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Weekly Prompt #41: How do you perceive your own resilience and ability to cope with challenges?
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Hello all, I hope you are all being easy on yourself this week. A few weeks ago we discussed: How does your depression affect your ability to care about and take care of others? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/depression/General_2427/WeeklyPrompt40Howdoesyourdepressionaffectyourabilitytocareaboutandtakecareofothers_336335/] Thank you to all who participated and shared their thoughts and questions for discussion. They were thought-provoking questions and thoughts. I hope you all did too. If you didn't share yours, please share them here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/depression/General_2427/WeeklyPrompt40Howdoesyourdepressionaffectyourabilitytocareaboutandtakecareofothers_336335/] and I look forward to reading and discussing them with you This week's prompt: How do you perceive your resilience and ability to cope with challenges? To perceive your resilience and ability to cope with challenges, you can reflect on your past experiences, identify your strengths, ways to embrace a positive mindset etc. Let's get started and share your thoughts with us. I look forward to hearing all your thoughts and ideas.  Join us in the 24/7 Depression Support Group Chat [https://www.7cups.com/connect/groupChatrooms.php]
Your Poem...
by EmmaE
Last post
 July 17th
...See more Hi everyone, I came across this poem prompt and thought I'd share it here if anyone would like to try! ------------------------- My Poem (Title) My name is (name). Today I feel like a/an (adjective) (noun) (verb)ing in the (noun). Sometimes I am a/an (noun) Sometimes I am a/an (noun) But always I am (adjective). I ask the world, "(question)?" And the answer is a/an (repeat your words from line 2). ------------------------- If you’d like to join the depression support team, please check out THIS POST [https://www.7cups.com/forum/7CupsLeadership_188/SubcommunityHelpWanted_2306/HelpWantedDepressionSupport2023_295219/] for more information. To join our tag list and receive notifications, click HERE [https://www.7cups.com/forum/DepressionSupportCommunity_52/DepressionSupportLeadershipTeam_404/NEWautomateddepressionsupporttaglist_274831/].
You can keep going 💙
by LoveMyMoonflowers
Last post
 May 11th
...See more Hey everyone (: I hope your all doing okie 💙 and if your not (': we *do* care about you and we would really love to be there for you whenever you need us. 💜 I really hope you know that you don’t have to do this alone, buddy.  i don’t know what your going through right now, exactly. i don’t know how you feel (': but i’d like to remind you that it *is* okay to *feel* 💙 and it’s okay to take your time when figuring things out. it may be hard to explain how your feeling as well and i get that. 💜 (it’s important to take some time for yourself also 🥰 please do try being kind to yourself 🥺)  and some days… it just feels like too much, doesn’t it? we feel like we can’t take it anymore, we can’t go on anymore. Things just get too overwhelming, life just gets too hard… and hope seems like a distant dream. i know i’ve felt this way many times (': i think many of you might be able to relate 💙 but honestly, i need to remind you that there *is* hope, and you really can keep going. your never ever alone 💜 and you’ve never been truly alone.  And even though you might have never seen it, you are strong. stronger than you think you are. You’ve come *this* far and I am so so proud of you. i know it hasn’t been easy. i’m so proud of you. 💙 i’m sending so so so much love your way 💜 you deserve it, you really do 🥺 we love you, we care about you *always* and yes, there *is* hope for you. 💙 i promise.  🌙 Ni 🌸 @HealingTalk 
Mental Health Check-In 🧠💙
by Angelanj
Last post
 40 minutes ago
...See more Heya everyone,  Here are some questions you can reflect on to check in with yourself mentally. Sending virtual hugs! - Angelanj 🫂💙
Self-Care Break
by Angelanj
Last post
 1 hour ago
...See more Hey there everyone, I hope you all are taking care of yourselves. I'd firstly like to apologize for not being so active lately. I haven't been in the space to be on 7cups recently. Secondly, I wanted to remind you all that much needed self-care break is starting on the 15th...that's this Friday. I'll be returning on the 1st of December...or I may pop in a few times before that. I'll be back to serve you as your forum supporter! There are many lovely listeners on the platform who are empathetic and willing to listen to you. Don't hesitate to reach out if you need to vent. I will do my best to reply to everyone before Friday ends though I'll be dealing with a lot this week...
November Welcome for Newbies and Returning Members 🤗
by Angelanj
Last post
 1 hour ago
