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Anti Anxiety Toolbox
Anxiety Support / by Sueperu
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 Tuesday
...See more Ensuring we have the best mindset for the holiday I've recognised that I am very often focused on my perfectionism and the semantics of occassions and events and I miss out on the meaning and the moments. I often find myself afterward thinking oh I should have enjoyed that moment with my family or I should have taken some time to enjoy that occassion. So for the holiday, let's set our mindsets right and ensure we have the right inner dialogue. Let's focus on the meaning and the moments rather than being anxious over how it will go or overwhelmed by what it needs to be like or frustrated with how it isn't. Here are some healthy alternatives to our general holiday mindsets: For the anxiety: Change: I am worried about how this should be or that should be or who should be doing what or whether to do it this way or that To: Let me just take a deep breath and a step back and enjoy this moment however it is unfolding and with whomever. Its not such a big deal how it goes or who is doing what. It matters more that its my moment, my holiday For the perfectionism: Change: I have to do this and that. You shouldn't do it that way. Is everything in order? To: Let me be a little more laid back and just enjoy the joy and have fun. It does not have to be perfect. Its fun either way. Let me remind myself to enjoy the moments For the overwhelm: Change: There is so much to do To: Let's just go with the flow. Do a little at a time. But most importantly taking time to be with family and friends. Taking me-time. Taking time for fun and relaxation. Not focusing on go go go. Just remembering to slow down and take in the moment. For the loneliness Change: I have no one to spend the holiday with To: I have this glorious opportunity to focus on myself and have some me-time. Reminder: there are those who are wishing for some peace and quiet during this time. I would love to hear what mindset corrections you have. Happy holidays everyone. We got this. We're going to enjoy our holiday this year and its going to be beautiful and peaceful.
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Anti Anxiety Toolbox
Anxiety Support / by Sueperu
Last post
 November 10th
...See more Hey guys Let's talk about our firsts some more. Let's share our stories about The first time we felt the grip of anxiety release a little The first time we woke up and our heart was relaxed The first time we learned something that was a like an epiphany and it was like a light in the darkness, helping us to rise up and take a few steps forward in conquering anxiety. The first time we made progress in finding relief from anxiety What firsts stories do you have? And those of us who are just starting out, we have so many firsts to look forward to. Hold onto that and be enthusiastic for brightness and lightness. Take heart in the success stories of our peers and know that that is where we are headed. To freedom and happiness. We got this guys. This is only the beginning of a lifetime of joy and bliss.
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Anti Anxiety Toolbox
Anxiety Support / by Sueperu
Last post
 November 9th
...See more Take a moment to just say something jovial and/or silly. A moment to just let loose and be the old you. Say something in a funny or witty mannerism. Do something free spirited. Do or say something that you used to say or do before anxiety came around. Or even put on an outfit that you used to love to wear. Do a little dance. (of course ignoring the anxiety as we have been practicing). Sometimes you just need to hear your own voice again. To feel like yourself again. It has helped me recently to speak in the mannerisms I used to speak. Joking to myself. Being witty. Even fiesty haha. It helps to hear our own voice amidst the noise in our heads. So take some time to just be your old self again. You're still YOU. Wonderful, smart, you. You just need a reminder. We got this guys. We are going to kick anxiety's butt to the curb and step out better and brighter than ever.
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Anti Anxiety Toolbox
Anxiety Support / by Sueperu
Last post
 August 25th
...See more There is no such thing as a relapse with anxiety. We often expect that once we start implementing the anxiety tools and starting to feel better, that we are supposed to only get better and better. We have to remember that just because we are beginning to fight against anxiety, it does not mean that all our human emotions will cease to exist. We are still human and have to experience our emotional spectrums. So we will still have moments where we feel negative and not so great. We do not have to see these moments as a relapse but a normal experience in life. We often get into the expectation that once we start to get control of our anxiety that we must never feel anxious again or have a bad day. This perception leads to us falling hard when we have setbacks even minor ones. It also leads to us catastrophising the setback and into our vicious cycles again. We then feel as if we've gone back to the start. Once we start to gain control of our anxiety, there are no relapses. Because now we have gained all our tools that have led us out of the anxiety. So when we have anxious moments or bad days, we can just take this lightly, knowing it will be short-lived and apply our many tools. We got this guys. We are not relapsing but are better equipped to handle the setbacks.
