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New to the Relationship Stress Community? Introduce yourself here!! ❤️

by ASilentObserver

2 days ago

...See more Greetings from the Relationship Stress Community!! Are you new to the Relationship Stress Community? Tell us some things about yourself and get to know others that joined the community this month! Question prompts: What brings you to the Relationship Stress community? What is one thing you love most about yourself (or, perhaps, your loved ones)? Benefits of being a member of the Relationship Stress Community: Give and receive support from others who are in relationships. Share your relationship journey (memories, struggles, challenges) in relevant topics comfortably. Participate in community activities and events (eg. Check-ins, Icebreakers, Forum Discussions) Plus, members who participate regularly could become part of the Relationship Stress team, as well! Here are some quick links for you to check out: our taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Join in to get updates on discussions and events. check out this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/] for updates on weekly discussions! check out our newest check-in [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressCommunityCheckInJanuary1319_344583/] here! check this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/RelationshipSupport_66/IntroduceyourselftotheRelationshipCommunity_239/HowToGetStarted_134558/] with more information on how to navigate the community. If you have any question, do not hesitate to contact KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] (teens and adults) or reply on this thread! Do not be a lurker! Join us and introduce yourself here!! tagging our newest subcribers: @dumbledoresleftbigtoe @Blissbabe @meganbaxter7500 @gentleStrings6369 @hazelmae46 @sympatheticWest110 @transcomrade39 @kindShell9449 @Wackyal123 @confusedsunshine @BPDBadee @Feelthemagic @PeacefulWords2025 @Alitttlestrange @Enough23 @purpleBike9420 @xoxotanishkaa @mickeyzac7 @Shamier @tybruh @exuberantTree3674 @gracefulFaith7044 @optimisticScarf4825 @purpleblooom @braveSailRP @Iwnakms @philosophicalCurrent5895 @LostAndUnsure92 @mark0614 @ashen64 @Anel11 @Hejee [a brown and white bear dancing together while holding hands] ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSehAkk72S0RWV1oQ5zShECQ6s-_fDYaxPE974iHorzqNRo1Ag/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- Edited by KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone]

Relationship Stress Community: Check-In (January 13 - 19)

by KatePersephone

3 days ago

...See more Hello there, Relationship Stress Community! To start off this week… * How are you feeling today? * What is your favorite winter activity? * Would you rather…shop online or shop in-store? Excited to hear from all of you! Have a great week ahead <3 ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? 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by Tazzie

December 9th, 2024

...See more Welcome to the Relationship Stress Taglist! This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated and can be found below. Please direct any questions or issues to tommy [https://www.7cups.com/@tommy] via private message. Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on the weekly check-ins ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please remove me. 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by fairmindedPapaya4898

3 hours ago

I need advice

by fairmindedPapaya4898

3 hours ago

I am guilty for my mistakes, but I am getting way too consumed by it!

by HappierAni77

6 hours ago

...See more So, I had a bestfriend, and I hurt him terribly by keeping something from him for 2 months. Actually the mistake was grave and a dealbraker. I take full responsibility for my mistake and I have been repenting since he found out. I was eventually going to tell him, but he found out through someone else. I totally agree, what I did was bad, and cannot be forgiven. I have written thousands of texts to him, but all he did was ignore me. I understand that he doesn't need to forgive me and I also understand if he never wants to talk to me again. Just I have written a lot to him, here's a snippet of my apology as well: "I agree with you. I consciously did whatever hurt you. You had no choice in what I did. Now, I have no choice in how you respond to me. You don’t owe me another chance, don’t need to accept my apology, and don’t need to forgive me. I am not going to push you to accept my apology; that would just mean adding yet another proof of my selfishness and inconsideration. I want to prioritize both your feelings and your needs, which I should have done earlier as well. And I will follow this by completely respecting your boundaries. I acknowledge your ignorance as your request and give ample space, which I wasn’t giving essentially. I know I said I would try again and again and, of course, do my very best to bring any ground of peace to our friendship. This is me trying, but I also realize that continuing to reach out will only further damage the relationship, hence the space and allowing time for your feelings to settle before considering any future communication." This is just like 10%. He hasn't even replied with even a single text and has left me on seen since days. I have archived him over whatsapp but the app's UI sucks. The archived chats are right at the top and constantly showing how many unread are present there. Whenever a number of unread message appears, I rush to check whether it's his text only to my dissapointment. I know he may never reply me. I know I did my part by apologising wholeheartedly, but it's driving me mad. The constant checking, the desparation of waiting for his text, it's really bugging the *** out of me. It only adds more regret and I feel more and more sick. I really don't wanna get consumed by this. I have done my part and now I am ready to move on, but I am not able to.

