Anti Anxiety Toolbox

Ensuring we have the best mindset for the holiday

I've recognised that I am very often focused on my perfectionism and the semantics of occassions and events and I miss out on the meaning and the moments. I often find myself afterward thinking oh I should have enjoyed that moment with my family or I should have taken some time to enjoy that occassion.

So for the holiday, let's set our mindsets right and ensure we have the right inner dialogue. Let's focus on the meaning and the moments rather than being anxious over how it will go or overwhelmed by what it needs to be like or frustrated with how it isn't.

Here are some healthy alternatives to our general holiday mindsets:

For the anxiety:

Change: I am worried about how this should be or that should be or who should be doing what or whether to do it this way or that
To: Let me just take a deep breath and a step back and enjoy this moment however it is unfolding and with whomever. Its not such a big deal how it goes or who is doing what. It matters more that its my moment, my holiday

For the perfectionism:

Change: I have to do this and that. You shouldn't do it that way. Is everything in order?
To: Let me be a little more laid back and just enjoy the joy and have fun. It does not have to be perfect. Its fun either way. Let me remind myself to enjoy the moments

For the overwhelm:

Change: There is so much to do
To: Let's just go with the flow. Do a little at a time. But most importantly taking time to be with family and friends. Taking me-time. Taking time for fun and relaxation. Not focusing on go go go. Just remembering to slow down and take in the moment.

For the loneliness

Change: I have no one to spend the holiday with
To: I have this glorious opportunity to focus on myself and have some me-time.
Reminder: there are those who are wishing for some peace and quiet during this time.

I would love to hear what mindset corrections you have.

Happy holidays everyone. We got this. We're going to enjoy our holiday this year and its going to be beautiful and peaceful.