Anxiety and Social Anxiety
Hey guys,
Finally have the courage to post about this so um here I go!
Whenever I have to talk to people or ask questions I feel overwhelmed with stress and 'What if this happens!!?' (bad thoughts) if you know what I mean. I have tried explaining to my parents that I get anxious around people but they aren't having any of that.. I even struggle to talk to my friends! Think they hate me even though I might not even have proof they hate me!
My mum won't let me tell the counceller at school about it and I'm scared. for myself.
I get anxious around people lots and social situations scare me, it even got to the point when we were on holiday this year that my mum made me ask a lady at the place we were in a question, and I couldn't do it..
I didn't have a choice..
So this happened:
My voice was low, I was struggling to stay upright, my confidence was nowhere to be found, I found it hard making eye contact and my head was held down low and I couldn't really bring the words out..
Its not just that though..
Whenever I enter a place, I feel eyes watching me, that everyone is talking about me, whether its the whispers, drama, anything really.. As soon as I leave I feel like I'm all they're talking about, I feel like I'm the center of attention..
I think I have anxiety, social anxiety probably..
I need help.
Can you guys please help me..?
Thanks,
Kind Regards,
Marita
Hii Marita
Thank you for taking the first step in reaching out even though you have social anxiety. I feel you. It can be really torturous and stressful when you feel like everyone is judging you.
The counsellor can be a safe person to work on your potential social anxiety with by conversing with you privately as practice. They tend to be empathetic and therapeutic so it’s easier to open up to them. Are there any concerns that caused your mother to not want you to tell the counsellor about your potential social anxiety?
It’s actually awesome that you’ve tried to converse with a lady. It’s a good attempt forward.
The more you socialise, the more you will likely be used to socialising. It’s really stressful to be intentionally be exposed to more social events and socialising when you have social anxiety trust me but you will get desensitized. It can take years and it is completely normal. It’s going to be a huge struggle but you can do it with repeated efforts. I believe in you.
However torturous, I suggest not to let your anxiety take over your whole life even while not socialising. You can treat social anxiety as something to work on but you are worth so much more than your social life too. There’s many aspects in life so maybe you will find peace and comfort in some.
I will support you whenever you socialise and enter social events. Sending strength and sparkles to your way.
Kind Regards
Calming
Awww thank you so so much for this lovely reply @calmingcomfortero!!! Means lotz!
I don't trust the councellor as I'm already seeing her for something else and want out of it and don't want anymore sessions with her..I strongly feel like I've had enough counselling about it.. (itz something else btw not this just to clarify!!)
My mother said if I told the counceller that I want to get checked for whether I have Social Anxiety or not (if that's even a thing that can get checked for?) and I did end up having Social Anxiety then the teachers/principal wouldn't believe I get bullied :(
Thank you so so much for believing in me <3
Helps me yk?
Yeah..
I try my best but most of the time I don't even socialize with family and it's really hard for me at school, I even struggle to breath properly sometimes especially if I feel eyes on me :/
Thanks so so much again for these sweet messages @calmingcomfortero!! Made my day :0)
Thanks for accompanying me in my journey facing my anxiety <3
I was wondering if you wanna be friends?
Thanks again!!!
Kind regards,
Marita