I'm still working on it.
Well, my last post still hasn't been read by anyone, so I just want to share my latest situation. I really don't want to enter the civil service system of our country, which means a minimum of five years of service. During this period, I cannot leave my position for any reason, unless I am called to another position in the civil service system through selection or recommendation, but that would also take at least two years.
So I decided to settle down at the planning institute, work for half a year and then talk about my future – but now it seems that this path is also hopeless: I didn't settle down as a regular intern at all, without a contract, without salary, without access to the company computer (they were afraid of data outflow), and the person in charge who brought me in had already planned to jump to another company. But my aunt and uncle were supposed to arrange for me to transition here and then let me join the civil service system, so I can't fully tell them about my current predicament.
So, after months of being busy, I still hadn't found a job. So I frantically sent out my resume, praying to find a decent job in her city – even if it might not be well paid at the moment, even if the development prospects might not be very good at the moment. But it was so difficult, there were too many talented people in the capital, and most of my competitors had better schools than me. Not only that, but large companies often have high professional requirements for positions, and my major was not the best choice for them. And where can my major go – the planning institute, and this industry is already in decline.
She still emphasises the importance of the hukou, and I understand that that is her family's expectation, but with the review becoming more and more difficult, I basically think that we are unlikely to solve it in the short term. She is also very anxious, as so many schools still have little hope of admitting her as a PhD student.
I really want to gain her parents' approval. But so far, her parents don't really approve of me – if it were me, I wouldn't approve of my daughter marrying someone like me who has been unable to find a job.
So I'm still very anxious. As for location, she can accept me moving elsewhere for a short period of time and then finding a way to come to her city; as for career, I'm considering changing careers but there seems to be no way out; I don't know why I've applied to so many jobs and still haven't had any positive responses, and even the interview notifications are few and far between. My resume was still revised by some job search agencies.
Something must have gone wrong. But I don't know.
I want to see her soon, during the holidays. But her parents want to use the holidays to go back to their hometown to see her grandmother – she is not well, and more importantly, her parents will never agree to let her go on a trip with me alone, and I am very sad.
@Megalodon123
hi, just seeing this post. sending you love and strength and giving this a bump for others to see ❤️
@Heather225 Thank you. I think I could really use the comfort of someone else.
@Megalodon123
I can sense your frustration, trying so hard to get a job and not feeling like you are getting anywhere.
Job hunting is normally a numbers game: a case of applying enough times that the odds are stacking in your favour. So it's good you are still working on it. I know it is disheartening and demoralising to keep getting rejected, but the thing is to just keep trying. Be open minded - I ended up in a job that has no relation to what I studied and is something I would never have thought of applying for. And it's worked out really well.
I doubt you are doing anything wrong. And I'm sure there is nothing wrong with you. More likely there are just lots of others aiming for the same posts. It might be worth thinking about what you can add to your cv to make it stand out. What can you add that not everyone else has? But it probably is just a case of being near the top of the pile when someone starts selecting. And that's just random luck and perseverance.
Good luck.
Thanks for the encouragement.
I just don't know what I should be doing - I think I'd actually be able to go for a lot of positions, the one I'd most like to go for is consulting and writing research papers, which seems to be what I'd be good at, but due to the high level of competition, there's just very little hiring for those kinds of positions. I'm open to a lot of other positions as well, project management, HR administration work, land management, doing financial management or other directions, etc I think - after all, graduating from school to starting a job is supposed to be a re-learning process. I just don't want to be in sales, but it just so happens that in a down economy, sales is in the highest demand.
But what am I going to do? I don't. For big companies, like I mentioned, their positions have strict requirements for majors, such as finance, and as someone with an undergraduate degree in real estate development and management and a banking internship, I'm perfectly fine with starting at the top, but apparently recruiters are more likely to take students studying finance subjects into their consideration- -This is true.
As for small and medium-sized companies, I have also considered them. But it's hard to find their job postings on job boards and there are often a lot of risks associated with small and medium sized companies - such as mismanagement, heavy overtime, etc., which would make me hesitate.
Thanks for the advice though, I think I should reflect on myself and I'll try to get more people to look at what's wrong with my CV and work on revising it.