It' a little embarrassing, but, in a year and a half I will be an irl 40 year old virgin. lol

@magnus333

Hello ,

how are you doing ? Have you dated yet? I came across your post and caught my attention. I have been dating a 41 yr old . I first met him when he was 39. And he had been single for 10 years. it’s been difficult but I have been having so much patience with him . i was confident with myself and very sexual so when I first met him I initiated in bed. He was soo soo nervous. it failed the first few times . I thought he had ED . But I continued to work with him and to be honest he has been the best I’ve had. He does show signs of anxiety,he was abused by an ex, he was depressed, , he does avoid every discussion I have about my feelings. He has avoidant attachment. My advice to you is heal first , then look into dating . Because as much pain as you may feel alone , it is as painful or more painful to a partner . You have to be emotionally available. Let me know what your thought are.

Dude. It's the same for me. Well, I am younger, 27. But I still feel like a rare, legendary Pokemon because my romantic/sexual experience is practically non existent. And that's bc of trauma bc of sexual assault, depression, anxiety, low self-esteem etc. I actively avoid any romantic approach. When there are, that is, as I am basically an hermit now lmao. It's really hard for me to really trust someone while forming friendships, so i can't imagine building up that kind of trust in a romantic way. So yeah, don't stress about it. You're not alone. And I am sure there are many others as us. See ya!