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Negative Emotions Are Best Friends

innateJoy9602 February 12th, 2023

"Even “Bad” Emotions Are Valuable

Emotions are the pure, visceral sensations that happen to us. Emotions, like colors, need no explanation; they just are. Think of an emoji chart: Happy. Sad. Disgust. Confusion. Joy. Hate. Feelings are emotions plus a story, and the story we tell ourselves is often not true or helpful. Emotions are also separate from behaviors. It is possible to experience intense, true, and pure anger without becoming violent or throwing a tantrum.

Emotions Provide Data We Need

Before we interpret and analyze our emotional data, it is pure information. Just like visual data, although the colors of the rainbow in themselves are true, this data may be confusing, distorted, processed incorrectly, or misleading. Therefore, it becomes essential to develop the confidence to trust our senses now that we are starting to realize what this emotional data is.

The one thing that almost all of us humans have in common is emotions.

What about “negative” emotions?

Getting more in tune with our happy emotions sounds great. But how can we get rid of the painful, scary, or otherwise unpleasant ones? I’m not sure you should want to. Let me explain why.

Admittedly, some emotions are quite painful, unpleasant, and even caustic. But if we start to take the view that our emotions are really our friends, then, just like your best friend is the only one willing to call you out, negative emotions can wake us up.

Therefore, tuning into our “negative emotions” in our relationships is essential in leading us down the right path toward getting our emotional needs and desires met. It may involve making some difficult decisions or changes in the relationship or even leaving the relationship altogether."

Read the full article on Psychology Today

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Takeaway: Emotions provide valuable information and can be seen as a "sixth sense." Negative emotions can be painful, but they can also be seen as friends that help us wake up to deep truths and motivate us to seek our emotional needs and desires.

Reflection: How do you currently handle negative emotions? Have you ever ignored or suppressed an emotion?

#Emotions #Self-Awareness #EmotionalIntelligence #EmotionalAcceptance


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mytwistedsoul February 17th, 2023

@innateJoy9602 Tbh - I can sometimes wallow in them for alittle until it's too much and then I stuff them down and deny their existence


I ignore and suppress alot of my emotions. I'm trying to learn to sit with them but its hard. I know I need to deal with them so I can go forward

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innateJoy9602 OP February 17th, 2023

@mytwistedsoul

It’s great that you're trying to learn to sit with them.

It can be a challenging process!

Be patient with yourself <3 💜

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Lenaye8 February 18th, 2023

*Exhales*

I am able to talk with my partner about my emotions, even when they bubble up all day. Talking it out helps it took some time just to get my thoughts straight. Yesterday was a sad day. Today is an aigh day just floating and resting my body. I already know this month is heavy on my emotions. I was able to express that to my partner and I know things will change for the better. With some patience and self love.

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innateJoy9602 OP February 19th, 2023

@Lenaye8

It's really great to hear that you have a supportive partner who you can talk to about your emotions. It takes a lot of courage to open up and share what you're feeling, especially when emotions are running high. <3 It's important to give ourselves permission to take it easy and take care of our bodies and minds. One day at a time. You got this!!💜

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Lenaye8 February 19th, 2023

Thankiess 🥰🥰 once eye write that eye felt all the stress lift off my brain/crown chakra. Eye am taking it a day a time. Which is really nu to me this time with any partner. This is the realist relationship one eye have been in eveeeerr 😅 so it is a must to flow and say all the things eye have never said b4 in my traumatic bonds and say it mindfully with a dash of confidence with the loving healthy asf bond

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innateJoy9602 OP February 19th, 2023

@Lenaye8

That’s so lovely to hear! Writing things out can be really nice. I'm glad it helped release some of that stress. <3

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