor the one I moved to, and decided to go back to our old place. All through end of October until early January, we had long vacations and travelled places in between my being away for work. In fact, we were together on holiday traveling for 3 whole weeks starting mid-December. He has always been supportive of my career and we never were so clingy or messaging each other throughout the day so I never gave it any thought when I got a busier than usual after New Year’s until he broke up with me last February 25.
2 days before that, we were our usual teasing selves and on a Saturday morning, he suddenly told me that he felt like we were going our separate ways for a while already and brought up the fact that we haven’t really been intimate for a while. This hurt me deeply as intimacy is very important for me but he was struggling with it since after the first few months we dated. He was physically sick for a while (really bad migraines) and after those went away, we never quite returned to the level of physical intimacy we enjoyed. I tried to discuss that problem with him several times but he always assured me that he loved me and that we were building a future together. Because I always loved him for the person that he was, I tried to let go of my own doubts and needs, rather than lose him from my life. I was willing to sacrifice my needs over his presence in my life.
That’s probably why I feel so betrayed. My mind knows that this was right, and a very small part of me is actually hopeful that I still have the chance to find the right person for me someday. It doesn’t change the fact that I feel so mad though and that my ex ended our relationship so abruptly without proper explanation or apology. Over video call too.
The support my family, friends and colleagues have shown me are tremendous though, I was starting to heal last week until I accidentally happened to see a common friend’s post with my ex in the picture 4 days after our break up, carrying on like everything was fine. That really hurt me and I felt like It took me back a few steps in my healing journey.
Regardless, I’m in this community to try to be a friend to other people who haven’t gotten the support I had. Talking about it really helps. Just talk and talk and talk until you’re weary of it and it doesn’t hurt as it used to anymore. Hugs to everyone suffering at this moment. My heart goes out to all of you!!
@Amigo456thank you
@Amigo456 u got this
@Amigo456 you will get through it... treat it as an opportunity to work on yourself.. you will love at as no one is there to stop you!!
@Amigo456 i am soo happy for you you go girl!
@Amigo456 i seriously doubt it. but youknow, were not the same, so to say, im still stuck after fifteen years, first off, i dont even want to be in this life to start with, but what can you do about it right, suddently your just in life, unwillingly, it was so nice before i appeared.
@Amigo456 currently going through a break up myself. Thanks for the positive vibes
