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Too Late
General Support / by sunnyLake7661
Last post
 November 13th
...See more Recently I thought of why so many people may feel depressed, the most common age people have their first depressive episode is between 19 and 21 (CDC 21% of people in a survey conducted in 2019 in the US) and adolescents have it rough as well (2020 study found 12% of adolescents reported feeling depressed). Worldwide there's a 4.21% report of depression in all ages.  I often feel that 19 to 21 is the age where we suddenly change, we no longer are in high school or college anymore and we become adults. This sudden shift can cause many opportunities... and sadly many mistakes. When we hit that age we're no longer going through mood swings or developing like our formative years (12-18) and now we should be mature and finally get a job and seek work to make a living. There are many reasons for depression such as loneliness, isolation, abuse, trauma deep struggles people could have gone through. When we approach depression from people, from many walks of life, I often feel that a key problem is how we would look back on our formative years and perhaps feel that time was wasted and anything we do will be inconsequential and this carries over to older folks. We feel like because we're young we should achieve things as soon as possible before "being young" wears out, we rush so hard but don't think about everything else. If someone asked you what your life would be like if you were 65  or how you want the world to look after 65 years some people wouldn't know what to answer. Retirement would come to mind but what would that mean? Is that something you can only do when you retire? I want the world to be a better place. did anything I do ever contribute to that?  And now the problem becomes did I waste my life?  I've wondered this for a while and that thought comes in many forms. I didn't do things that I should've done, I made decisions that were so easy to see were wrong but I made them anyway, and I missed out on things that I should've experienced. I never felt truly happy, did I? If humans only lived for 30 years then yes it would be something that might hold more weight, but life expectancy is rising and soon the average age will one day be 80 in places like Australia or Germany. People think that doing good while their young is the only thing that matters, but once you are no longer young then what? Why give up when life is halfway there, why stop running if the start line isn't far behind you?  Is it too late to turn your life around?  No... there's never a reason to think it's too late to change for the better, sometimes it may feel useless but a small step is still something that we all must take to lead to big changes if you need to pause in life don't be afraid to do so or seek guidance. Life is long and experience is more valuable than time, so please don't think it's too late. If you have a goal in the distance you'll never reach it if you don't start. Likewise, if you start you'll eventually reach the end. Just don't give up because you will reach that better you, that better place, that better world, eventually.  I can't tell if this should go on general support, but if someone is willing to read this, then at least I hope instead of seeking support I have possibly given support to someone else going through similar thoughts. If you've put up with my blathering I want to say; You've worked hard to stay alive, very hard, and I'm glad you are here reading this.  -Sunnylake 
Posting once a week till happy?: #2
General Support / by sunnyLake7661
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Hello, I just wanted to post a little bit of art I decided to redraw when I drew this character from a very obscure game (only a few people know it) called Genshin Impact, I dug through a lot of old art, some good and some embarrassing.     Life has been interesting so far. Currently, I'm dealing with a feeling of demotivation. I find it very easy for me to get distracted and very easily dissuaded from doing tasks I should do, which is weird since I don't mind staying up to draw but when it comes to watching a lecture I instantly give up. Let's see currently life is progressing slowly, I'm studying at university right now (and I have a lot I can say about my academics but that's for another vent/post) and I'm in the middle of my exam period right now. I've been spending time with friends doing the usual playing badminton, and hanging out and I got my hands on some horror games cause a few were on sale. I've begun being a bit more open to strangers I'm planning to meet someone to study together with. I don't particularly stand out or have hobbies as cool as theirs so I am worried about being boring to them, but I'd rather embarrass myself than miss out on making another possible friend. I also decided to try and look for a local gym and arrange a friend to go with. My finances aren't great however I've been looking for work to pick up hopefully after the exams are over or maybe making money elsewhere. It's odd in my opinion, I go to school to get a job in the future but I never really had a job or had any desire to make money, (my parents lived frugally and I barely asked for anything if they offered money I generally refused to take it, very stubborn about using the same 10-year-old phone despite the battery being bricked) it may make me come off as spoilt but in general, I never really had something I wanted or any desire for money. Maybe that's a sign of my lack of future planning, but I don't know maybe there's a term for that (maybe complacent, but I'm not happy about my current situation either). I don't have much to say except life is still moving ahead and that dreaded sun in the sky is still rising (it's really hot and humid right now, ironic since my name is-) hopefully everyone has nicer weather and I'll post later again when I'm not sweating a lake. -SunnyLake
Posting once a week until I'm truly happy with life: #1
Newbie Hub / by sunnyLake7661
Last post
 November 2nd
...See more Hello  I just recently joined and had some pretty bad thoughts about myself and my current life situation. I enjoy art, writing, some sports,  and dabbling in whatever creative thing comes up. I also enjoy games here and there. And since this is my first post I thought it would be best here in the newbie hub. I have many issues with myself at the moment. So I decided it'd be best if I came here just to sort out how I feel and maybe connect with some people. Right now I want to change my life for the better and I feel like sharing at least some parts of my life will not only help me reflect on how I feel but also serve as something to look back on. Don't get it twisted though I don't view this site as a personal journal but more as a community I can be honest with. I don't usually act this open in real life. I'm not certain if I'll post every week and I'm not sure how long I will post for but I hope that this will be some type of push out of the slump I'm currently in. And yeah I'll probably still come back to the website now and then to speak or listen to the lovable community here. Have a good night and if it's not nighttime where you are then I bid you a good day! - Sunnylake 
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