...See more Welcome newcomers to the Depression Support Community 🤗 We're so glad to have you. This is a safe space where you can share your experiences with depression! To the returning members of the community we're also so glad to have you here. 🫂💓 Quote of the Month : “Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, ‘I will try again tomorrow.’” - Mary Anne Radmacher 💗 Here's this month's prompt!  Share what your rose(s) and thorn(s) were for October and what your bud is for November. Upcoming event this month : World Kindness Day (November 13th) Here are some fun facts about World Kindness Day! : 1) The date of November 13 was the opening day of the first World Kindness Movement conference in Tokyo in 1998 and the 35th anniversary of the Small Kindness Movement of Japan. 🇯🇵♥️ 2) Being kind increases oxytocin which benefits the heart and cardiovascular system. 🫀 3) Biochemically, kindness has been shown to increase levels of natural opioids in the brain which increase dopamine to produce a natural high. 🧬 4) Acts of kindness also produce endorphins, which are our natural painkillers. 💓 5) Research has also shown that committing acts of kindness lowers the blood pressure. ♥️
My 7 Cups Dream Journal
by integrityblues
Last post
 2 hours ago
...See more Entry 1: The Boxes of Cats It was a little strange but what I remember most is visiting a house that was in my old neighborhood that I’d recently moved from (it really wasn’t, so dream logic) but I came back to collect something I left or my mother left. It was very sad and the people who were there now were sort of okay with me wandering around and looking. I kept noticing the signs that I’d once lived there (painted over places that still revealed chipped paint and stuff I recognized from my apartment). Then I looked beneath a couch or table and found boxes full of kittens. Two boxes were full of meowing kittens in water that the new home owners had no idea were there, and one more box held a very dead cat that was an older one from a previous litter. All of the kittens were starving without their mother and I knew that it was the reason why the older one passed. The new owners suddenly smelled the dead cat and I took it upon myself to get rid of it. When I came back an hour later all of the kittens were gone, and when I was walking past another house I could see all the kittens. They’d all grown up into adult cats!
How I feel with u all people (storytime)
by livbinny
Last post
 2 hours ago
...See more ALL THE WHY: I don’t want us to be just get through the day it’s okay, that kind of soothing becomes useless once u reach point this is for years n years w no end yk? I was just saying to myself scenario where if somebody asked me n I was like, oh all I did was to taking it one day at a time all my life, it would be an absolute no… Like that’s all u did. Surviving without living. More precisely: are u living or just existing?  (guess where I am all this time) Getting my point across. SECOND THING: Sucks when nobody tells u cuz u don’t have enough care n guidance in life nor u ever received it so my life is abt trial n errors on myself. Hurts so much. It’s about those who are positive n normally bubbly enough that u just give so much texts or gifts, doesn’t matter but it might be linked to something bigger as tho why you rly do it? I was never thinking of it this way. So it costed me being drained, anxious, isolated n now under self-pity. I have hole inside of me that feels more uncared n unloved than ever before. So I feel w u that’s why I’m saying when I fight this every day…. Can’t escape this. But from my point I can say that it’s better to get busy, distracted w studies or any other learning (cuz let’s be honest, hobbies are not always enough) n not to think abt how hard it is to live w this pain cuz it gets impossible more I look towards this… for REAL.  Only give what they’ll receive n if they leave it up to u, u have the right to remove urself from such situation. (What else,)  Keep ur guard up at all times if you can’t figure ppl right away. They can mask for pretty long under “total genuine persona”… that’s where my mistakes n cycle began to happen n bargain for way too LONG. If u feel defeated, discouraged n constantly going w hole in yourself n ur life then know that I’m on the same every day. It still comes when I’m tired n down or low…. U get this lonely n it simply overwhelms u again. It’s trying to drag me down cuz u know that comfort n care is never coming back from ur early life n now even to ppl u poured way too much just to ending up with nothing in return afterall… Unfortunate is that ppl who are optimistic n learn it themselves (like this positivity I had to practice as well!) others are utterly selfish for not learning it themselves even if they don’t have this character, u can still change some way of thinking or actions or similar for ur inner child or urself if u see that others can do it even if more effort is needed to be pushed through. But nope. All they did was feeding off someone else. Utmost disgusting n disrespectful. Those ppl aren’t good. Don’t be or get blinded like me.  Worst mistake is thinking that just cuz they aren’t “bad” they are ultimately “good”. No, they’re not. If u can’t see patterns, try to see signs. Emotions go aside, whatever the emotional attachment or general kindness is that u have been taught. Think w ur head ONLY. I had to ask for expert n help.  I actually came from hopeline where they gave me the abandonment stuff article to put pieces together of what it really is. Out of my own curiosity I went to ask (it was luck in suggestion) cuz I wanted to understand why ppl ghost. Always stay curious. But if u see that u keep convo going, always asking questions, knowing more abt them or they leaving stuff up to you or similar, it’s time to step back or better: DO LEAVE!  They all gonna become distant n ghost u anyway. (I continued to still messaging some of them afterwards cuz I wanted to let them always know I’m thinking of them n similar for such ppl but that’s the utmost waste of everything u got, not just time.) Ppl are not as kind as they seem n world is much more cruel. 