Strained Relationship with Parents

by redTree7626

11 hours ago

...See more For the past several years my mother and I have had a strained relationship, and I would love to fix it, but I don't know how. When I was younger I used to be very close to my mother, and we would talk for hours at a time about my life. However, I have always felt uncomfortable with how involved she is in my life. She used to invite people over from school without my permission who I was in a fight with so that we could work it out. In middle school she invited half of my class over for a pool party without my permission, which incited many awkward conversations between me and classmates who wanted to know why they hadn't been invited to the party. In seventh grade, she became one of my class parents and became involved in resolving many of the big class conflicts. I used to have constant anxiety at home which affected my sleep, so in high school I went to boarding school and I only had that persistent anxiety when I went home on the weekends. I believe the thing that ultimately led to our strained relationship was (and is) my habit of suppressing emotions. I have a lot of pent up sadness around my relationship with my mom, which manifests itself into anger and frustration. I never confronted my mom about the sadness I feel around some of her actions, because it is incredibly uncomfortable for me to give up control of my emotions and show vulnerability. It has become so extreme that even sharing small details about my day to my mom makes me extremely uncomfortable. I know my mom wants a closer relationship, and feels disappointed that I push her away, but until I find a way to work through my sadness I don't think I can offer her a closer relationship. If anyone has suggestions for how to release my sadness or about my situation I would be incredibly grateful. I currently am talking to a therapist, and have been for the past year. I am sure my mom would be happy and open to talk with me about how I am feeling, and I would love to be able to as well, but I am currently not comfortable doing so. I run everyday and have tried meditating and just crying, but I think I need to be doing something else as well, because none of those things feel like they are making a difference. Please, if anything else has worked for anybody please them me know.

Hyprocrisy and Listening

by independentSquare8024

12 hours ago

...See more My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for a year and a half now, and we keep circling back to the same issues. my boyfriend seems like he cannot handle other people’s emotions, if they want to vent to him or just share their day when it’s negative he wants no part in it. The hypocrisy in this is he will vent and complain about his life entirely. I have confronted him for this, and it always turns him into saying “I’m always the bad guy” or “I won’t tell you anything again then”. His reaction becomes extreme, and says I am always attacking him when I feel as though im not. I’m addressing a problem in the relationship. i truly do not understand the “I feel” approach. If my partner has hurt my feelings or neglected something in the relationship, why is saying “You doing X made me feel terrible” or “You not doing X makes it feel like I have to take the responsibility of it when it’s not mine to bear”. It’s cause an affect. But it’s every time, and the “I feel” approach sounds like I have to gentle parent my adult partner. He is almost 27 and im not even 23, that idea is really uncomfortable for me especially since he is older and should be more mature than I. he has expressed he’s not good at relationships but refuses to get advice, do research or therapy to even understand how relationships work. He has told me that me even asking him is not okay, and he should want to go to therapy for himself not for me. It’s disappointing and disheartening. when him and I have our venting moments im left feeling unheard entirely even tho he promises he’s listening. I’ll talk about something that bothered me (unrelated to our relationship), he will reply with “oh that sucks” and then proceed to start a conversation he’s more interested in. He doesn’t show interest into my day or ask open ended questions so I can talk through my venting. His reasoning is bc it’s his ADHD and just keep telling him to pay attention to me…why is that my responsibility?? He’s not on medication, and has no interest in taking any. But im now supposed to be responsible for him wanting to pay attention to me?? I have repeated to him multiple times: if you do not want to do the work in the relationship that’s okay—you need to tell me now. He always says he will but he never follows through his word. He wants me to call him out when he does, but then gets defensive when I do. It’s like everything he says contradicts itself. Even when we argues last night he interrupted me, I said “im not done-please don’t interrupt”. He became defensive and said “I literally talked for 30 seconds” when in the past he has told me to let him know he has interrupted me. im at a loss as what to do. It’s incredibly frustrating that my partner (who has gone to therapy, but for grievance not relationship wise) will use therapy words and therapy tools but apply them to the wrong things. I even asked him “do you think the tools in your toolbox aren’t the correct ones you need for the current project infront of you?”. He just says he agrees but it’ll be fine. I know I need to make a decision on what is best for me, but I truly love and care for him, and it’s frustrating to see him constantly repeat a pattern over and over again.

