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Anti Anxiety Toolbox
Anxiety Support / by Sueperu
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Take a moment to just say something jovial and/or silly. A moment to just let loose and be the old you. Say something in a funny or witty mannerism. Do something free spirited. Do or say something that you used to say or do before anxiety came around. Or even put on an outfit that you used to love to wear. Do a little dance. (of course ignoring the anxiety as we have been practicing). Sometimes you just need to hear your own voice again. To feel like yourself again. It has helped me recently to speak in the mannerisms I used to speak. Joking to myself. Being witty. Even fiesty haha. It helps to hear our own voice amidst the noise in our heads. So take some time to just be your old self again. You're still YOU. Wonderful, smart, you. You just need a reminder. We got this guys. We are going to kick anxiety's butt to the curb and step out better and brighter than ever.
Anti Anxiety Toolbox
Anxiety Support / by Sueperu
Last post
 August 25th
...See more There is no such thing as a relapse with anxiety. We often expect that once we start implementing the anxiety tools and starting to feel better, that we are supposed to only get better and better. We have to remember that just because we are beginning to fight against anxiety, it does not mean that all our human emotions will cease to exist. We are still human and have to experience our emotional spectrums. So we will still have moments where we feel negative and not so great. We do not have to see these moments as a relapse but a normal experience in life. We often get into the expectation that once we start to get control of our anxiety that we must never feel anxious again or have a bad day. This perception leads to us falling hard when we have setbacks even minor ones. It also leads to us catastrophising the setback and into our vicious cycles again. We then feel as if we've gone back to the start. Once we start to gain control of our anxiety, there are no relapses. Because now we have gained all our tools that have led us out of the anxiety. So when we have anxious moments or bad days, we can just take this lightly, knowing it will be short-lived and apply our many tools. We got this guys. We are not relapsing but are better equipped to handle the setbacks.
Anti Anxiety Toolbox
Anxiety Support / by Sueperu
Last post
 August 11th
...See more A wonderful self care practice I like to treat myself to is the Just For Today practice. Carve out a little chunk of time to put anxiety, worrying and negative emotions aside and just allow yourself lovely feelings and moments. So Just For Today I'm going to allow myself to not worry about these things. They'll still be there tomorrow. For today, I'm just going to treat myself to a break to relax and unwind and do some things I love. Treat myself to some pampering, to some laziness, to some fun, to some blissfullness. Whatever that may look like for me. If you can't do a day. You can use Just For The Next 5 Minutes....I'm going to take a break from worrying and feeling low and perk myself up... With a cup of tea, a magazine, a funny video... What do you like doing? You can do 10 minutes, half an hour, 1 hour, 2 or 3 or 4 hours. Treat yourself today
Anti Anxiety Toolbox
Anxiety Support / by Sueperu
Last post
 August 8th
...See more Hellooooz my fellow anxiety champions So has anyone been practising with ignoring their anxious thoughts and symptoms? Let's share. Let's celebrate our firsts, our wins. The first day we felt our chests ease a little. The first day we felt that flicker of brightness inside. The first day we woke up with our hearts not pounding so much. The first day we were able to get back into our normal routines a little. Aaah the relief. The joy. To our firsts and a future of lightness and brightness.
Anti Anxiety Toolbox
Anxiety Support / by Sueperu
Last post
 August 7th
...See more Anti Anxiety Toolbox - The Art of Ignoring Don't try to calm your anxiety, get on with your day instead Part of ignoring anxious thoughts and symptoms is not interacting with them. We tend to spend a significant amount of time trying to reason out our anxious thoughts and often try to fight back at them. We sit trying to appease our anxious minds and calm our anxiety. All this does is continue the red flag brain cycle. What you're doing is signalling to the brain that this is still something that is significant to you. What you need to do to break this cycle is just leave it be and continue with your day. Go on with whatever you were doing before the anxiety struck. Do something different. Do something interesting or fun. Its kinda like not worrying about the anxious thoughts and symptoms. As if they're just some pesky mosquito. Shoo it away, move to a different area. Not so bothered by them. This breaks the cycle in the brain that red flags certain thoughts and sensations, which trigger the fight-or-flight response. So don't try to calm your anxiety. Don't try to reason out the thoughts in your head. Don't try to argue with them. Just ignore them and get on with your day. (Remember in the beginning you will have to do this with the symptoms and probably a very loud mind. But as you go about your day, these will quieten). Have fun with choosing different things to do that are more fun than sitting butting heads with your anxiety. Perhaps when you have a moment, make a list of things you would rather be doing. Then when anxiety hits, do those things on your list. I like taking a walk outside, watching the blue in the sky, the birds, the trees or maybe curling up with a good book. Let those feelings of excitement and relaxation flow through you. Why this works: Remember that when you feel anxious, don't interact with the anxiety, instead cast it aside and do something else. What this does is: 1. Signals to the brain that this thought or symptoms is no longer something that bothers you so it is now insignificant. The brain will then begin to stop the red flagging. 2. Shifts your attention so you're not focusing on the anxiety. Again this helps to stop the red flagging. In the beginning this is difficult because you will feel torn. But as always stick with the ignoring, stick with the not interacting. And you will soon find the symptoms becoming milder, your mind quietening. Plus you get a lot more done that you wanted to do for the day and you begin to include more things that are pleasant into your day. We got this guys. To pleasant and bright days