I am lost and need an inch of hope to continue living
by Drod777
Last post
 2 hours ago
...See more My life has flipped upside down, mainly this past year, and I don't think I can take it anymore. I grew up with a rough life, experienced all forms of abuse, gang violence, addictions among my family - pretty much everything you can think of. It's amazing I am even still alive today and yet I wish I wasn't. This past year, I was forced out of a job and ended up in insurance making half of what I was making. $20k credit card debt and ongoing depression later... I was jobless for me mental sake. I finally found a great job and think I will be out of this financial hole within 2 years but now any chance of buying a home is our the window. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 7 years, hanging on by a thread. We've gone through every issue you can think of and have fought to stay together. We're at the point where it's like what's next? I'm constantly asked by family, friends and our church community why he still hasn't proposed - it's shameful and embarrassing to give yourself to someone for 7 years and then still be unsure if you're for to be their wife. We recently started back with our Christian faith and I feel like my partner, who is new to faith, is progressing with men at church and I'm just trailing behind by myself left in the dust. The pressure to get married and be better only heightened with getting more involved and I feel embarrassed of where I'm at. To make everything worse, I've had weird symptoms over the years with my health and everything always things I'm being dramatic. Got my routine annual and doctor found some concerning results in my blood. Pending follow up testing but she is concerned I have Lupus or similar. Now all I can think is, maybe this possible sickness is a way out? Part of me wishes I get sick badly and die quickly but part of me says this is your chance to get right and create a new life. I feel like I bring no value to earth and I'm questioning if God even has a purpose for me anymore.
Venting
by alexnadoto
Last post
 2 hours ago
...See more I just got diagnosed and I’m having trouble accepting it. They say I’ve had depression for about 10 years and I’ve just found a way to navigate but now it’s all caught up to me. I’m so tired of restarting, like now.. I just cannot get myself to do my portfolio and resume. I haven’t done anything in so long and I just can’t get myself to work again. But I can’t afford to not work anymore, I’m too old to go back to living with my parents. All of it sucks. I guess the only good thing keeping me afloat is praying. I feel so loved after a prayer. It’s just like writing in a journal. That’s something right? Sending love and prayers to everyone here ♥️ 
Never ending issues
by anikaasad
Last post
 3 hours ago
...See more I have been keeping my mom at an arm's length since November when she failed to show me some support (like she always has) regarding my goal of going abroad in front my father. Also, she checked my igcse results. I took 5 subjects and had straight A-s in all of them. 3A* and 2A. She had seen them when they came out in August and was pleased. But when I went to collect the certificate in November and she saw them again, it was like she was seeing it for the first time. Upon seeing the A in Math, she was like "Then what help did your tutor gave you!" She immediately corrected herself and said she was happy but only I knew the ***-ery of that reaction which just made me mad. That's the first thing you comment? And why it looked like she was seeing it for the first time when she had already known my grades before? Because she is a forgetful person. She is a victim of psychiatric issues and a history of schizophrenia. She takes a lot of medicines, is in a better position now, and hasn't had an attack in a decade. But there are effects of an illness and its treatment, right? So she has the effects now, which include saying senseless stuff, saying the wrong stuff at the wrong moment, forgetfulness, hearing voices that aren't there when she is not busy. Oh Anika then cut her some slack!?" Please do not tell me this when you are not in my position. Just because a person has had mental challenges doesn't mean they cannot be a narcissistic person or parent. It doesn't mean they have no personality, which can be ugly, just like normal people. It doesn't mean they do not have children who have suffered because of them and their personality. It doesn't mean they didn't abuse their children emotionally. I never blame her psychological condition - that's a medical issue. Something no one had a control over. But her personality? I blame. Her spinelessness? I blame. Her hiding behind her illness and using it as a shield for multiple bad attitudes? I blame. Very rare are people whose both parents are narcissistic and only they know how complicated dynamics are and how *** up situations we go through. Her comment on my A is still one of the lightest of the things I have tolerated. There are worse. And my sister has dealt with the worst with being beaten at the age of 3 with her hands tied and what not, and she wasn't even a psychiatric patient then. What I want to emphasize on this post is what a big lack of coping mechanisms I have had for my mom all these years, and I continue to have none. Whatever I have suffered these 5 years and more which are my bad years I went through them painfully, esp in the case of my mom. We would just have ugly fights, then go back to being normal and nothing else. Every relationship needs to be healed, and I deserve a good life. I passed my exams this way, I don't want to pass the remaining life this way, having a problematic relationship with my mom. Any other time, I would still be fighting with her about her comment and the lack of support she shows for my abroad thing. But now I keep my door closed and limit contact and words with her because the stressful position I am in mentally would result in an escalation with her. She does nothing other than dismissing, refusing to admit her fault. A car cannot run on one tyre.  