Looking for some insight

by kindPlum3623

19 hours ago

I don’t know what to do

by persistentJar149

19 hours ago

Is there something wrong with me ?

by butterflyy3

19 hours ago

...See more I have this hole I feel in me that I can’t even close up. I feel pretty confused. I’m dating my current bf for only 3 months now and I already feel like I’ve been messing up. My past relationship was 5 years and it hard for me bc it was super rushed and I was so young not knowing how things works and if I truly loved him or not. Even after 5 years of being with him I still feel like I can’t love or be loved. Currently after a year of being single, I’ve found a really great guy and he took me by surprise and made me feel all sorts of good. He asked me out very soon on and said I love you first. I was pressured to say it back so I did and ever since then I’ve been regretting it. I’m not there yet maybe ? Everyone is telling me I’m happier with him but recently I’ve been feeling not happy and overthinking a lot. Really pressuring myself to figure out if I love him or not. Why can’t I fully love him. I’m able to instantly care for him and be there for him but I simply have a hard time showing more affection through words like I love you. Why don’t I even accept his love? In person I feel more connected than through phones but still why do I struggling to say I love you. He does make me really happy and I find myself being more open to affection with him usually I hated to be touched all the time and hugged but he makes me feel comfortable doing so. He now believes that when I say I don’t mean it and that he can’t tell if I’ll ever will love him. I simply in shambles and don’t know what to do or how to fix this. I don’t even know what I need for myself. I feel like I’m a cold person just self destructing good things in my life. (My family rarely told me they loved me so it’s awkward for me to say it to them or to anyone ) I know this is a long message I just don’t know what to do anymore.

Is it natural to feel this way

by Dawnlit02

1 day ago

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Welcome to Relationship Stress! This is a safe, supportive and inclusive place where you can discuss everything and anything related to Relationships.

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Breakups & Divorce : Are you going through a breakup or divorce? Talk about it here.

Community Space : A place for introductions, icebreakers and check-ins!

Coping Tools & Resources : Need some resources? Find them here!

Dating Issues/Tips : A place for all things dating.

Friendships : A place for all things friendships.

Relationship Space : A place for all things relationships.

Sexual Health : Need to discuss sexual health? Do it here!

Share Your Story : Share Your Story here!

Teens Only Zone : A place for teens to discuss.

The Self-Care Lounge : Take good care of yourself here!

How can I help?

You can help us by simply responding to threads and sharing your story (if you're comfortable). Check-in with us, join a discussion, or start one! Alternatively, you can join us as a Forum Leader. Check out this thread for more information.

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Taglist: Do you want to stay up to date with our community? Then join our tag list to be notified whenever there is a new discussion or update within the community!

Relationship Stress FAQ

Q: Are there any sub-community specific guidelines that we need to adhere to?

A: You can find sub-community specific guidelines below, which you should follow in addition to the general forum guidelines.

Q: Are there any live group chat rooms?

A: Yes! Adults can join us every Thursday in the Relationships chat room.

Help! I still have a question!

If you need help, feel free to contact a community leader or post here, and someone will contact you!

Community Guidelines

Welcome to the Relationship Stress Community!!

✔ Maintain a positive and constructive environment in the Relationship Stress Community.

✔ Kindly do not express judgments, attack or impose beliefs onto anyone within the community.

✔ Please do not double post in different areas of forums & always ensure you're posting in the correct area so you can get better support. To know the various forum areas & get an overview of the community, please Click Here!!

✔ Please do not SPAM any part of the forums with unrelated links or ads.

Read the 7 Cups Guidelines

Community Leaders

★ Welcome Resource: Welcome to the Relationship Support Subcommunity!!

★ Discussion Calendar: Resource for you to know the upcoming support sessions on Relationships.

★ Breakup FAQs: This is a great resource for all those who experiencing break-up struggles in their lives.

★ 7Cups Self-Help Guides: to help you a bit to deal with certain issues you may face in your relationships.

✔ Breakups

✔ Family Relationships

✔ Surviving Domestic Assault

✔ Forgiveness

★ Ember's Relationship Resources: a list of resources that could help you in understanding your relationships better.

★ 12 Relationship Tips: A good checklist to improve your relationships.

★ Relationship Support Wiki: the place where you can find some great resources on relationships.

Other Resources:

★ The Relationship Support Forum Team: Learn more about the Relationship Support Community Leadership & Moderation Team.

★ Apply to be a Forum Supporter!: If you're not a Forum Supporter and would like to be one, please apply through the application.

★ Become part of the Relationship Support Team:

✔ To join Forum / Feed Sub-Team, please Click Here!!

✔ To join the Adult Support Team, please Apply Here!!

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