Making new friends seems impossible anymore
I really feel like I'm 80 and not 50 because of the disconnection between myself and anything social. I've never been very social but the older I get the worse or harder it seems to find a place to belong.
@framkallagreida 🙁 that's a sad realisation, unfortunately it's true for so many people😥 it's not a age thing I'm 24 I've never had a friend outside of 7 cups🙁 but thank God for this site, I know it's not the same as in real life, but it helps. I hope you make lots of friends here ❤ and I hope it gives you some comfort ❤ hugs you tightly ❤❤
Im 22 and I don't have any friends and that doesn't bother me. I've been more focused on myself. Obviously eventually I will want to have friends but I want to have the right kind of friends.
I feel you, sometimes I think it's better to be alone if I have to push myself into nonsense friendships or concversations but I don't know. Lacking a community that can suppport us is one of the major problems of this era. There is no easy solution, maybe it makes you releved to think that it's a problem beyond individuals. I don't know it kinda helps me to blame capitalism sometimes 😅
Finding a place to belong isn't easy and being older makes it harder, but controlling what you can is easier. As long as you are kind, friendly and respectful if you see someone you want to talk to or meet don't be afraid to speak. Even if you feel oblivious to many things those are new things to learn don't be deterred from not knowing something. There are many aspects that a stranger will look into, first impressions are always important and something that in psychology someone told me is always going to stick with them so as long as you put your best foot forward, act approachable and show interest in their interests I don't see why you can't find a place to belong.
Age difference may be a factor people will judge you by, but you shouldn't view it as a defining trait. There are many people in workplaces and classes I've met who are way older but I still have conversations with them regarding trends or the news.
You made a great step coming here, if you encounter problems or feel sad please don't be afraid to post again here. We may not be a physical place or person but you still have a place you belong, in here.
-SunnyLake
I hear ya! I feel like sooo many of my friendships have fallen apart the last few years and it has been so difficult to make new ones despite me putting a pretty significant amount of effort into it. It has been extraordinarily painful and I am so sorry you are going through this as well. When you find any answers, let me know! In the meantime I pray! But I know that's not something everyone resorts to. Take care!
@framkallagreida Right there with ya. Since I stopped working I don’t even see people regularly. The neighborhood i grew up in was closer knit. Most women didn’t work back then. They all shared the same goals…keeping a house afnd raising the kids. They held outdoor picnics in nice weather holidays and indoors on colder holidays.
I am not good at any of that. My last few neighborhoods have been separate lives, you just pass saying a Hi.
I think the problem for me is no single mature role model. Everyone was married so even when empty nest they had a partner (or a stubborn headache lol).
I also think the politics in last decade have crushed the few possibilities of good relationships. The morals are polar opposites. It’s tough, and disheartening. I take solace hearing others struggle too… I guess misery loves company. Cuz I hate seeing others who have families and daily purpose.