But I still suffer sometimes. Whenever I see her face, I remember the unresolved issues. I began to boil. I just drove her out of my room before I got into a fight. But how many more days like this? Without any coping strategy. I don't see any.
Special rant.
by IntelligentPink
Last post
 3 hours ago
...See more Writing this in piiiiinnnkkkkkkkk (I love pink) my home life...isn't the greatest, my mom is put bluntly an alcoholic. Has been my whole life, it's only now stopped because she's pregnant, but before her liver almost entered the early stages of failure, she almost had to be hospitalized. (My dad just doesn't give a single ***, and I'm 99% sure is cheating on my mom) I resent my family, my older sister ran away, twice and bought CPS for a friendly chat at our house (humiliating.) my other sister didn't run away, but did the exact same thing and ran her mouth and bought CPS to, I nevertheless do NOT intend to bring that kind of attention to myself or the family, whom despite it's flaws, is 110% better than being in the horribly underfunded foster system, and my mother, is who I resent the most. I just, feel like giving up, I've been thinking suicidal thoughts, I've self harmed, and now I feel humiliated, I resent my own family, I resent myself, and I miss my best friend, I coped with self deprecating humor, and now my friends joke about me being autistic or special...That's just, awesome. (humiliating) TL;DR, My family is absolutely destroyed, and now I'm crying for help.
help
by purplegrapes4321
Last post
 6 hours ago
...See more Hey everyone, im new here so im a bit scared to post this but i need to get it out of my chest, i will obviously not be giving any personal info but here’s a bit of backstory: my life has always been kind of chaotic, I grew up in a somewhat unstable family but it didn’t affect me that much until this year, my parents got a divorce and i was left with my mom because my dad went to live to another country after this whole thing, i have never have had a good relationship with my mom so being stuck with her is the worst thing possible because since last year i have been involved in the family drama and i found out my mom is a horrible person and honestly living with her can be a living nightmare. I thought my life was bad until i started losing all of my friends due to the fact that i started isolating myself from everyone so basically majority of my friends are gone now. That was horrible and im still trying to do something about it but last month everything got worse, i had this huge complicated problem with the guy that i liked and long story short i found out today that after less than a month of not talking anymore he’s seeing someone else which was horrible because i have always felt im never good enough for anyone and this whole thing made it worse. Honestly i dont know what to do anymore because my mom is busy with her new boyfriend now so i feel so lonely, i have no one to turn to or talk to, the last friend i had left, left me for another friend of ours and they went to the beach together which sucks because im just stuck in my room contemplating my entire life feeling lonely and hopeless because i feel like i’ve lost everyone. If you read until here thank you so much i appreciate it so much<33
My dad has everyone fooled into thinking hes a nice guy but hes not fooling me
by nessdamess
Last post
 6 hours ago
...See more He manipulates me and emotionally verbally abuses me yet im treated like the help the charity the crazy mentally unstable weak link by him i'm sick of it!
Loneliness is my new sadness
by livbinny
Last post
 6 hours ago
...See more It feels lonely every day. my sadness comes in waves, makes me afraid, makes me low, makes me tired or fatigued n everything is so plain n bleak… isolation n loneliness are my company ever since ppl used n left me… it is so sad ppl i have to fight n stay strong for myself without anyone knowing or seeing or hearing abt how much it takes from me! 24/7 i know most of u will relate, that’s why we’re here feel free to leave me some good comment so i’ll know we’re in this fight together 💙💙💙

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- 9 Types of Depression and How To Recognize Them 

- You don't have to understand, you just have to be present by @MarianaFilipaSouza6

A beautiful testament to the nature of depression

- Rethink Mental Illness: Depression

Basic information and facts

- Resource Masterpost by @Sealiously

A plethora of amazing links

- Depression Self Help Guide

Discover some ways to help manage what you're going through

- Safety Plan

Here's a safety plan for those who are passively suicidal. Your life is important

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