@SunflowerAnxiety
that is a difficult situation, miss, but you can try these, they might help.
in your account, you claim that you enjoy solitude but with your husband, miss, who is like you. you do admire that more than much and that is the reason you put it there, because you feel that that is a description of yourself. God bless you, miss. you will have to do something similar for your husband as well. when a male or a boy, loses at a game, from a girl or a female, the boy leaves the game and goes for the girl. that really is true, but your husband only recently adapted games, and the above is seen to work on people who start playing games from a very young age. so although your husband is from a different category, there is a chance it might work, and even if it does not then at least you as well will realize his passion and the maybe, the reasons for playing as well, although i doubt you will undersrand the reasons because females do not like playing games like the other gender. but even if you cannot understand anything and start playing and ignoring your husband and keep delaying works because you 'will after this one', then he might get annoyed and understand his own negligence of you, good miss, and that might cause him to reconsider his actions.
or you can become the strict elder and take away all the toys and ground him. like not let him in until he puts away the devices or something similar, which you think works for you better.
you can also try contacting videogame players like mr. james rolfe or mr. mike matei, who both are married and have children, at least i know mr. rolfe does, and they both have been playing games since childhood. they are mature in it and maybe able to guide you better and you can find them easily through internet, you can mail them on their personal address but try not to leave a comment on their videos because your matter is of a personal nature and there is no need to involve people in it. you can also find similar people on your own, miss. you will have to type a clear mail and address your situation and position very clearly like a foreigner in a foreigner land. and for the title of the mail, you can say, kindly help mr. rolfe or _______, and you will have to drop three emails, everyday because they have a very busy schedule. i hope you find help and guidance, miss, and more than that, i hope you get your soul back, your beloved husband.
God bless you and your Family, good miss, and grant you what you wish for with much ease and without much hardships and make your life happy, prosperous, peaceful and kind.