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Anti Anxiety Toolbox
Anxiety Support / by Sueperu
Last post
 August 11th
...See more A wonderful self care practice I like to treat myself to is the Just For Today practice. Carve out a little chunk of time to put anxiety, worrying and negative emotions aside and just allow yourself lovely feelings and moments. So Just For Today I'm going to allow myself to not worry about these things. They'll still be there tomorrow. For today, I'm just going to treat myself to a break to relax and unwind and do some things I love. Treat myself to some pampering, to some laziness, to some fun, to some blissfullness. Whatever that may look like for me. If you can't do a day. You can use Just For The Next 5 Minutes....I'm going to take a break from worrying and feeling low and perk myself up... With a cup of tea, a magazine, a funny video... What do you like doing? You can do 10 minutes, half an hour, 1 hour, 2 or 3 or 4 hours. Treat yourself today
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Anti Anxiety Toolbox
Anxiety Support / by Sueperu
Last post
 August 8th
...See more Hellooooz my fellow anxiety champions So has anyone been practising with ignoring their anxious thoughts and symptoms? Let's share. Let's celebrate our firsts, our wins. The first day we felt our chests ease a little. The first day we felt that flicker of brightness inside. The first day we woke up with our hearts not pounding so much. The first day we were able to get back into our normal routines a little. Aaah the relief. The joy. To our firsts and a future of lightness and brightness.
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Anti Anxiety Toolbox
Anxiety Support / by Sueperu
Last post
 August 7th
...See more Anti Anxiety Toolbox - The Art of Ignoring Don't try to calm your anxiety, get on with your day instead Part of ignoring anxious thoughts and symptoms is not interacting with them. We tend to spend a significant amount of time trying to reason out our anxious thoughts and often try to fight back at them. We sit trying to appease our anxious minds and calm our anxiety. All this does is continue the red flag brain cycle. What you're doing is signalling to the brain that this is still something that is significant to you. What you need to do to break this cycle is just leave it be and continue with your day. Go on with whatever you were doing before the anxiety struck. Do something different. Do something interesting or fun. Its kinda like not worrying about the anxious thoughts and symptoms. As if they're just some pesky mosquito. Shoo it away, move to a different area. Not so bothered by them. This breaks the cycle in the brain that red flags certain thoughts and sensations, which trigger the fight-or-flight response. So don't try to calm your anxiety. Don't try to reason out the thoughts in your head. Don't try to argue with them. Just ignore them and get on with your day. (Remember in the beginning you will have to do this with the symptoms and probably a very loud mind. But as you go about your day, these will quieten). Have fun with choosing different things to do that are more fun than sitting butting heads with your anxiety. Perhaps when you have a moment, make a list of things you would rather be doing. Then when anxiety hits, do those things on your list. I like taking a walk outside, watching the blue in the sky, the birds, the trees or maybe curling up with a good book. Let those feelings of excitement and relaxation flow through you. Why this works: Remember that when you feel anxious, don't interact with the anxiety, instead cast it aside and do something else. What this does is: 1. Signals to the brain that this thought or symptoms is no longer something that bothers you so it is now insignificant. The brain will then begin to stop the red flagging. 2. Shifts your attention so you're not focusing on the anxiety. Again this helps to stop the red flagging. In the beginning this is difficult because you will feel torn. But as always stick with the ignoring, stick with the not interacting. And you will soon find the symptoms becoming milder, your mind quietening. Plus you get a lot more done that you wanted to do for the day and you begin to include more things that are pleasant into your day. We got this guys. To pleasant and bright days
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