Anti Anxiety Toolbox
Anxiety Support / by Sueperu
Last post
 August 1st
...See more Anti Anxiety Toolbox Supporting Information to Maintain The Art of Ignoring   Healing and wellness is accomplished with a holistic approach. It is not one size fixes all kind of thing. Using the anxiety tools in combinations works wonders to provide holistic and sustainable healing.   So here are some supporting tips to help you maintain ignoring those pesky anxious thoughts and symptoms:   1.       Be mindful that when you first start practising ignoring, it doesn’t mean the anxious thoughts and symptoms will be gone. So you will be ignoring while the symptoms are still there. But keep ignoring despite your pounding heart, your twisting tummy or whatever your anxiety symptoms are.   Remember that is what ignoring is all about. Going about your day with those symptoms. (In the beginning. Always remember that they are going to fade as you keep ignoring).     2.       Something that helps with ignoring anxiety is this: We often think of anxiety as paralysing. As if we can’t move. We just want to lie there motionless. But we CAN move. Anxiety does not paralyse us. Try this the next time your in the throes of anxiety: Firstly ignore the symptoms. Yes they’re there but you’re choosing to ignore them. Then remind yourself that you can move, you can continue with whatever you were doing before anxiety struck. So try moving a toe. We can move a toe. Try moving your foot. We can move our foot. Try standing up. Try waving your hands about   If you were at your computer, try typing a letter. We can type a letter. We can type a word. One word. We can do that while we are feeling anxious. We’ll find we can even type a full sentence. While we felt I am so anxious I can’t type this document or this email, we can at least type a line. And once you start, you’ll find that you can type way more than just one line. Perhaps a page.   We can continue our day with anxiety. (And remember as we go along, the anxiety is going to fade away).   The ignoring and getting on with our tasks has a three-fold benefit: 1.       It shows us that we are NOT paralysed by anxiety. We can, in fact, do what we want to do 2.       It signals to our brain that we are fine to continue with our day. Which breaks the neurological anxiety loop and helps fade the fight-or-flight mechanism. 3.       It empowers us. By moving a toe or a limb or typing a line or continuing a task, it proves to us that we CAN continue our day and be productive despite anxiety. And we start to break the hold anxiety has over us.   Watch for: Further tools to kick anxiety to the curb and live our best lives   We got this guys. To a free, light and bright future.
Anti Anxiety Toolbox: Supporting Information for The Art of Ignoring
Anxiety Support / by Sueperu
Last post
 August 3rd
...See more Anti Anxiety Toolbox Supporting Information to Help Sustain Ignoring   I find that using the anti anxiety tools in various combinations works wonderfully to build a sustainable anxiety control system.   Here are some things to support your ignoring the anxious thoughts and symptoms:   Because anxiety is a brain issue, we experience some lags in the tools taking effect, which is why it is so important to continue using the tools for longer periods and practice them regularly.   This is because our responses build neural pathways that form our habits. The longer we’ve been responding in a certain way the stronger those neural pathways have become. They say it takes about 30 days to break a habit and somewhat longer to replace old habits with new ones. This is because we have to deactivate those neural pathways and then practice the new habit long enough for a new neural pathway to be formed and strengthened.   A nice way to visualise it is a light up tube. So think of the light beam slowly lighting up from one end of the tube to the other. It lights a little and then goes back. Then lights up a little further and then goes back. It keeps doing this until it eventually touches the other end and becomes a stable light beam. That’s how the synapses between our neurons work. And that’s how habits are formed and broken.   So stick with the tools and keep practising them until you light up your beam.   A recap of The Art of Ignoring tool We tend to respond with panic and concern when our brain checks whether our triggers are still a threat. Our panicked response signals to the brain to keep red flagging the trigger. We need to break the cycle by responding that the trigger is no longer a threat. Ignoring the anxious thoughts and symptoms is a great tool to help break the brain’s red flagging cycle.   Keep ignoring the thoughts and symptoms and the brain will start to fade the threat signal. Watch for: More supporting info to make ignoring easier and help you maintain it
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