overwhelemed
im feeling so overwhelmed idk what i want to do in life exceppt sleep all the time. im on disability and it pays the bills but gotta do something with my life not play games all day. thought about many options still cant decide got no car pet would be nice but so much work and responsibility. been evicted a few times so much has happened and im already 37yo pretty scared and btw im a guy if it matters. i see a therapist but idk what would help. maybe a house and car and travel or move to another country or apprenticeship or this or that idk anymore
@determinedZebra820
Small steps....work,small changes.
When we are in a situation we do not want to see that. we think up what if we did this or that? and convince ourselves that would solve this or that but ... in reality moving would be same issues different place. Make a plan or list of small things you would like to do... try one and then another spend a whole day not playing games and then another ....
go out if possible to see the world around you. maybe you could pet sit for someone to experience if a pet would help or be too much.
@toughTiger6481 yea so many options life passing me by hate apartment living and upstairs neighbors floorboards I do get out at times though
@determinedZebra820 I just want to scream I've had it so much anger
@determinedZebra820
Anger and frustration is a powerful thing in sidelining us or having us do something impulsive.
What would you like to do? and what steps would it take to accomplish that ?
i have been stuck and angry and feeling like I could not do things until I pushed myself to do one thing and then one thing more etc. i used to find myself daydreaming or planning in my mind ... it starts as an escape .... then becomes a trap......... because the steps to our goal ....take effort and planning and sometimes setbacks ....... we skipped all that in our wishing/ daydreaming we could do ___( insert item). do you have any supportive friends or family? sometimes when we start to change we need a coach/ cheerleader that pushes us out of our comfort zone.
if your neighbors in apartment frustrate you have you spoken to them ? or just letting things continue to bother you. talking may not resolve a noise issue but you will know you did something.
@toughTiger6481 wrote letter to neighbor and sometimes tell in apartment to rid my stress
@determinedZebra820
Well that is a good thing ... believe it or not many do not say anything or write letter etc and just let it bother them ...
you made the choice and did so i am sure whatever you feel overwhelmed about you can do it..... you are stronger then you .......realize most people are.
@toughTiger6481 I can't take it anymore idk what happened to me but I'm unhappy angry miserable
@determinedZebra820
I feel your anger and frustration ....
I have felt like that too could barely get out of bed wanted to harm myself ... and just like not knowing why I was so down. It is hard to break out and i asked for help. It does not have to be another person but i challenged myself ......................to do things everyday even if i absolutely dreaded it.... I felt it was impossible ... I challenge myself everyday to do something I have procrastinated or ignored ....I push myself to do things i have not done. Not going to lie i do not always accomplish these self made tasks but when i do ... i shows me I CAN
I am in a similar position. I am not disabled but have a severe mental illness. But stuck in, no job. Family has money, so I survive. I need to get a life.
I know how you feel. I'm also disabled. I sat in my house for years with nothing to do. I kept trying to figure out ways to be active but it never panned out. My dog was the only reason I didn't do myself in. But now he's dead, I sold my house and my father stole my money so I have nowhere to live, I tried to move across the country to be with my fiance of 7 years and she kicked me out after a month and her getting the rest of my money, and I'm in constant pain. So things can get much worse. If you're able to in suggest traveling. Even if it's small trips locally at first. Also a big problem for me has always been not being able to be productive so there's no meaning to anything. So if you can work on things, build things, or help others in some way that will make you feel accomplished and give your life meaning.
@franklin9000 yea I'd love to travel but it's expensive idk what I want anymore yet I don't want to waste life either
Traveling is really cheap if you do it right. When I travel I go by motorcycle and bring a tent, sleeping bag, and air mattress. If you wanted to travel to other countries you can travel to poor countries where the cost of living is much cheaper. The plane tickets are like a grand, but if you stay for a couple months the low cost of living makes up for it.
If you have any hobbies or skills where you can be productive and you make yourself do it regularly it gives meaning to your life. I know it's hard to do, especially at first, but it helps.
If you don't mind me asking how old are you and what's your disability? I just joined this so idk if you can, but if you want to message me and talk you're welcome to. I have no one to talk to, am really down, and really lonely. So it would help me too.
@determinedZebra820 Really sorry to hear you are struggling! It sounds like you are doing all that you can to work on bettering yourself and your situation. I would recommend thinking about and doing one small thing per day that may improve your mood (even slightly). These little moments will add up!
@DrMelissaB trying to figure out what may have led to my current feelings but so much has happened up to now maybe I was never happy
